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Back in senior high school I had a very nice girlfriend though. We loved each other dearly. Everything in our relationship was okay until we got to our final year. I would say her school mum was the reason why we even started dating in the first place. In our final year, my relationship with my girlfriend started to deteriorate as time passed and a stronger connection was being built with her school mum. We had to go for an inter school competition at Mawuli senior high. You see I was on the basketball team so you know the girl weren’t really a problem. Days before my school took off for the competition my girlfriend feel sick so she had to go home. Fortunately her school mum had made plans on going as a fan to Mawuli. As we got there , the connection between the school mum and I grew stronger. She even told me if was able to score 12 points in a game she has a surprise for me. After I was able to hit the margin she set in our first game, she told I should hurry up and get my bath but she will be waiting at the school’s entrance for me. On meeting her at the entrance we took a walk outside the school. We were having a nice stroll outside though,you see I lived in Dansoman all my life so the HO environment and scenery was really nice. She asked me if I had feelings for her and I replied yes but we can’t be together. The girl was rich so she had a paid for a guest house for two days. She invited me in and and we started having a very deep conversation though. She started talking about how her old ex treated her and saying it’s being a while she had any intimacy with a guy. She said she been into me but my eyes were set on her school daughter. She kept on saying she’s heard that tall basketball player have a very big di**, so she would to see if the rumors were true. I hesitated at first and I told her anything that happens here no feelings attached but I can’t leave my girlfriend though we are going through hard times. So I fu**ed her, ngl she was really good at it even better than girl. The same thing happened on the next day. On returning to the school after the intersco my relationship with my girlfriend went from bad to worse. One or two times during weekends her school and I would make out in a guest house in town. Sooner my girlfriend and I broke up. After completing the school her school mum was suggesting on us dating but I wasn’t okay with it because how can i break up with my girlfriend and go for her school mum. For one or two reasons we started dating. She did everything I asked for even giving me a weekly allowance. I met one of her friends at her birthday party and we had a nice conversation. Her started to find me interesting and we went had a meetup few times. She said she had a boyfriend but my girlfriend told her was really good in bed so she want to try it out with me. What can I say, she was really hot. I bleeped her like three day straight. My ex back in school just contacted me saying she knew how things went bad between us and she was willing for us to get back. I really love my ex out of all of them but the other girls make me feel more wanted. I don’t know what to do now.

Im (28m) and my girlfriend (25f) have been dating for roughly a year. While talking about past relationships/experiences, she told me that she slept with her boss 2 years ago. Even though we weren’t together at the time it really bothers me that she did that. Asides from finding it disgusting it also makes me question her morals since her boss is married with children. We talked about it and she feels very embarrassed and shameful about it. I don’t really know what to do right now. It bothers me a lot but at the same time i know it was a while ago and a i really do like this girl. Is it worth staying and trying to get over it or is it ruined?

For background, I actually enjoy having s*x and I like physical touch. It’s one of my love languages. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now and we are long distance so we each other once or twice a month for a few days each. I’m not feeling satisfied whenever we have s*x and I think there are two main reasons:

1. ⁠⁠He doesn’t like kissing. I really like kissing and it’s one of the things that turns me on the most. Unfortunately my bf doesn’t like mixing saliva and has told me he doesn’t like kissing. (I told him previously that I like kissing and it turns me on but he said he didn’t want to do it , so we have never fully made out)
2. ⁠⁠Unfortunately his size. (Btw I’m a strong believer in size doesn’t matter, it’s all about technique.) In this case, idk if it’s my body that’s different or maybe it’s our position but I just can’t feel it that much… I have had experience before and I had a good time with someone close to his size, so idk why it’s so different. (I don’t want to offend anyone but we are from a country with a small average p***s size, especially for older men)

When we have s*x, I feel like I’m being dishonest/acting. I’m just unsatisfied and I try to avoid having s*x now bc it’s just bothersome. I just do it bc like pleasuring him.

He also tried using his mouth and even though I tried to tell him the way I like it, it’s still too rough (almost painful) and I don’t enjoy it either. I tell him when he’s being rough/too much but I think he thinks I enjoy it?? But I don’t 😭

Is there a way we could spice things up or try something new? Maybe a position recommendation or using a toy…? How can I even bring this up to him? I love my bf so much, I don’t want to offend him.

Sorry this isn’t a thought bh a problem I am facing

So I have this girl and I followed her trying to get her back from shs 2 ,,she finally accepted after I completed shs ,,she did so many things to hurt ,she even faked accepting my proposal and later I confronted her and she said she was sorry and she didn’t want to hurt me.
She later accepted after shs and I went to uni,,her actions weren’t mirroring her words bh I took it slightly,things went far and she said she wanted a breakup because she isn’t sure her parents will accept us because I am a Christian and she is a Muslim.
We broke up for about months and she came to visit me once in school when she vacated and said all the guys she has met not being like me ,so I asked her out again because I still loved her tho it wasn’t like at first and she keeps on saying how she want us to work out and want this thing bh acts like she doesn’t love me .
Airing my texts and going all day without a call or a text.
Please I need advice what should I do ,,is she real or there is something
Please help post for me
Thank you

Been with this girl throughout SHS! We started off as friends. Accepted my proposal after shs Charlie things started moving well, nice vibes, relationship goals den things lol.
Anytime we try to do these touches den things, ebe problem ma guy, we fi dey kiss den shoddy flow you some church things den stuff, hug saf be problem mana, but she fi hug different guy normal den things, na the love dey so a no really dey mind, Charlie man was ready to go to the ends of the world for love asay! Ff, text messages saf, delayed responses den stuff, you could feel practical distancing, girl could make time to go and meet her friends buh will always find excuses when I try to meet up, not like I'm stingy or sth, honestly all the girls I've dated complain I give too much, like even if I have 1 cedi I wouldn't mind giving it out for love just like that. You know I'm a baller too so most of my guys from my court are in different universities, particularly the one she goes to hang out with her other friends, male, female, so adey always get updates on her visits which she's unaware, tried approaching but it brought a lot of issues den things, hm! Out of nowhere shoddy say she dey want space, fine, love dey so no p, I gave her space thinking s3 she'll come back, then quite recently she said she wants a breakup that she doesn't wanna hurt me den some things, I honestly want to know from y'all what does this mean? It kinda looks sketchy to me though, is she meeting someone else? Has she found a different person? Should I move on? Cuz I really love her mad fam I'll be in the comments if there's going to be any. I really want to know what to do

I overheard my girlfriend on FaceTime with her friends while I was cooking. She didn’t know I could hear. She was talking about a coworker describing how driven, calm, and grounded he is, how he listens without judgment, and that she feels safe around him.

Thing is that’s how she used to describe me.

She ended the call saying, I wish my boyfriend communicated like that. I felt my stomach drop. Later that night she hugged me and said she’s proud of me for getting a promotion and I couldn’t even feel happy. It felt empty.

Do I bring this up? I don’t want to accuse her of cheating or make her defensive, but I can’t stop thinking about how her tone changed when she spoke about him.

A friend disagreed with me for wanting to marry a virgin over ladies with more than three body counts. I still stand my ground because how will lady a be going for MMF and later want me to pay bride price for something others have over used and dumped.
Want do you think fam?