Better Half Chronicles

Erika Kirk captured the very essence of marriage: There is blessing when God’s design is followed:

God → Husband → Wife → Children

Husbands: Lead to serve, just as Christ leads the Church. Be the protector, provider, and spiritual shepherd of your home. Be someone worth following.

Wives: Be your husband’s helper. Encourage, affirm, and walk alongside him.

Have children. Parenting is not just a role. it is your most sacred ministry, shaping hearts and souls for eternity.

When marriage follows God’s divine order, it becomes more than a partnership. It becomes a living testimony of Christ’s love for His Church.

Maybe Marriage Isn’t for You (And That’s Okay!)

If s*x doesn’t really matter to you, marriage might not be the ride you want to hop on. In marriage, physical intimacy isn’t just a side dish. It’s part of the main course. If that’s not your thing, no worries! Surround yourself with great friends, binge-watch your favorite shows, and maybe adopt a kid (or a dog...).

If you love your parents and kids more than your spouse, marriage might feel like a group project gone wrong. Your partner is supposed to be your person. If that doesn’t sound right to you, it’s totally fine to keep living with your parents, cooking their favorite adobo, and raising your kids with Lola’s help.

If you’re all about “mine is mine and yours is also mine,” uh-oh. Marriage is a shared life, including the wallet. If you’re keeping separate bank accounts and splitting the internet bill down to the cent, it’s giving roommates, not lifelong partners.

If “I’m sorry” gets stuck in your throat, you’re in trouble. Marriage isn’t for the proud; it’s for people who can admit they messed up, apologize, and then offer snacks as a peace offering.

If you hate listening, marriage will be rough. It’s not a one-person podcast; it’s a duet. Successful couples know when to talk, when to zip it, and when to just nod while pretending to listen (kidding… kind of).

What I’ve Learned About Marriage

Make time for each other. Go on dates, take random walks, watch youtube side by side, even if you’ve seen them a hundred times. It’s in those little moments that you stay close and keep growing together.

Talk every day. And not just about bills or the kids. Talk about your day, your thoughts, your dreams. Listen without jumping in. Speak with love, not irritation. Honest conversations make all the difference.

Be affectionate. Kiss often. Hug for no reason. Flirt with each other. Be playful. Intimacy isn’t just about what happens in the bedroom. It's about making each other feel seen, loved, and wanted.

Say thank you. Notice the effort. Appreciate the small things. A simple “I see you” can go a long way, especially when life gets busy.

And forgive... quickly. Don’t let pride or past mistakes build a wall between you. Say sorry when you need to. Offer grace. No one’s perfect. But when love is real, it’s worth fighting for.

Late 20s vs. Mid 40s . From payat days vs “healthy” days. 🤣

Through every season, one thing has remained constant: we could never have navigated this journey without God at the center of our marriage.

Praise God for 25 years of being together- 2 years as friends, 1 year as uyab, and 22 years as husband and wife. ❤️

PS: not our wedding anniversary yet. Hahaha

Our certified daddy’s girl.

I didn’t grow up with an emotional bond with my dad. He was the typical no-nonsense father: strict and focused on providing. He lived by the roles he knew best: to protect and provide. His way of expressing love was through giving us shelter, food, clothing, and a quality education. And while I am deeply grateful for that, I always longed for something more emotionally connected.

So when our youngest was born, I prayed she’d be a daddy’s girl, someone who’d be emotionally connected to her father. I hoped he’d play with her, be silly with her, and make lasting memories. I wanted her to see him as her hero, her safe place, and her best dad.

There was even a time when my husband’s twin brother visited us, and we playfully asked him to approach our daughter pretending to be her dad. Lo and behold, she didn’t buy it. 🤣 She knew exactly who her dad was. No one could take his place.

Now at five years old, she’s spent more time with her dad than with me. They go on regular dates, they play together, tickle each other, and at bedtime, she almost always chooses to sleep beside him. Her reason? “Dad is my protector.”

I pray their bond continues to grow, that Jazzy will keep looking up to her dad with the same admiration and trust, and that she will always say with pride and certainty, “He is my dad!"

Things I truly appreciate about my husband:

1. He always checks if I’m already hungry - which is often, kasi obvious namang mahilig ako kumain! 😅 Whether it means buying my cravings or cooking something I like, he makes sure I’m fed and happy.

2. He genuinely cares about my health. He takes time to research the best food supplements and hunts for the healthiest organic veggies in the market - all for me.

3. He’s a master at bargaining, something I’ve never been good at. 😂 He’s our official palengke boy - and proudly so! In fact, he never lets me step out of the car when we do market runs. He does it all.

4. He stands by his decisions. His “no” is a firm no - unless I can present a solid case to change his mind. Haha.

5. Most of all, I know he loves me. I see it in his actions, in his plans, and in the way he treats me every single day. And because of that, I feel like the most blessed wife.

He’s far from perfect, but I see how he constantly tries to be the best dad to our kids and the best husband to me, and for that, I am truly grateful. ❤️

Welcome to Better Half Chronicles, where real married life unfolds.
No filters.

After 22 years of being married, I’ve realized one thing: marriage isn’t a fairytale, it’s a journey.

This page is our space to share the raw, the real, and the ridiculous parts of that journey, from sweet victories to silent treatments over silly things.

Marriage isn’t easy. But with a heart willing to adjust, admit, and admire, it can be beautifully worth it.

Let’s talk about love, laughter, and learning to live as better halves, one day at a time. 💕🥰