Ronke Raji

Beautiful Flower (Avanna) 🌼🌼
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The power of a name in any culture is always really important. Before I had Amari I had a girl name picked out and it was aurora (like the northern lights🥹) I saw signs everywhere that it was my daughter’s name but then I found out I was having a son😂 When I was pregnant I ended up feeling like Amari was exactly the name he was meant to have and he lives up to every ounce of his name. He is literally such a strong five year old and he really is a promise from God.

In comparison I knew Avanna was a girl as soon as I saw the ultrasound. My intuition never fails me so when I found out it was a girl I was over the moon but Aurora didn’t feel right Idk how to explain it. In my search for baby names I saw the name Avanna it felt right and I loved how it meant beautiful flower (also keep in mind I wanted my kids to have names that started with “A” like mine)

I truly believe that a name is who you are and what you become and even though they still have Nigerian middle names I feel like I couldn’t have picked better names for my kids.🥹

What names do you particularly love?

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What are your thoughts on dating in 2024?

Let’s talk about the D-word, dating. I talk about so many things on my page, motherhood, beauty but the one thing I haven’t ever talked about how it is dating as a single mother. To be quite honest I went from getting excited about dating apps to quite literally realizing that I haven’t actually dated since 2010🤯

Things have changed so so much and watching constant debates between men and women as well as discussions on tables and just other podcast stories I got so overwhelmed. I have so many conversations here and there with my friends and after posting about it on my stories yesterday I decided this deserved a feed post.

Dating has been interesting, from being a woman who saw all men as regular people to understanding the predatory nature of men. I had tweeted a couple of years ago that all men aren’t trash and I had the strong urge to revoke that statement depending on the type of men I was around. Until I realize something. The problem isn’t men.

The problem isn’t women either, the problem is people. With their egos and their past experiences and their hurt. It’s hard to date from a place of pure love because each party is thinking about intentions and sometimes you start to realize even you are jaded.

Now, I realize that if I want to learn how to love another I must first love myself. By learning to trust myself, building my own values and dating has now become a “getting to know” process when before I thought anyone I talked to was a potential spouse. It has definitely been a learning process and I’m learning each day.

I’m still excited about what life has to offer in the dating world but now I know I have the power of choice and that to me is enough. I will say though that dating after marriage feels like dating backwards, now that I understand the marriage dynamic I realize that dating is actually a very serious and necessary process.
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Me & my built in bestie, he’s a natural 🥹
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If you only do what you can do, you will never be more than you are now -Master Shifu
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Lately I’ve been more committed to my growth as a person as well as my craft. It has led me to realize that real change is something that is fostered through consistent effort. There’s been so many times in my journey were I’ve wanted to give up (as scary as it is to admit) but what keeps me going is this insane belief in myself and some call it delusion but I call it faith. I haven’t always been this way honestly I was somewhat all over the place but seemed to find peace in the chaos. Ive started seeing myself more highly not because of my accomplishments but my resilience and ability to carry on. My vulnerability also, which I always thought was a weakness became my greatest strength. I guess you could call this phase of my journey self acceptance, I’m glad to finally be here 🍄
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Don’t ask me if I play golf, the carts were cute and so was my outfit 🍄
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Dress: x new collection (linked in my LTK)    

An Ode to Motherhood:
When you see them, what you truly see is me.
Two parts of my being, two separate personalities, two perfect babies
When you see her, she’s the leader. I’m faceless, just there to serve her.
When you see him, he’s the lover. I’m faceless, just there to serve him.
My greatest joy in life is to do better than those who preceded me, I’m the cycle breaker.
So when you see them, remember me.
The person who went through it all just for them.
Who emerged out of her cocoon just for them.
I gave birth but who was truly born was me, all of me was reborn through them.
A true warrior who earned her stripes by becoming a mother. 👩🏽‍🍼
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Happy fourth of Julyyy 🇺🇸 forget that diet and pig out, we will get back to working out next week 😂😂

Had the pleasure of attending the over the weekend and it was such a gorgeous event! I absolutely love the fashion show and how wonderful it felt to be around other women bosses. If you see yourself in a photo please let me know so I can tag you

Had the pleasure of attending the over the weekend and it was such a gorgeous event! I absolutely love the fashion show and how wonderful it felt to be around other women bosses. If you see yourself in a photo please let me know so I can tag you

Through it all, still I rise 🌱
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“The secret is to surround yourself with people who make your heart smile. It’s then, only then, that you’ll find Wonderland.” -Lewis Carroll
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The irony (iykyk) I had the pleasure of being invited to attend a screening of the new show black twitter: A people’s history on and I watched the first episode, everything about it showed how the internet will remain undefeated in not only bringing us laughs but allowing us to come together when changes are needed at the same time. Love when the DMV has these type of events📝

The diamond of the season 💎
I definitely watched season 3 twice 😂😂 but to me I would always love season 1 the most. 🥹 even though the enemies to lovers troupe in season 2 was my favorite lol.

Avaana is 4 🌸🎀
My dear Avanna, when you came into this world you were my biggest surprise. I see myself in you and nurture you as such. You’ve healed a part of my inner child and everything about you is perfect. Every tantrum, every random peace sign and every smile. I love you so much and as you turn 4 I pray that all your little hearts desires come true. You are a true princess🌸
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Photos taken by me 🥹 This has been my favorite photoshoot this year. 🎀

Cheers to May, what’s your favorite slide? Mine is slide 3🥹🥹🥰 Preparing for avannas birthday tomorrow and tbh I’m so excited 🥲

Finding joy in creating again. 🌱Half the time I’m double down in laughter and I wouldn’t take the sound of my laughter for granted because it was lost for so long.

P.S If you want a new lock screen background check out my stories for some fun photos I’ve been taking recently 🌱

I think it’s safe to say beauty packaging inspired me to head to the tennis court 🎾 and get creative. Loved how these photos came out
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