Who’s Managing Mom?

Just a real honest question.

When was the last time you felt pure JOY that wasn’t followed by any guilt about it.
That you did something for you and didn’t think oh I should’ve tidied the kitchen first or put in a load of laundry?

Where you took a ride to the beach for the sake of listening to the waves?

Where you laid down for a nap without an alarm?

Or laid in bed all day reading and when you got tired you just covered up and closed your eyes?

I’m curious if I’m the only one that can’t actually REST because of the giant to do list that is always nagging the back of my head?

Please share your stories and experiences below.

The best way to lessen the guilt, I think, is to know we’re not alone.

I mean how long of a list is too long??

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Share your things below ⬇️

As a faceless account, I understand that anonymity is important.

What I am asking for today is for you to share your story with me. If anything I have said resonates with you about being a mom, a working mom, a stay at home mom, a wife, please send me a DM about how any of these things has resonated with you.

I will keep your name out of it, and if you put in names, I will change them as well unless you have already changed them.

I am looking for other ladies to chat with about their experiences in today’s society, within motherhood and marriage, and the workforce.

If this is something that you feel calls to you, please send me a DM. Everything will remain private that I can assure you.

The problem with Society is that it has spent years emasculating men. You will not get me to change my mind on this … men are not allowed to have emotion which is bad or they have too much emotion which is bad and there is no in between and women are left, picking up the burden of emotion. Women must be in their masculine because men aren’t taught how to actually be masculine and help out their wives. It has become taboo to help around the house for so many years. When I was born in the 70s men were not allowed to be present when their children were born.
I know we are making progress but we still her to do better.

The problem is where do we start?
How do we have these conversation? Conversations so many men don’t want to have because they don’t wanna be told that they’re doing the things the wrong way.
They don’t want to be told that they have to do a females job or what they think is a female‘s job because of what Society has deemed so.

So let’s start the conversations let’s say the quit parts out loud let’s help each other because that’s how it used to be done. The women mothered in groups and helped each other.

Are you at the point where you feel nothing?

Just going through the motions and keeping busy so you don’t need to realize anything an why you’re exhausted?

I was having a convo the other day with another mom who just keeps going despite what her body is telling her about slowing down. She just continues so she can get it all done because she doesn’t know how to do anything else at this point.

She just keeps going it’s a shame and we hav to do better as a society because this is exactly why woke are burned out.

And we have nothing else to give except to continue on with the chores because we feel no one else will help.

Do you feel this way? Please share ⬇️

First, let me apologize for not wishing you all a happy Valentine’s Day yesterday. And that’s actually what got me thinking are you the magic maker? I know this was a big conversation during Christmas time but during every holiday I feel like I am the one coordinating the magic for my family. Whether it’s hunting around for purple roses to make sure my daughter gets them because that’s a tradition that we started when she was little or looking for the perfect pair of Valentine’s pajamas or the candy that she loves… Orrrrrrrrr to when Easter rolls around making sure the Easter basket is filled. I’m not complaining. I love doing that giftgiving is my love language. I’m just wondering that the only time conversations around magic making happen around Christmas. It really is around every holiday and every family dinner and every family vacation and and and so are you the magic maker? Do you enjoy making the magic? Are you tired that nobody responds to having magic made and making magic for you let me know in the comments.

When you’re in bed and your eyes pop open what’s the first thing that goes through your head? Is it that the laundry needs to be done? Or the endless to do list that just keeps getting longer? Is it how your child needs new shoes or their clothes suddenly got too small because of a growth spurt?

Or are you able to wake up peacefully thinking of just some prayers and nothing else?

Moms are constantly on and can’t seem to ever turn their brains off… we’re always thinking of the wellbeing of everyone around us and trying to make all the things right. Trying to shoulder the burdens so that someone else’s day will be easier and simpler.

So how do we find a balance? How do we have the endless to do list but also honor ourselves for being the constant keeper of that list?

Sometimes you must ask for help. It’s impossible to shoulder it all alone. I hate when people say if you look at the word impossible and break it up it’s I’m possible which it is BUT being the one who does it all is not possible.

So my question to you today is how do you dole out responsibility to your partner if you have one or your kiddos. Chores, to do lists, or what’s the one trick that you have started doing that has made your life easier?
Instacart for the groceries,
Door dash for the few items at target that you need that will save you sanity by paying the few extra dollars?
Amazon subscribe and save for toilet paper and paper towels?

Please share your tricks below so we can all try something new!

This is a huge theme and so prevalent for mothers and I am so glad to post this today.

I used to listen to somebody who kept me in guilt and shame for the things that I wasn’t doing by saying we all have the same 24 hours in a day… Then they would list all the things they supposedly did in the day in those 24 hours.

I would look at myself and wonder why I hadn’t had a successful business yet or any of my business ideas took off or I wasn’t able to bring in the amount of money I wanted to bring in not realizing that even though we all do have the same 24 hours in a day everybody’s life looks different.

I should’ve could’ve would’ve done things differently if I hadn’t been in such guilt and shame.
So today, I’m asking you to lay down that guilt and shame put it down underneath this post and leave it there for perpetuity.

Love you!

This is not another cheap self-care Sunday post. This is a real question … in shouldering all of the things and being the calendar … doing the chores that are invisible to everybody else’s … how do you actually carve out time for yourself in the middle of all of these things?