Living with BPD

Unfortunately I have been absent for a while due to a personal issue, I hope everyone is doing ok and I apologise for disappearing on you all. I have noticed there has been a few posts I have declined from a member that have some nasty content. I will not name the member but what I will say is that everyone is here for kindness and support and I will not allow that content to be posted here. If anyone continues to try to post things unsuitable they will be banned and reported. This is a safe page for people who share an issue to connect and find advice and friendship.

Im struggling with how hard it is for people to accept it is not just from trauma. Yours maybe from trauma but not everyone's is. Don't assume yours is the only type there is its not! Its like saying there's only one kind of depression or cancer its ridiculous.

Many believe think BPD is trauma based only, this is not the case, i was born with mine.

Living with BPD is difficult, whether you are the person with it or you have a loved one suffering with it. People who do not suffer with it but have loved ones that do are as scared and confused as we are. They do not understand our behaviours and attitudes when we split or are triggered.
These people can walk away when it gets tough but they dont. They stay and support us and love us whether or not we believe that. so every now and then on our brighter days let them know you appreciate them. A little thing like that can make it worth the hurt and pain we can cause.

Pleased to meet you!!
I have been living with BPD for 30 yrs. I was diagnosed at 15 and at that time it was relatively unknown so neither my mum or myself were offered any help or advice. I found ways eventually to manage my triggers and that helped for a long time. Recently I have been diagnosed with Lupus and this has hit hard. I have been crashing down and searching for the support I have needed for a lifetime. I joined several groups on here some of which I found to be full of shaming and trigger posts from people who do not understand. So I thought I would try to do a better job of creating what is a safe space to help and support each other.