Massage Mellifera Clinical Massage East Grinstead

This is a great article. Small things that you do and integrate into everyday life are the best way to take charge of how you feel. The benefits then cascade into physical, emotional and mental wellbeing.

The internet is full of warnings about our ‘dysregulated’ nervous systems. But, experts say, you don’t need to reset yours – you might just need to make it more flexible. Here’s how (and no, you don’t need an acupressure mat)

🌸I am away from work until the 2nd September. Please be patient as I am taking extra long to reply to messages 🌸

Finally there is some light being shed on the nightmares taking place on maternity wards! I don’t think the suggested solutions are in line with what is needed- care, listening, safety, time, support. But it’s a start. Working with c- sections, I have heard too many traumatic stories. The NHS maternity services are not meeting even the lowest standards for too many mothers in their most vulnerable moment.

'We can't continue like this': Inquiry demands NHS maternity overhaul An independent inquiry has found "unacceptable racism and discrimination" is affecting patient safety.

Here is a simple but effective (non massage 😊) recommendation for hot and sweaty days:

🌱 For keeping cool from the inside, make a herbal tea with a handful of mint and sage leaves. Infuse for 10 minutes or longer, then strain. Let it cool down to room temperature and enjoy! 🌿

As a ScarWork therapist I hear many of these stories- and far worse! I am glad there is finally some media attention on the treatment of women giving birth. I hope it will be extended to the treatment of women in medical care generally.

Women feel coerced during maternity care in England, charity says Exclusive: Birthrights report says women are being told they are ‘not allowed’ and are being denied genuine choice

Scarwork is the gentle and effective way to reduce or eliminate discomfort caused by scars.

It can help with
visual appearance of the scar
numbness
overhanging c-section shelf
cording
tightness
restriction and internal adhesions
endometriosis
pain
disturbed bowel function caused by tethering
lumpiness
pain
discomfort
reduced range of motion
altered sensation
the feeling of disconnection
natural birth after a c-section

…and many other issues often left after surgery or injury.

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“EDS clients live in a world where their structure is always negotiating itself.”

♥️ beautifully written. Thank you The Body Artisans

The Tender Architecture of EDS

To work with an Ehlers–Danlos body is to touch a story written in collagen. The architecture itself is different. The fibers that most bodies rely on for stability, recoil, and support are softer, looser, and more fragile. This difference does not make the EDS body weak. It makes it exquisitely sensitive, incredibly adaptive, and deeply deserving of informed, compassionate care.

EDS affects far more than joints. Collagen is everywhere: in fascia, ligaments, blood vessels, organs, the gut lining, the diaphragm, and the skin. When collagen’s structure is altered, the entire body feels it. This is why an EDS client may present with pain in one session, digestive issues in the next, dizziness another day, and profound fatigue the day after. It is not randomness. It is connective tissue telling its story.

Digestion is one of the most profound places this story unfolds. The digestive tract relies on connective tissue to create tension, movement, and motility. When collagen is lax, the gut does not move food efficiently. The valves can struggle. The stomach may empty slowly. The small intestine may experience dysmotility. Constipation, bloating, nausea, and abdominal pain are not separate issues. They are a continuation of the same systemic laxity. Many EDS clients live with IBS-like symptoms not because of food alone but because the structural scaffolding of digestion is compromised. Gentle visceral work, vagal support, abdominal myofascial release, and diaphragm softening can be life-changing simply because they help the gut remember its rhythm.

Dysautonomia and POTS weave into this picture as well. Blood vessels in EDS are often more compliant and less able to maintain tone. When collagen is too elastic, the vascular system cannot regulate pressure effectively. Blood pools in the extremities. The heart races to compensate. Clients may feel dizzy, lightheaded, anxious, or exhausted simply from standing. This is not an emotional issue. It is biomechanics, it is physics, it is physiology.

When we work with an EDS client experiencing dysautonomia, our touch becomes a conversation with their autonomic nervous system. Craniosacral work, diaphragm release, occipital decompression, and gentle lymphatic-style flow help regulate vagal tone and reduce sympathetic overload. Slow transitions, side-lying positions, and elevated legs can help them stay grounded and safe on the table.

Strengthening is essential, but it must be intentional. For an EDS body, stability cannot come from ligaments. It must come from the muscles. The best form of strengthening is low-load, high-control training that teaches the body to stabilize without overstretching. Pilates, slow weight training, isometric holds, breath-based core engagement, and functional movement patterns help build the scaffolding that collagen cannot provide. This is not about pushing harder. It is about precision, control, and gradual resilience. When EDS clients strengthen wisely, their pain decreases, their joints feel more supported, and their nervous system becomes less reactive because it finally feels safe.

On the massage table, our role is to support the systems that work the hardest. Gentle myofascial spreading helps improve proprioception. Soft, rhythmical compression gives joints a sense of boundary. Slow visceral work eases digestive strain. Craniosacral stillness calms the dysautonomia that often hums beneath the surface. Lymphatic-style work supports vascular pooling and inflammation. Diaphragm release helps regulate breath, posture, and vagal tone. Everything we do is about reducing the body’s need to fight for stability.

EDS clients live in a world where their structure is always negotiating itself. Many have been misunderstood, dismissed, or told their symptoms are exaggerated. When your hands meet their body with knowledge, humility, and respect, something shifts. They no longer feel like they have to justify their experience. Their nervous system softens. Their breath deepens. Their joints stop bracing. For a moment, the world inside them becomes quieter.

Caring for an EDS body is not about correction. It is about companionship. It is about meeting a connective tissue story with skill, softness, and science. It is about helping someone feel at home in a body that has rarely felt simple. And when we do this well, our clients rediscover not just relief, but a sense of empowerment, clarity, and belonging that they carry long after they leave our table.