Tears, Under Makeup

-Clinging to the past
We all have our past, whether good or bad we always has something from our previous life and what happened in the past doesn’t dictate what happens to our future.

Your past will never be a hindrance to your future unless you permit it. What happened yesterday belongs to the yesterday, just like a day that never repeats itself, you need to stop labeling yourself to what has passed, let it rest in the past and stop scratching the healed wounds.
At times people look back in trying to analyze themselves; yes it’s ok to do so but the mistake that we always make is to continuously focus on dreadful things we did and our failures. Now it’s time to take a step, faintly highlight your negative and bad past experiences and boldly highlight your strong points and dwell on them. Let your past be your mentor to the future, correct your mistakes

ACCEPT YOUR UNIQUENESS
Every human being was created and clothed with their own glory, sent forth for a unique and tailor-made purpose. You are yourself, and forever you shall remain you, don’t ever be deceived into trying to be someone else. Know who you are and your worth because if you don’t know your true identity it’s easy to be lost in the crowd and thus loosing your way. If you fail to understand the power of your uniqueness you will never achieve as you will be running after people and deteriorating your chances of success. Do what you where designed by God to be, and let your focus be on your strengths, do what you excel at, not what your friend or your parent does.
Present yourself in an original manner, do all the things that make you feel good, pursue your passion and it will make you feel good and flourish in all you do. Following your passion and living your original life gives abundant peace, but when faking, your most focus will be on covering your trails and trying by all means to conceal the truth from people and your peace will be stolen forever. You are God’s work of art, designed in an exceptional way, the nuts and bolts used to bind and connect you, where only tailor-made for only you because of the special position you occupy in God’s heart. God is the originator, and all His creations are unique, but the devil is a impersonator, all he does is copy what God has made and use it to lie to us.

In life you need to choose wisely:

I choose my CROWN, not the CROWD!!

At some point, you need to chew your ego and swallow your pride...You won't gain a kilo yazi :-)

Have you ever noticed that some people would rather stop speaking to you instead of apologizing for their mistakes? Look, when you have done something wrong, apologize and rectify it. No one in history has choked to death from swallowing their pride.
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We are mostly the products of how we were brought up..
Parents mostly don't know that our future lies or lied on their hands, tongue and actions- we are what they have made us to be most unintentionally- Pardon me parents(am 1 too) but gotta say this one;
NB:Parents i mean not only biological ones, but all elderly people, our guardians, teachers etc

- We tend to spoil our kids too much- thus sowing a seed of laziness and dependency.. You have to teach your children, especially a girl child the importance of standing up for themselves, trusting their guts and insticts and believing on themsleves instead of waiting for a men's approval.
- Choose words when talking to your child, it doesn't matter whether you angry or not because "Lefoko gale bole", and percies sharper dan a sword so stop condemning your children, telling them they are loosers, they will never achieve anything in life, " O goditse raago wa sennene", you are this and that- you totally crash ur child's self esteem, they tend to grow up believing that they are loosers- those who try to achieve most become so aggressive... I know because i have been there ( read more on my upcoming book- "The waves are, but for a moment")
-Stop fighting on ur children's presence cz thats a loud message to them that " ABUSE IS ALLOWED", Your bedroom is where you suppose to settle all your differences before you go to sleep not on the kitchen or dinning room"

TBC

Good morning, it's a new dawn!!!

Stop yawning- rise up, stretch out your hands like a prince/princess that you are, wear your crown with pride and face yr day with a smile..

Give thanks to the Almighty- Throne King for another day, for the breath of life!!!

