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Joni Mitchell on monogamy - wise words.

“I don’t know if I’ve learned anything yet! I did learn how to have a happy home, but I consider myself fortunate in that regard because I could’ve rolled right by it. Everybody has a superficial side and a deep side, but this culture doesn’t place much value on depth — we don’t have shamans or soothsayers, and depth isn’t encouraged or understood. Surrounded by this shallow, glossy society we develop a shallow side, too, and we become attracted to fluff. That’s reflected in the fact that this culture sets up an addiction to romance based on insecurity — the uncertainty of whether or not you’re truly united with the object of your obsession is the rush people get hooked on. I’ve seen this pattern so much in myself and my friends and some people never get off that line.

“But along with developing my superficial side, I always nurtured a deeper longing, so even when I was falling into the trap of that other kind of love, I was hip to what I was doing. I recently read an article in Esquire magazine called ‘The End of Sex,’ that said something that struck me as very true. It said: “If you want endless repetition, see a lot of different people. If you want infinite variety, stay with one.” What happens when you date is you run all your best moves and tell all your best stories — and in a way, that routine is a method for falling in love with yourself over and over.

“You can’t do that with a longtime mate because he knows all that old material. With a long relationship, things die then are rekindled, and that shared process of rebirth deepens the love. It’s hard work, though, and a lot of people run at the first sign of trouble. You’re with this person, and suddenly you look like an as***le to them or they look like an as***le to you — it’s unpleasant, but if you can get through it you get closer and you learn a way of loving that’s different from the neurotic love enshrined in movies. It’s warmer and has more padding to it.”

~ Joni Mitchell. https://amzn.to/3OrMCTH

photo by Annie Leibovitz https://amzn.to/3Ytlw2S

original post credit: Beth Spindler

“The Bushmen in the Kalahari Desert talk about the two "hungers". There is the Great Hunger and there is the Little Hunger. The Little Hunger wants food for the belly; but the Great Hunger, the greatest hunger of all, is the hunger for meaning...

There is ultimately only one thing that makes human beings deeply and profoundly bitter, and that is to have thrust upon them a life without meaning.

There is nothing wrong in searching for happiness. But of far more comfort to the soul is something greater than happiness or unhappiness, and that is meaning. Because meaning transfigures all. Once what you are doing has for you meaning, it is irrelevant whether you're happy or unhappy. You are content - you are not alone in your Spirit - you belong.”

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Words by: Laurens van der Post

Photograph of Sir Laurens Van Der Post, with a Bushman in the Kalahari Desert.
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I love the arts - when performers share their hearts and skills in unison.

Baba Yetu (By Christopher Tin) Lord's Prayer in Swahili - Alex Boyé, BYU Men's Chorus/ Philharmonic DOWNLOAD the single “Baba Yetu” on iTunes (https://goo.gl/OSIOtb). Other BYU Men’s Chorus albums are available on Amazon.com (http://amzn.to/1RhMT7A), iTunes...

Bauman is leading the way in trying to challenge the obvious and hidden power dynamics/indoctrination that we all grow up with.

It is likely that there are many steps prior to this. One is to have the courage to challenge -at least within one's self- the beliefs and perspectives that we have taken on from our parents and 'society' that are destructive. That in itself can be a painful process. Let us encourage ourselves and each other to keep doing this so we can release the pain and evolve into more compassionate, healthy beings.

Many of us are being called to heal our generational trauma so the next generation can have a better, healthier future. ❤️

The Gen Z pushback against p**n shows that the industry's stronghold on our culture is finally weakening - CEASE / Centre to End All Sexual Exploitation A recently-published article in The Guardian entitled “What has growing up watching p**n done to my brain – and my s*x life?” chronicled the experiences of author Annie Lord growing up in the 2000s, and the impact p**n had – and continues to have – on the emotional and s*xual development o...

"off the mark" comic by Mark Parisi

Let us all try to deal with our anger more carefully. The most hidden of course, is the anger from childhood, transferred onto adult people/animals and groups. Be mindful, connect the causes in childhood and stop the destructive cycle.

''Anger transference'', c.1954, by Richard Sargent

The water in your body is just visiting. It was a thunderstorm a week ago. It will be the ocean soon enough. Most of your cells come and go like morning dew. We are more weather pattern than stone monument. Sunlight on mist. Summer lightning. Your choices outweigh your substance.