YOU'RE JUST A DUMBASS

YOU'RE JUST A DUMBASS

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I’m a Behavioral Scientist and created this tongue-in-cheek relationship wellness blog, YOU'RE JUST A DUMBASS, to help people select and maintain healthy relationships and avoid some of the difficult life lessons that one encounters in suboptimal relationships. In YOU'RE JUST A DUMBASS, I share techniques that I developed to help clients with creating relationship wellness in their lives. I've had

From robots to real women: How society's objectification of tech fuels misogyny 01/28/2025

Anthropromorphic technologies that facilitate the removal of flesh and blood women out of these men’s lives, violent p**n, overstimulus to p**n lend themselves to creating violence aganist women as possible future outcomes. Social media culture trends are exacerbating misogynistic attitudes, influencing cultural thought, creating voluntary isolation, which then makes insular worlds that turns misogyny into crack.

The increase in Porn-induced Erectile Dysfunction and decreased social interaction in young men has contributed to seeking alternatives to human companionship. If your only interactions with women are based on non-responsive interactions or pausable moments you begin dismissing the entire life cycle of being able to approach women to have s*x and eclipse your performance when you do. Being ill-prepared to deal with real-world relationships, some men lose interest because of intimidation, inadequacy, depression, lowered self-esteem, or disappointment. Ironically, some men report feeling abandonment as a result of their synthetic companion over time.

https://www.indy100.com/news/s*xualisation-female-robot-misogyny-tech

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From robots to real women: How society's objectification of tech fuels misogyny In a world where technology promises to liberate and elevate humanity, the gross s*xualisation of female robots exposes a darker, more sinister truth: misogyny is not just alive and well, it's thriving in the digital age. All you need to do is take a glance at the comments section of a video showing...

Clarissa Silva 11/03/2024

I recently had the honor of being featured in the Independent’s How to navigate a friendship breakup and is it ever a good idea to reconcile? piece written by Becca Monaghan where we explored why it isn’t openly discussed and how to cope with friendship loss.

Elections x Relationships = Friendship Divorce

While it’s not a new phenomenon, Monaghan raised a poignant question “why isn’t this viral?” So, I will share a few things to help unshame this topic. For years in my practice, I have had people liken friendship breakup pain to be similar to divorce. I began calling it “friendship divorce” and encouraged “friendship divorce parties” to help with the silent suffering and healing process.

Why “friendship divorce”? The emotional distress caused by the loss in some cases was similar to the grieving and divorce coping phases. Having to disclose the loss to mutually shared friends led people to not socialize for a while and have friends choose between both parties. The disillusionment people endured in the re-evaluation phase caused people to question their own decision-making skills. Blaming themselves for faulty decision-making can erode their self-esteem and create even unhealthier support systems.

Clarissa Silva Scientist. Strategist. Solutions.

From Heartbreak to Healing: Navigating the 7 Stages of a Breakup 02/12/2024

Breakup hack

When you start to think that they should be back in your life, avoid reminiscing and weigh out the reasons that you're no longer together.

https://www.verywellmind.com/from-heartbreak-to-healing-navigating-the-7-stages-of-a-breakup-8552187

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From Heartbreak to Healing: Navigating the 7 Stages of a Breakup Splitting up with a partner can be tough. In this article, we explore the seven stages of a breakup and consult relationship experts on how to navigate them.

The 5 Love Languages Explained - Women 02/10/2024

On love languages: Did you know?

In addition to the bonding [cuddling] creates between the couple, it also helps boost your immune system.

Read More: https://www.women.com/1506351/your-love-language-explained/

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The 5 Love Languages Explained - Women While everyone has a primary love language that they tend to speak, many of us have bits and pieces of other love languages in us as well.

Are you micro-cheating on your partner? – experts reveal all - VNExplorer 02/02/2024

“The digital age has arguably normalised risque behaviour that doesn’t honour your relationship.
Clarissa Silva, Behavioral Scientist, Relationship Coach and Creator of Your Happiness Hypothesis Method, explained that micro-cheating can be the result of “underlying issues” or “dissatisfaction in the relationship.” It could also stem from “feelings of loneliness” or deeming the existing relationship as “unexciting.”
What may start off as innocent can rapidly become dangerous and detrimental to a relationship if what if?” Sanjana Gupta reports.

https://vnexplorer.net/are-you-micro-cheating-on-your-partner-experts-reveal-all-s1225585.html

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Are you micro-cheating on your partner? – experts reveal all - VNExplorer Micro-cheating is a complex form of flirting – the intention is what sets the two apart. The behaviours are subjective to every individual relationship. While one couple may consider flirting with the bartender as micro-cheating, others may view it as harmless. Berman Psychotherapy clinician Hanna...

