Spouse talk237

As a parent, if your son gets a young girl pregnant, and she is dismissed from school. Would you pull your son too out of school because he shouldn't be achieving his education, while this girl has dropped out to nurture the baby?

HER WOMB WAS REMOVED DURING CHILD BIRTH TO SAFE HER LIFE BUT THAT IS NOT THE END!

I had serious complications while giving birth to our daughter and the Doctors urgently removed my womb to safe my life. So after 4months into Post Partum, my husband made a statement to me that, 'he dosn't know how he will end up in this life just with one child and no male child. I almost fainted hearing these words come out of his mouth. I felt like this was such a selfish, insensitive, and inconsiderate thing to say to me, regarding how I almost lost my life while giving birth to our daughter.
We were married and we had vowed to be together in good and bad times. I felt like my womb removal was the storm that had hit our marriage and I needed my husband to stand together with me in this storm. One day, my husband told me they were going to visit their colleague who had welcomed a baby boy. He kept saying that he envies this colleague and that a baby boy is everything a man could wish for. At that point I knew this was very serious. So I proposed that we should adopt a baby boy from an orphanage. But my husband dismissed the idea. He said he is talking about his own fleshand blood. He also told me never to voice anything about adoption to him again. At this point I called my mother in- law to tell her what was happening. She told me that there's nothing wrong for a man to yearn for a male child. She also said she thought I was calling her for something serious. I wasn't satisfied with her response. I called my elderly sister in-law and complaint to her. She told me she doesn't like putting her mouth into couple's issues.
At this point I knew I was standing alone. I approached my husband on how I almost lost my life trying to have our daughter and how the things he keeps saying are affecting me psychologically. I reminded him of our vows. My husband told me that those vows are one thing and reality is another. And that as a man, he is more psychologically disturbed to know that he may end up without a male child. It was so frustrating. My husband and I started living like strangers in the same house. One day, we went to my husband's village for a memorial service. I saw a pregnant woman moving foot to foot with my mother in-law and my sisters inlaws. She was entering all the rooms and highly participating in the cooking. Out of curiosity I asked my mother in-law who she was?
She said, I should ask my husband. When I asked my husband he said we will talk about it later. I asked my sisters in-laws, they said I should ask my husband. When I persuaded my husband, he agreed that he is responsible for her pregnancy. I mmediately went back to town in frustration. When my husband came back, we had a big fight over the issue. My husband told me that I should learn how to live with this new reality. My blood pressure kept spiking and one day, I passed out on the chair alone. It was my neighbor who noticed it and rushed me to the hospital. When I came back from the hospital, my husband wasn't even remorseful. He was never home, always busy. I knew straight away that I couldn't be in that house all by myself while suffering with high blood pressure spikes. I couldn't eat, I was drained, and each time I tried to talk to my husband, he just told me to deal with the reality. One day I decided to leave. I didn't want to kpai young and alone in that house. Because I was overthinking and growing pale. Moreso, my husband was so inconsiderate of my feelings. I also didn't want to subject my daughter to not having a mother. So I left.
When my husband realized that I gone, he called to find out where I had gone to. I told him to my father's house. He said 'ok' and dropped the call. He never called me again. One day, my mother in-law called me and I hesitated picking. She kept calling and then I picked. This woman told me she was calling to tell me to release that lady so that she can have a successful delivery.That she's having a very difficult birth time and they know am probably the one tying her down because am angry with her pregnancy.
If I didnt faint that day ehh. I cried and lamented. The pain of betrayal was too much and now a false accusation over me. I was so depressed but my family really stood by me.
I finally learned that the girl had given birth to a male child. I was so heart broken. After some months, my Father called my husband to find out what was wrong that since I left his house, he didn't even call, nor come over to have a sit down conversation with him?. He categorically told my Father he never sent me out of the house. And that if I like to come back or not, that depended on me. With his response, my father vowed that I would never step my feet in that house again. My Father said so because he had seen me broke down and hospitalized back to back at the hospital because of BP spikes. My husband and his family really broke my heart.The kind of hatred I have for them cannot be described.
My question is that, was I supposed to stay back and endure all this pain?
I felt like I couldn't have made it alive if I kept staying in that house where my husband didn't even care. They say leave if it is emotionally draining. I left, and am still being blamed for leaving. Like what was I supposed to do?

My husband was caught smooking at his job and he was sacked. Since then I have been the one shouldering all the responsibilities at home. I took a loan and with the support of my dad, we were able to build a house for ourselves, because renting was becoming unbearable. Just as we were about to move into our new house, my Mother in-law called my husband and told him that we shouldn't move in yet. That we should give her like two months to wrap up with her farm work, then she will come over for the house opening. She also added that, strong demons were fighting my husband, reason why he keeps loosing his jobs. She added that this demon is not happy that we have built a house and she doesn't want my husband to carry that demon into that new house. She said she will come along with strong pastors to do deliverance before we enter the house.
I didn't feel comfortable with Mama's suggestion, because my husband in addition to his smooking, he has a very strong sense of pride. He never takes to orders at work, reason why he keeps loosing his jobs. When my husband agreed to his mom's idea, I pleaded with him to persuade his mom for us to move in because it didn't make sense that I will have to pay 2months rents again, when we have an empty house wasting. My husband refused saying that he cannot disobey his mother. Our conversation suddenly turned in to and argument. Out of nowhere, my husband told me that I was trying to over talk him because I am the one who spent my money to build the house, and that he is sure that my "useless father" is influencing me from the back to disrespect him. I couldn't take it, after all the sacrifices my father had made for us, helping us to pay rents sometimes and by supporting us with 4 million Frs to build our own house. I was mad and I asked my husband that, 'since his own father was a responsible man, why is their family still squatting in their Grand fathers compound. A house that looks like it will one day fall ontop of his mom and siblings?
The next thing I got was a punch on my eye. Before I knew it, my husband jacked me to the wall squeezing my neck, my children were the ones who saved me by crying and holding their father. He flung me on the floor and walked out. It's been 3 days now, I don't know my husbands whereabout. Am confused. I don't know if I should move in to our new house irrespective or I should call him and apologize?

True Story.
I didn't want to post this here, but on a second thought I decided to post it and to also say that 'this is a testament that God is good'
My uncle felt the urge to p*e at night. He woke up, went outside and eased himself. Then he got back in to the house and something told him to check up on his children. As he entered their room and switched on the light, he saw this long snake crawling down the wall in to his children's bed. He shouted and his children woke up. It was a struggle but they finally killed this wicked crawling creature.
Now I have 3 questions to ask.
Why did my uncle feel the urge to p*e at that particular time of the night?
What was telling my uncle to just check up on his children?
What if he had ignored this urge?
Why was the snake crawling directly in to the children's bed?
Like ehhh, I just have a million and one questions to ask.
This uncle of mine had once put his feet into a shoe that had a snake. He was very fortunate that the snake didn't strike him.
Now this brings me to ask you all these questions
What was that thing that your intuition told you to do, you dismissed it and later on regretted?
What was that thing that your intuition told you, you acted promptly and thanked God?
Uncle Michael, God got your back.!