19 ways to fix your wife - when she is falling apart!
Your wife can be dying in silence while still performing her wifely duties. You will need to know her to know when she needs to be fixed.
When a woman is always moody, cries a lot, yells on Children, can easily sleep or sleeps a lot, she may be battling with something you are not careful enough to see.
A real man will not allow his wife to fall apart without fixing her and making her better and happy.
If you discover your wife is falling apart, watch out and fix the following:
1. CHECK IF YOU ARE THE PROBLEM
You might be her problem, but out of her respect and love for you, she may not tell you. Ask, let her talk sincerely
2. BE AWARE OF HER RESPONSIBILITIES
Get to know how her work load is killing her. Regardless of whether she stays at home or goes to work, do you know what she does all day? If you don’t, ask her. Her to-do list is probably overflowing with tasks that far outweighs her time and energy.
3. BE APPRECIATIVE
Be mindful of her needs and appreciative of her sacrifices. The work a woman does at home can be too common that nobody will appreciate her for them, this can be killing her. Appreciate your wife
4. GET INVOLVED BEFORE SHE BURNS OUT
Don’t just be appreciative, but get involved. The best time to begin helping your wife is now. Don’t wait until she breaks down to offer a helping hand.
5. GET MACHINE
Get all the machine needed for her work at home (the ones you can afford). Dish washer, gas cooker, refrigerator, oven, laundering Machine, etc
6. BE AN ACTIVE PARTICIPANT
Be totally involved at home, stop delegating parenting and family life. Don’t be a “visiting Professor”, be an active partner in this business of your life. It takes two to parent. It takes two to make a marriage work. It takes two to run a household. Be fully involved in every aspect of your family life.
7. HOLD HER
Hold her like a lover and a friend. Place your hands on her shoulder, her laps, hold her hands, just hold her and let her feel you.
8. JUST LISTEN
Men are known to be good talker but very bad listeners. At times what your wife needs is for you to just listen. Do not interrupt, let her unburden, let her talk. Sometimes the best way for a woman to reset is by getting all of her thoughts out. Let your wife talk through her feelings and problems. Show empathy. Listen carefully. Ask questions. Be fully engaged in the conversation.
9. BE A PARTNER NOT A TEACHER
Most men do fall into the “Teaching trap” when they are supposed to be a partner, showing love and consideration. Do not blame, just be there for her. Just listen. That’s all you need to do. And if she wants you to offer solutions, she’ll ask for them
10. GIVE HER HOPE
No matter what happens, don’t ever raise up your hands in surrender. Giving up, crying or weeping will hurt your wife more. Encourage her. Let her know what you love about her. Help her see the good in any situation. Avoid being critical or negative. When she has hit the rock bottom, be the man who lifts her up, and brings light and hope back into her life.
11. BE SENSITIVE
Get to know her mood, get to know her needs, get to know what is needed to be done at home and do them without prompting.
Learn the art of looking around the house and finding things that need to get done. Are there dishes in the sink? What is broken that needs to be fixed? Don’t wait to be asked. Just do it!
12. PRAY FOR HER
Take your time off to pray for her, hand her over to her maker who knows the deepest need of her heart . Let God fix her, you can’t do it.
Let God know what you appreciate about her. Ask for his help. Ask him to tell you how you can be a better spouse to her. Ask him to comfort her and help her see herself as He see her.
13. PRAY WITH HER
Don’t just pray for your wife, find time to pray with her, hug her as you pray together, hold her hands, just talk to your maker together.
14. ASK HER HOW YOU CAN BE OF HELP
Your wife knows what you can do to help her reset, so just ask her. She will open up to you, it may not be what you think, so don’t speculate, ask, She’ll appreciate it more than you will ever know.
15. HELP AROUND THE HOUSE
Give a helping hand around the house. Give her a kitchen holiday for some days, do all the cooking or hire somebody to do it for you. Let her just sit, eat and rest, this may be all she needs,
16. TAKE HER OUT
Take her out, eat out, go to the cinema, go to wherever she will love to go, not where you want, just follow her.
17. ALLOW HER TO CRY, IF SHE MUST
“Stop crying, are you a baby?, will you be crying about this little thing?” This is what most n**e earning husband will do when their wives cry, what an insensitive word. If she feels like crying, hold her to yourself and let her do the crying while you pat her on the back. It’s a great way to fix the problem.
18. LET HER GO ON HOLIDAY
Allow her to go on holiday all alone to herself, this can fix the problem as she returns with greater energy.
19. CELEBRATE HER
Let your wife be celebrated. Celebrate her in secret and in public. Talk about her beauty, motherhood, wife hood, support, thoughtfulness. This will make her day.
Let the men read and apply....
Let the women read,Share and forward to the men..

How long are you gonna hold unto that loss that happened 10yrs ago, how long are you gonna keep on hoping that your abuser will change, how long are you willing to be the laughing stock of pple around you??

Remember holding unto the past hinders ur future, holding unto sm1 who doesnt appreciate u creates no room for the perfect candidate for ur happiness...

Take a step out & be happy!!!

Have you ever wondered why you fail to see the big picture??

It is because we fuel our energy to wrong directions, we focus more on the negative and temporary things instead of having a sharper eye, our sight is shortened by negativity around us.

I have been wondering why it seems that mostly in relos ladies are the most frustrated ones💔💔 yes we are heartbroken!

My findings:
- We tend to do things we were not created to do: Men were originally created to love, honor and protect their wives whilst the ladies are to SUBMIT to the love of their husbands but women of nowadays spent half of our times trying to LOVE and end up failing to submit. Lets stop trying to exchange our duties with men cz honestly men cant and willl nevr submit to a woman cz dats creation, smthn beyond their control as much as women cant do both theirs and men's duties- go ya gore re imela and we end up frustrated.
NB: There is a huge difference between SUBMISSION & DESPERATION- Dont ever let sm1 abuse u or use u in the name of submission, dnt be too desperate to be loved and acknowledged in any kind of a relo/friendship. You submit to love not abuse and thus u wil be at peace.

2-I wonder whr we ladies honestly get the guts to go around searching for men- in the name of "Mr Right search"?.. The right man will find u, so dnt go around looking for one bcz thats when u will meet the devourers who will not only hurt you bt will destroy u nd u end up not even recognising who u really are..
" He who finds a wife, findeth a good thing"- not he who finds a husband, ladies lets take a chill pill and wait for God to bring the compatible individuals in our lives.

3- to be continued!!

Have a blessed Sunday and remember be true to yourself, remove that mask so that you are worthy to stand and make a plea before the throne of the most High God and get answers!!
He is a faithful God afterall.

Happy 2018 to you all!!

The year of do nothing and get nothing. We all need to learn that you reap what you sow, so dont expect a miracle 2018, you wont reap until you have sown, cultivated ur field.

Dont be decieved, SWEET comes after SWEAT even in the dictionary!!