The Subtle Statement

Keeping it cozy while the town glows. 🎀 Coeur d’Alene, you are truly one of a kind. ❄️😍💖

Bringing the gold standard to the Thanksgiving table this year. 🍂🧡✨ There’s just something about these warm autumn tones that makes my heart so happy.

Now that Fall is wrapping up, I’m ready to welcome the holiday spirit! 🎄 I need your help picking a theme for the upcoming season. What do you think would be adorable? Maybe “Icy Winter Wonderland” ❄️ or “Classic Christmas Red”? ❤️ Let me know!

The slow reveal is the most satisfying kind of plot twist. Patiently adding my own luminescence to the narrative, one perfectly structured detail at a time. What’s one thing you’re learning to love about yourself today?

At times, normal conversations with your friends can really turn into a mind blowing one, may it be through chat/ text/ call or when you are with them. You can never deny the fact that at some point, you get to discuss about certain interesting question that's thrown at you, out of nowhere, that you can't let go of not until you're able to reach that feeling of satisfaction when you know you where able to truly express your sentiments about the topic mentioned.

RELATIONSHIP — CHEATING, an issue which is never new to us all. Just like I always say, disclaimer, I am no expert when it comes to relationships and what not. Also, points posted might most likely be just a HIT or MISS but what- e- vuuuhhhh! Moving on...

So, my friend's trivia question was, " If you broke up with your ex for let's say, a long time ( 3 years for example), then wants to be back with you BUT... there's that big BUT right there.. the reason of the breakup was HE CHEATED ON YOU WITH HIS EX GF AND GOT HER PREGNANT, would you welcome him back or let him go?!"

Without any second thoughts, my answer was "NO!" (all caps para intense) Mu explain pa ko?! Okay, mu explain nalang ko. I'll just emphasize 2 strong points.

First of all, if a man GENUINELY loves you, never will the word cheating cross his mind cause he is so busy working on your relationship. He's interested in getting to know you each day and he's excited to discover the whole you (vice versa). And although we all have imperfections (in all aspects) and shortcomings, using it as an excuse while being in a relationship is not a valid reason for him to cheat on you. Yes, nobody's perfect and people commit mistakes, but cheating is not just a mistake, it's a choice. Men with STRONG PRINCIPLES in life would never do such thing. They always value the very most precious things they have in life and if your man loves you, then you should be one of those he treasures. If he does otherwise, well, you're the judge to that.

Second, that the " I believe that if you broke apart and come back together again, you're meant to be.." saying, never applies to everything. You have to always consider those red flags that's on your list. WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND. If you caught him cheating on you once, what makes you think he won't do that again? IT IS ALREADY IN THEIR SYSTEM! They chose to do it. Before you two met, he already was a cheater. Do you think he never cheated on his ex before you?? The reason why they broke up might be just the same reason why you two broke up. Save yourself!
GIRL,WAKE UP!!!! Why on earth would you want to be back with someone who already broke your trust and hurt you so much?? Not only will this kind of men destroy your whole being, they will literally make your life miserable. And this is where self-pity, insecurities, and other negativity starts.
KNOW YOUR WORTH! You are a diamond! Not some cheap ass plated jewelry. If he prefers cheap items, then so be it. Remember, "CHEAP ITEMS ATTRACTS MOST BUYERS". You are rare, and unique. You deserve to be with a man who has the same strong values and standards as you.

On a sidenote, please, if you're the type who can't literally just stick to one, might as well be straight forward about it to the other party. So you won't hurt anyone. And so they will be able to finally meet the ones that is for them. I don't know who else is with me on this but just sharing my point of view. That's all. And I, thank you!

P.s.
Some women, cheat too. Not just men. Kbye.

In-A-Relationship Anxiety

Being in a relationship can give you a complex set of feelings towards things and situations. And such feelings are of different kinds too. The toxic feeling in a relationship is one of them --which alot of us is mostly familiar with. I'll try to make this short and brief as much as I can. I dont know how to specifically express everything to stress out the main points but.. here it goes.

When one has been through a toxic relationship from the past, things can be at times challenging with them.. if you're gf/bf has been through one before, know that they have (1) Trust issues — being lied to/cheated on hurts, a load lot. Which will lead them to feel insecure, resulting to them protecting low self esteem. They have self doubts and they'd feel like they're not good enough for someone. Heartbreaking as it already is, it's one of the toughest things they are trying to overcome.
May you be patient and genuine enough to make time, to reassure and remind them of their worth, that they are loved, they are enough, and you are proud of him/her. (2)Trauma, they hate it when flashbacks keep popping out of nowhere in their thoughts from the things that hurt them the most. Those that they wish they've buried for the rest of their lives. Most of the time, they will never tell you — and that's painful.
May you never get tired of giving kisses, cuddles and snuggles everytime you are next to them. Basically, just treat them right. (3) They overthink ,(so) sensitive, and (or) has the need to say sorry everytime. A common result from trauma, their system will automatically think that if something is wrong or when you have misunderstandings, it's always their fault.
They cry or walk away out of fear that they'll reexperience the amount of pain they have felt from the past. To them, they would choose that over hearing things that would make them feel worse.
May you be able to set aside pride, reach out and comfort them, if you are in the middle of something — stop! Stop at what you are doing ,if you can, and talk to them.

Being in their shoes is harder than you think. Most of the time, they get misunderstood. I'm not a relationship expert and I'm not saying this applies to everybody, but just want to share what one would mostly encounter or feel when he/she has been from a toxic realtionship. I experienced it too and I understand, a couple of years had already passed by but I'm still struggling to overcome some of it. It takes time to heal -- it takes a serious, dedicated, loving partner to wash away all the insecurities and fears toxic relationships gave them. And I hope you will be that kind of partner to them.

(If you've read this much, a round of applause for your not so short attention span)

- Kaye 💋

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Anything but predictable.
"Never lose the glam ladies.." 😘


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Buttom: Just Vogue
Shoes: Sofab
Bag: my ever favorite Coach bag

Thank you God for giving me another year of life.
Thank you for all the people who remembered my special day by sending me presents and good wishes. From my family, relatives, best friends, and good friends I just met.
Thank you for the gift of genuine friendship from the people who I never thought would stick with me through thick and thin and would never have second thoughts of spending quality time with me.

Thank you for all the experiences of this past year;
For times of success which will always be happy memories and how it reminded me of how mighty and big YOU are, for times of failure which reminded me of my own weakness and of my need for you, for the times of joy when the sun was shining, for times of sadness which drove me to you.

May YOU help me in the days ahead to make this the best year yet, and through it to bring good credit to myself , happiness and pride to my loved ones, and joy to you.

Fri - nally! 💫