Narcissistic Abuse Survivor

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“Kids need their dad.” Sure, but let’s be honest...
what they really need is a healthy, consistent, loving example of what a father should be.

A man who shows up emotionally, not just physically. A man who doesn’t just claim the title of "dad" but actually earns it through his actions.

Because children don’t benefit from chaos. They don’t thrive under neglect, emotional unavailability, or watching their mother get disrespected daily.

They learn from what they see. So if the father figure in the home is someone who lies, cheats, screams, or walks in and out of their lives like a revolving door... that’s not fatherhood.

That’s a lesson in dysfunction.

Kids need to see a man love their mother with respect. They need to see a man who takes responsibility, who doesn’t abandon ship when things get hard, and who doesn’t make excuses for being emotionally absent.

They need a father who teaches by example...how to apologize, how to communicate, how to treat others, and how to be a safe space, not a storm.

So no, the phrase isn’t just “kids need their dad.” It’s “kids need a dad who actually acts like one.” And if he can’t do that, then the child is better off watching their mother build a peaceful life without him... than growing up thinking dysfunction is what love is supposed to look like.