Husle Heart

CHEATING IS NOT A MISTAKE.

Can cheating be classified as a mistake? No. Cheating is not a mistake, anything you think about, talk about, reason about before you implement it, is not a mistake but a decision. Mistakes are not deliberate or intentional, it is often done out of ignorance, involved not circumstances.

Cheating is not a mistake or an accident. One does not just fall into someone's bedroom by accident. You get undressed. While getting undressed, you know very well what is going to happen next. You have enough time to stop what you are doing because you have someone in your life, but no, you continue taking off your clothes,.

During that time you have enough time to stop and reflect on what you are doing. They have all the time to make a decision.

So, when he/she tells you that it was a mistake, they are actually saying: I did it and I enjoyed it. I am only sorry that you found out about it. Next time I will be more discreet.

Forgiving a cheater is like saying, what you did to me was bad but not bad enough. Do something worse, then I will leave you. When we love someone we make very stupid excuses for them but your excuses don't change facts.

A person who truly loves & cares about you won't get undressed and sleep with another person while still involved with you. They no longer care. They care more about the person they cheated on you with than they care about you.

Real men/women don't cheat. If he/she ever cheats on you, it was his/her decision, not any guy/girl's seduction. After all, we all have options to reject anything. Nobody taught anyone how to cheat... Cheating is a pattern. When people have a pattern they hardly change it, the deal-breaker pattern is what births your personality & your personality becomes a lifestyle. They cheated because they wanted to, they cheated because they thought they'd get away with it.

We need to start addressing things as they are. Cheating is a deal-breaker pattern because when you cheat, you break trust, you mess up the sacred bond that you share with your partner & this is enough to end it with that person. If a man cannot be a faithful boyfriend, he cannot be a faithful husband. If you don't want to cheat on your husband, then why are you cheating on your fiance? Marriage doesn't change anyone. A man or a woman cannot give you in marriage what they didn't practice in their dating relationship.

Cheating is not only when you take off your cloth and have slept with someone else. If you have to delete the text, password your phone from your partner, talk or flirt with someone else behind their back, you're cheating already. Cheating is a sign that you don't respect your relationship/marriage and the one you claim to love. Cheating is disrespectful. It is a sign that you don't care if the relationship breaks or not. You're not scared to lose them. Cheating on a good heart is like throwing away a diamond just to pick a stone bedroom

CTTO.

Be your self to see the result..
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WE FELL OUT OF LOVE

"Dad, my girlfriend told me that she fell out of love."

With an aching chest and a heavy heart, I sat on our creamed couch as I saw my dad sauntered with a cup of coffee in his hand. Umupo siya sa tabi ko habang sinisimsim ang kape.

"What did you say again, son? Your girlfriend fell out of love?" he queried as he placed the coffee on the marbled table in front of us.

I chewed on my words and it felt like thorns in my throat. It hurts and it stung. Nagtama ang mga mata namin ni Papa at kita ko ang paglandas ng awa sa mukha niya.

"Pa'no nangyari 'yon? I mean, you were both happy last weekend when she paid a visit here in our house and now, she was saying that she fell out of love?" my dad said in a clipped tone.

"Maging ako rin po kasi ay nawawalan na rin ng gana," I whispered in a weak voice.

A deep sigh left my dad's mouth as if he's weighing things on what to say next.

"How come the two of you fell out of love?" he asked again.

"Kasi hindi na masaya katulad nang dati, pa. Alam mo 'yon, magkasama kami pero sobrang tahimik na namin. There's an invisible barrier between us that made us cold and distant, until we were just hurting each other in the process."

After spitting those words, I could feel my own tears forming at the edge of my eyes. I saw my dad ruffled his hair and a playful smirk touched his lips.

Agad akong nairita nang makitang ngumingisi lamang si Papa habang nasasaktan ako.

"Why are you smiling, dad? Are you happy that your son is hurting?" I said irritably as I threw him an icy glare.

"No, son. I just remembered what I did to your mom when we were like at your age."

Mas lalong lumawak ang ngiti ni Papa.

"No'ng nawalan kami ng gana ng mama mo sa relasiyon namin, nanligaw agad ako ng ibang babae at gano'n din ang mama mo. Nagpaligaw siya sa ibang lalaki," sambit niya at walang mababakas na emosiyon sa kaniyang mukha.