Cameron Diaz Is Right To Advocate For Sleeping In Separate Bedrooms — But There's A Catch 01/09/2024

Sleeping together can provide safety, intimacy, and closeness to a relationship, and can resemble the bond experienced in the womb. But, for some a sleep divorce is the answer.

https://www.thezoereport.com/wellness/couples-sleeping-in-separate-bedrooms

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Cameron Diaz Is Right To Advocate For Sleeping In Separate Bedrooms — But There's A Catch On a recent podcast, Cameron Diaz made a bold case for couples sleeping in separate bedrooms and how we should normalize it. Here, we speak to therapists on why this could be a positive move for couples — and when it's a sign of trouble.

Beige flags: Why they can doom your dating profile | CNN 10/04/2023

Curious about beige flags? asked me to help people identify them before they become red flags.

https://www.cnn.com/2023/10/03/health/beige-flags-relationships-wellness/index.html

Beige flags: Why they can doom your dating profile | CNN Neither a green flag nor a red flag, the term went viral on TikTok as . These funny or odd behavioral quirks aren’t necessarily relationship deal-breakers.

07/27/2023

Being able to consistently recognize someone else’s bu****it and not react not only restores your sanity it helps your future thinking!

Can you really find love on LinkedIn? Meet the people who have 07/16/2023

When it comes to dating and the desire to find love, people are more apt to take risks. I don’t expect people to take known risk if they don’t have to, but I also think the desire for love can have no boundaries. All social media platforms eventually become dating platforms. LinkedIn is no exception. It's solving for our desire to find love when other options have failed.

Thanks to ’s for including my voice!

https://www.indy100.com/viral/can-you-find-love-on-linkedin

Can you really find love on LinkedIn? Meet the people who have Dating, dating, dating. Where do we even begin? Once upon a time, people had no other option than to find love organically. It wasn't until 1965 that two Harvard students created the first computer-generated matchmaking service. Singletons were asked to fill out questionnaires based on their prefere...

Conflict Management and Conflict Resolution—When to Use Each One in Your Relationship 06/14/2023

Conflict management is useful for chronic situations that cannot be solved. Contrary to what we might think about conflict and its ability to be resolved, about 70% of couples’ conflicts are unsolvable.

https://www.verywellmind.com/conflict-management-vs-conflict-resolution-what-s-the-difference-7505965

Conflict Management and Conflict Resolution—When to Use Each One in Your Relationship This article explores the differences between conflict management and conflict resolution, and when you should use each of these strategies in your relationship.

You're likely to break your 2023 resolutions this week - here's how to stick to them 01/16/2023

Recently shared with ’s brilliant on how to stick to your New Year’s resolution!

Mathematics of Intent. Everything we go through brings us closer to what we need to actualize our dreams or bring about our happiness. Whatever the situation is, think about what led you to that moment and what you intended on happening.

Mathematically evaluate your intentions. If it is what you intended, apply that formula to other situations. If it wasn’t, revise the process by being more congruent with what you want to achieve. Sometimes when we see it written, we are better able to see some of the incongruences in our thinking very clearly.

https://www.indy100.com/viral/stick-to-new-years-resolutions

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You're likely to break your 2023 resolutions this week - here's how to stick to them The excitement, the hustle and bustle of the festivities are officially dead for another year, making room for the Monday-est month of the year: January. Inevitably, 2023 has already seen the return of detoxes, Dry Jan, Veganuary and the month's most-asked question: What's your New Year's resolution...

The Science Behind Love at First Sight 11/05/2022

The chemical intoxication is momentary and dissipates over time, but feels intense in that moment. While the neurochemical reactions can take seconds, actual compatibility takes longer to determine. Check out what else I share with ’s !

https://getmegiddy.com/science-love-first-sight

The Science Behind Love at First Sight Does it really take only seconds to fall for someone? Or is it just lust?

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