Becca Fiske Hair

I enjoyed another stroll on hair memory lane.. Sharing a few vivid sightings I saw along the way.

It’s just dawned on me that taking these trips through my past work flows allows room for gratitude. Gratitude for the stages & transformations.

Gratitude and also 𝗥𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝗳. Relief that have reached a place in my career that I can create some hope for the industry. We don’t have to work ourselves to death, miss out on our favorite people in life, or be forced to focus on hair you don’t get excited about doing.

There’s a way to salon that gives us freedom, that gives us support. There’s a way to salon where we are in the drivers seat, while also surrounded by a community.

And that way can literally look like whatever we need it to look like.

𝙒𝙖𝙣𝙣𝙖 𝙥𝙡𝙖𝙮 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙫𝙞𝙫𝙞𝙙𝙨? 𝘔𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘢𝘨𝘦 𝘮𝘦 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘢 𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭 𝘰𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳 ☻︎

𝗦𝘁𝗲𝗮𝗱𝗳𝗮𝘀𝘁: 𝘧𝘪𝘳𝘮 𝘪𝘯 𝘣𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘦𝘧, 𝘥𝘦𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯, 𝘰𝘳 𝘢𝘥𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦

At the end of last year it become obvious that I was ready to re-name my most desired feeling. I had many opportunities to experience feeling 𝘴𝘪𝘨𝘯𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘯𝘵 and it was time to choose a new compass.

My coach threw the word steadfast out there and immediately I felt it. It’s hard to work towards your goals if you don’t know what the feeling of achieving them could feel like. For me it leaves me questioning, “is this even my goal?”

Actually putting a name to a ‘least’ desired feeling and a ‘most’ desired feeling has been a formidable bumper for me when life gets to life-in. When I start to feel like acting a fool, 9/10 times it’s because I am too close to those feelings I 𝙙𝙤𝙣'𝙩 desire. When I feel like giving up, I reflect on my most desired feeling and what can lead me there.

To be truthful, I’m tired, y’all. It’s been a doozy of a time lately - nothing bad, nothing major. Lack and fear try to jog the bed and then I just get cranky.

I want to remind myself of where I am, but also who I am and why I choose what I’ve chosen.

I am capable.
I am determined.
I am 𝙨𝙩𝙚𝙖𝙙𝙛𝙖𝙨𝙩.

The possibilities are limitless!

I remember not too long ago, I was working behind the chair 5 days a week, double booking, catering to everyone but myself, and being so thankful when I had a client coming in who was understanding & supportive..

I was taught that being busy was how to measure my “success.” I was taught to be proud to turn away new clients. I was certain that in order for my career & my business to thrive, everyone needed to come to me, and everyone needed to like me. Being booked months out was a badge of honor.

🤮 - amirite?

Y’all. I burnt the F OuT. Life was a rollercoaster ride and I did 𝗻𝗼𝘁 feel good.

I was looking for salon owner guidance, for support, and for accountability. Enter and my choice to begin coaching with them. And whew, was I fortunate to be placed with as my future coach! Simply serendipitous.

From the moment I caught wind of not double booking and charging for time I was chomping at the bit! Who knew I didn’t have to work like I had a death wish? This was 2019.

Here I am, 2023, still finding my way! But I honestly wouldn’t want it any other way.

I know hourly can feel overwhelming, I often hear things like “but my hair takes so long to do” or “but I don’t need a full haircut” - and what I find most people have trouble with even before that is, booking based on time. (Because most people who are truly for you, will get this change.)

I created a simple breakdown to help you get started! I must point out, I choose this structure because of the elevated mindset behind it. Hair replaced all other mediums of art for me. I give so much TJ my craft. My heart. My body. My mind. My devotion. And my intention.

The coolest part is that it works both ways! For clients & for their stylists. It frees us up a bit to be fresh for each and every client. It allows us to carry less shame about our work. It’s dependable and consistent for my clients. And if anything changes, whether it’s the goal they have, or rates in general, they know ahead of time.

Leaving behind what you’ve always known in this industry feels like a huge mountain to climb, I know. (Continued in caption!)

BIG NEWS AKA CHANGES! -

I said to my girl last night, “I’m proud of you.”

And I mean that for you, too. I realized last night that we all deserve to hear that more.

Give yourself a hug. You’ve done so well these last few years, our universe has been on quite a trip!

I’m certain that someone you don’t even know is watching, sees you for who are, and loves every bit of you. Keep on sharing that 😉

(And here’s a picture of the sweetest, most ornery, gentle old man, Clyde, to start your Friday off with a smile!)

I had the pleasure of giving this nugget her very first haircut today! So fun to get to love on your babe after all the lovins SherBear has gotten through the years!

So proud - she even let me out a lil’ pony in!

Can’t wait to “trick treat” Sunday 🎃

It’s OUR Birthday! - And we have a gift for YOU!

In 2019 I had a huge “A-ha moment”

I was working 5 days a week behind the chair, double booked, eating when I could, debating my worth based on another’s budget, unsure of where/when/how to take the next step in my business, and destined to be a hamster on a wheel.

I felt so lost, and empty.

Cue 💣

I want to feel significant. I also want to feel accepted. Those two feelings are in contrast with each other..So, how do I reach those desired feelings?

I disrupt. I work on doing hard things because my heart feels full when I do, but also - because someone has to. I stand up for beliefs I have, even against loved ones. Ultimately, practicing to influence my community and those issues around me on a daily basis is painful; but this is how I know I’m walking my true path. No pain, no gain. (And let me remind you, pain and suffering are very different 😉)

That feeling of acceptance comes in from my childhood and always feeling less than. When I feel like I’m blending in, I feel safe - I feel “worthy” - hence why acceptance is a desired feeling. However, it’s the antonym to my wanting to feel significant.

What I’m continuing to understand since that a-ha moment in 2019, and my very first call with - is that feeling of acceptance needs to come from within. From myself.

How can I accept myself and use those traits to work in my favor? I don’t know, but every day I’m working on it.

I really can’t handle how quickly Father Time travels 😭

🤔 What are hairdressers in the future going to be looking for?

🌱 Freedom. Both in their career and in their personal lives. The ability to have both will be non negotiable

🌱 Specialities. Why do services that aren’t your thing? Why give your energy to something that doesn’t fill you up? When we focus on areas that we enjoy, we all win.

🌱 Ethics. As creatives, we need to know that what we’re doing matters. When working for a salon that prioritizes their community and planet, as well as the humans in it, the impression lasts longer than a haircut.

🌱 Control. Gone will be the days of benchmark hopping, non-competes, and micromanaging. You should have access to your clients information, your schedule, and how much you charge! (Go ahead, read that again.)

What do you think? What does the beauty industry of the future have in it for you? Share with me below 👇

Judgement
Shame

Are you..weird? I am. Always have been, really.

What if, in order to start living our lives more authentically, we just decide to accept it. Our “weirdness.”

We wake up one day, and just decide to ‘send it’ - things that were passionate about, areas of talent, to share our weaknesses.

Every single one of us is weird, peculiar, unusually incredible, in some way.

How much pain & suffering would be diminished by accepting each other’s weirdness?

But, what is “weird” or “different” anyway? Isn’t it just an idea made out of fear of exposing someone else’s own weirdness?

Let’s imagine that all went away..
That..
We all accepted..
We all lived.
We all loved.

Wouldn’t that be.. beautiful?

Mermaid meets Dark Princess hair for one our faves

Method : 🖤