"I sent flowers to my new lady. I even wrote hundreds of poems to express my love for her. And there, my happiness that was once gone just came back. Nakita ko rin ang mama mo na masaya sa manliligaw niya."

Bigla akong naguluhan sa sinabi ni Papa. I mean, how did they end up together if they found themselves happy in someone else's arms?

With creasing brows, I asked him. "So pa'no pa rin kayo nagkatuluyan ni Mama after everything?"

I saw how his pair of ears reddened as he rubbed the back of his neck.

"Kasi iisa lang naman ang mama mo at ang babaeng nililigawan ko. Sinabi ko lang na nanligaw ako ng ibang babae 'cause your mom changed into a better version of herself," wika niya.

"Since our previous relationship was getting toxic and unhealthy, we had decided to have a brand new start and that includes changing ourselves into the best version of ourselves."

There, I saw tears filling at the corner of my daddy's eyes.

"Hindi talaga natin maiwasang mawalan ng gana, anak. Syempre, may mga panahon talagang hindi masaya at nagkakasakitan na lang kayo. But let me remind you that we enter in a relationship because we need each other. Hindi 'yong nandiyan lang tayo pag masaya. You want a long lasting relationship? Then stay! Nag-away kayo? Then stay. Hindi na masaya? Still stay! Kung gusto mo talagang tumagal ang relasiyon niyo, be matured enough to handle everything. Dahil ang relasiyon ay binubuo ng dalawang imperfect na tao. Walang relasiyon na walang away. Pero may relasiyon na kahit nag-aaway, hindi naghihiwalay."

Matapos magsalita ni Papa ay 'di ko na namalayan ang pagtakas ng mga luha sa mata ko. Every words he uttered cut deeper to my bones. Bigla ko na lang naalala si Rose, ang girlfriend ko.

Nakatitig lamang ako kay Papa habang naiiyak at maging siya ay naluluha na rin. Now I know why my mom is so smitten to my dad because he's indeed a real man.

"We can fell out of love even if we love that person too much, son. Because love is not just about glitters and rainbows, it's a constant war. It's just a matter of who will keep on fighting with you, who will surrender and who would pick up the next battle with you. So, kung alam mong kaya mo pa naman siyang ipaglaban, then fight for your love. Mag-umpisa ulit kayo ni Rose. Pero kung ayaw niya na talaga, then let her. At least you've done your part. Kasi alam mo anak, masarap sumuko sa laban na alam mong binigay mo ang lahat kaysa sa sumuko ka na agad kahit 'di pa nag-uumpisa ang laban."

Tuluyan na akong napaluha sa sinabi ni Papa. Agad kong tinext si Rose para ayusin namin ang aming relasiyon at para makapag-umpisa ulit.

Thanks God, because after a month, we finally found our tracks back in each other's arms. Nanumbalik ang saya sa pagitan namin ni Rose. At mas lalo pang sumaya ang aming pagsasama.

Kaya sa mga may relasiyon diyan na napapagod na, huwag kayong sumuko. Dahil ang totoong relasiyon ay 'yong dinurog ng pagsubok pero pinagtibay ng panahon.

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CTtO
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For me naman, based sa mga experience and observations sa mga friends/relatives. Some na nagtatagal, ang secreto ay focus sa partner, focus sa mga ikakasaya ng relation,sa mga bagay na ikagagalit mo sa partner mo na nakakasawa, peru patuloy pa rin na umiintindi,kase you choose to be together. Sa iba ang sabi MABILIS KASI AKO MAGSAWA, 😅kase nga daming choices,maraming dahilan to get out sa relationship. Dahilan na busy sa work or walang time sa self need muna ng self love. Peru in true reality Na Temp Tayo, we choice to be tempted. Maraming ways to escape sa relationship.Diba? Peru ang iba sinasabe na HINDI AKO C GOD, TAO LANG AKO NAGKAKASALA. Sabi nga, you choose kung ano ka ngayon,hindi naman gumalaw ang keyboard ng cellphone automatically,hindi naman nag LIKE/HEART automatically ang Fb/IG mo..

No fell out of love for me..
Gaya ng love natin ky God,sometimes we question but we still believe/trust in HIM.