Fight Club: Healing Together

Anonymous:

Ineyo ndikuzunzika mu mtima. I am a single mother. Sindinakwatilepo. Ndiri ndi mwana mmodzi wa 8 years koma after kubeleka I had a complication mpaka anandichotsa chibelekelo.
Zimenezi zinandichitsa confidence komanso chilakolako chofuna kukwatila chifukwa ndimaziona zovuta kuti ndizizifitokoza pa nkhani ya chibekekelo. So what happens is when I am in a relationship zikayamba kukhala serious ine ndimathetsa and I move on.

This time I found a man who really loves me inenso ndimanufila. We have been together for 1 year. He has recently introduced me to his family koma ineyo all the time ndimawopa kuti what will happen akayamba kukamba za banja ndi ana. This is something that has been killing me inside pano mpaka ndaonda nazo. I love this guy. I have a child. He doesn't have a child. I can never give him a child.
Ndiye ndimafuna mundithandizeko maganizo.
Should I start the conversation nkumuwuza?
Kapena should I wait until he starts talking about it? Nditani ine I don't want to lose this guy.
I have prayed kokwanila!!

Did you know ❓️
Ngati munayamba mwazifunsako kuti kodi meina kapena ineyo ndine Narcissist 🤔 It means you are safe. You are NOT! Narcissist samaziona ngati olakwa. Osatheka! He/She is Perfect👌🏿 Amalakwitsa ndi ena...iyeyo ayi!

Moving on...Nkhani ya Healing!
Tizinena mobweleza bwelenza nkumakwezanso volume 🔈 🔉
You can't heal in the same environment that made you sick! Simungachile mu chipwilikiti.
Sunthani! Then Heal❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

PA NKHANI YA MISS MALAWI/MISS WORLD‼️

Yes...I picked a side and I am running with it all the way✌🏾
I stand with Miss Malawi, Thandi Chisi. The girl was wronged. I spoke about it when it happened because I believed it was a grave injustice, and my position has not changed. Ndidakali pompaja. Sindinasunthe.
I therefore cannot be expected to suddenly lodge in the camp that wronged her and start cheering from there. Nde za ma double standards zo zimenenezo! We don't do that here! I will not support the side that did her dirty. It's really that simple.

Apapa mundimvetsetse chifukwa enanu mukuona ngati kusapanga support mbali inayo nde kuti ndikupanga zosiyana with what I stand for here on Fight Club. Ayitu🙅🏾‍♀️

My mandate is very clear. I stand with those who have been abused, those who have been violated. I don't support ALL women. Azimayi ena ali ndi nkhanza. Pomwe azimayi ena akupangila nkhanza mzimayi wina, I will choose to stand with the one who has been violated...which is exactly what i did here. Nde ndikupanga zosiyana patipo🤷🏽‍♀️ I won't support a woman just because...NO. If the situation requires it...I will pick a side...I will stand with the disadvantaged. Unapologetically so!

Fight Club exists to create conversations around abuse, healing, mental health, self-worth, recovery and rebuilding ourselves. I speak against abuse, violence, manipulation, coercion, and the systematic breaking down of another human being.

Nde poti ndili mbali ya Thandi mukuti ndikupanga violence...against who👀 The side that violated Thandi??
Well...Taking a side in a public controversy is not violence. Disagreement is not abuse. Criticism is not violence. Refusing to support someone is not abuse.Words have meanings...OK!

I run a platform that speaks very seriously about abuse and violence, so I will never trivialise those words by using them to describe every disagreement, uncomfortable opinion or opposing position.

Do not turn my advocacy into a cage.I did not start Fight Club so that one day I would be afraid to speak up because every sentence I say might be measured against somebody's interpretation of what a "healing advocate" is allowed to say. No🙅🏾‍♀️
Ine I keep it real. I don't perform.

Hold me accountable where genuine accountability is required. Challenge my ideas. Disagree with me. But do not police every opinion I express. And certainly don't casually attach words like "abuse" and "violence" to my opinions simply because I have taken a position you don't like. If I genuinely cross the line into abusing somebody, definitely call me out. But don't weaponise the language of abuse and violence simply because you don't agree with where I stand. I am allowed to stand with someone I believe was treated unjustly without being required to support the other side for the sake of supporting another woman or to appear "neutral." ...because neutrality is not the Fight Club mandate either.

I hope i have made that clear.

Tizikumanabe mu ma comment section mu ndiye osamandifunsa mafunso ambiri mbiri opanda pake. Ma baseless accusations ndimadana nawo. Tamangodutsani mwakachete chete🤫

On this matter ndasankha kukhala mbali ya Thandi and I don't need anyone to stand with me. You don't have to agree with my choice. Nanu mwasankha yemwe mwamukonda. Musandikokere ku side yanu. Inenso sindikukokerani ku mbali yanga.
Aliyense pamalo pake pheee😌

In a nutshell... I am not supporting za ku Miss world zo because I stand with Thandi Chisi. That's where I am. It's a free world 😝
Zikomo. ❤️

Ife tikati tiyikepo mulomo pa za Miss World zi...akuti tikupanga zosiyana ndi Fight Club. Ati tikuyambitsa violence...against who amangwetu👀
Koma ndili ndi mawu...ndiyankhula.
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