Somatic Breathwork & Personal Development Coaching

Next class: June 12, 6:30pm at 11Exhale Yoga Studio.

A person‘s perception is their reality!

Are you tired of feeling like life is happening to you instead of being created by you?

Do you find yourself giving away your power to other people’s opinions, expectations, circumstances, or fears?

What if the life you desire isn’t waiting for permission?

What if it’s waiting for you to step fully into your truth, reclaim your voice, and remember who you are?

Join us for our next class:

✨ Stepping Into Your Power ✨

Together, we’ll explore the unconscious patterns that keep us stuck, reconnect with our authentic selves, and learn how to create from intention rather than reaction.

Your power has never left you.
It’s simply waiting to be reclaimed.

Are you ready?

Spaces are limited. Please register to save your space. Calendly.com/abcordova

Sometimes healing is realizing that our parents were parenting from their own unresolved pain, survival patterns, and ancestral conditioning.

Many generations before us were taught to suppress emotions.
To survive instead of feel.
To obey instead of express.
To work instead of rest.
To disconnect instead of heal.

This is ancestral amnesia…
Forgetting who we truly are beneath the trauma, conditioning, fear, and survival.

Our parents often loved us the best they could with the awareness, nervous systems, emotional capacity, and tools they had at the time.

That doesn’t mean our pain isn’t real.
And it doesn’t mean harmful behaviors should be excused.

But healing can begin when we stop seeing our parents only as “the wound” and begin seeing them as humans shaped by wounds too.

Many of them were never taught emotional safety.
Never taught regulation.
Never taught healthy love.
Never taught how to hold their own pain.

And now… here we are.
The generation becoming conscious.
Feeling what others suppressed.
Breaking cycles.
Remembering ourselves.
Learning how to love differently.

💥That is powerful work.

The version of ourselves we present in relationships is often the version we learned would get us love, approval, safety, or validation.

Some people present the “easygoing” version of themselves because conflict didn’t feel safe growing up.

Some present the overachiever, the caretaker, the rescuer, the hyper-independent one, the seductive one, or the “perfect” partner… not because it’s fully who they are, but because it became their survival strategy for connection.

Many of us are not attracting from our authentic self…
We are attracting from our adapted self.

The part that says:
“Choose me.”
“Need me.”
“Don’t leave me.”
“Approve of me.”
“See my worth.”

And eventually, relationships become exhausting because we can only perform a version of ourselves for so long before the real self starts begging to be seen.

Healing is learning how to stop attracting from wounds and start connecting from truth.

Because real love was never meant to require self-abandonment. 🌿

Seeking external validation is exhausting because no amount of approval from others can fill the void of abandoning yourself.

When your worth is tied to being liked, chosen, praised, or accepted… you begin shape-shifting to keep love.

You over-give.
Over-explain.
Overperform.
People-please.

Not because you’re weak…
But because somewhere along the way, your nervous system learned:
“If they approve of me, I am safe.”

But healing begins when you stop asking:
“Do they like me?”
And start asking:
“Do I like who I become when I betray myself for approval?”

The most powerful validation you will ever receive is the one you give yourself. 🌿

If you’re tired of outsourcing your worth and approval, comment,
I’M READY and I’ll send you a link to get started.

Sometimes we don’t fall in love with our partner…
we fall in love with what feels familiar.

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A boy may not remember every lesson his father teaches him…
but he will remember how safe, seen, encouraged, and loved he felt in his presence.

UNRESOLVED, CHILDHOOD TRAUMA, doesn’t stay in childhood.
It follows us into our adult relationships disguised as triggers, fears, reactions, people-pleasing, emotional shutdown, overthinking, anxiety, or the constant need for reassurance.

The child who felt abandoned may become the adult who fears rejection.
The child who was criticized may become the adult who never feels good enough.
The child who had to stay quiet to stay safe may struggle to speak their truth in relationships.

Many of us aren’t reacting to what’s happening now.
We’re reacting to what once happened then.

This is why healing matters.
Not to blame our parents.
Not to stay stuck in the past.
But to become aware of the unconscious patterns running our lives so we can finally choose differently.

Healing is learning that love no longer has to be earned through overgiving, shrinking, fixing, performing, or abandoning yourself.

Your nervous system learned survival.
Now it can learn safety, connection, boundaries, and authentic love too. 🌿

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