Big Sister 2

Good afternoon
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am 33 been married for 10 years
early last year we went on separation with my husband because of his cheating behaviors
then in December he came back to beg that we get back
Saying he is sorry for everything
I reconsidered but did not move in back to the house coz he is working from a different province and am in Lusaka working at a private school so we planned that in August I should be home where he is
but my worry is that every time we would have a misunderstanding on the phone he will be like if you're not ready to come just stay
but bring my kids over and when you come just know that no visiting your relatives or anyone.
So my sisters I don't know if it's just me thinking too much or something
I feel he can put me in a cage
I just have a bad feeling about it
please advise me no in&ults
if you're for negativity please just pass thank you 🙏🏽
I will be in the comment section.
Stay blessed and happy women's day.

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Hi big hide my ID sister,
am kindly asking for help .am a lady aged 28 married for 3yrs with out a child
My problem is my husband ,ala am getting tired and irritated ,
when ever we have misunderstanding ninshi he will start telling me that, you just getting fât ,
(you eating too much here without bearing children for me am getting old )
sometimes he just tells me off that you not pröductive,,
better I marry someone who's pröductive in my life ,
mwebantu what can I do sure ?
Elo sometimes when I tell him that let's go to the hospital 🏥
his response is that
“am busy or am just ok me “
you are the one who has a problem .

People in similar or who where in my situation what can I do????

ANONYMOUS MEMBER

Kindly help. So just to summarize, I grew up in a debt household.
When the provider had a problem with inkongole.
The debts were not because of not having enough but lack of planning and family influences. Growing up I remember wondering why we didn't have certain things that others who had the same job like my dad had.
I also remember people coming to get the household things like the freezer and stuff here and there.
As a kid I really had no clue why but I only started understanding the problems as I got older.
As time went on things got so bad, he ended up selling the only house we had to clear some debts.
Luckily he bought a plot before the money would run out.
Unfortunately, when he retired he used this retirement money to build a house which is still not fully complete.
Fortunately, in all this chaos, mom and the first born have always been fighters and their fighting spirit rubbed on me and my siblings because we really focused on school and our first born sacrificed most of her youth educating us.
God has blessed us with jobs and now we are able to care for our parents.
The problem is they depend fully on us.
Now my issue is that because of how I grew up, I have become so strict with my finances compared to my siblings because I have lived with my parents more than they have.
I know debts are things we can't run away from due to life's uncertainties but I feel once it becomes a habit to borrow money it becomes very addictive.
I love to plan things and plan how the money will be used.
I don't like spending unnecessarily. Another thing is I live with a chronic illness that takes a part of my finances.
So I save a part of my salary because I don't like to burden my siblings.
Because of this, my family has started labeling me as being difficult when it comes to certain financial issues and decisions.
Believe me I do help when my family member need the money but there are certain things things I draw the line.
I don't know maybe I have a problem but the truth is I just don't want to be a situation I grew up in which I have started seeing in some of my siblings.
Debts not only affect the person borrowing but it also affects the people around.
The struggles of not having food, being chased from school and having people take about your family because of inkongole can be very traumatizing.
And the thing about inkongole it never stops because, even now he's still in the habit of inkongole, whereby we have had to come in as children to bail him out.
That's why I hate inkongole so much.

Am I a problem and do I need to be less strict? Kindly advise.

ANONYMOUS MEMBER

How is your experience as a business or working class lady with a family that has dependency syndrome whereby you help were you can but they still shift their personal responsibilities on you ? How are you managing? what boundaries have you put to protect your peace and be able to achieve your set goals or rather living your desired life without being guilt trapped?

Please post for me in House Wives and Sisters..
I just want sisters in the group to help me in prayers and to hear from those who have passed through the same situation because I'm becoming deprèssed.
I'm 37 weeks pregnant
booked for C-section on Wednesday
ala I'm drained,
when I was 3 months pregnant my husband lost his job and I have a delicacy pregnancy
so I've been in and out of hospital.
I was doing teaching in my final year and I didn't write my final Exam because the pressure was too much at home as am talking I've not finished with hospital bag not to talk about transport money for delivery.
I don't have a bath tub, bucket, gloves and my unborn child doesn't even have harts. My 2 children have been removed from private school to government school.
My husband is a good man and it hurts me seeing him this stressed because of the situation at home.
Those who have gone through the same situation how did you handle it because loosing it and scared at the same time….

Good afternoon my sister.
Kindly post for me in the women group and hide my identify.
Maybe someone can help.
I'm 42 years old.
From the time I was born abaume abamfwaya fye ni bamario nangu ama brôke men,
nga wasanga ulecita bwino ninshi ni muka mwine,
my question is
👉🏽bushe cishilu na kwata nangu e blood yandi or I need deliverance⁉️
pantu cacilamo.
Umwaume impiya iyi kulu iyo ba mpela ni K100 and below.
Even my late husband was like that.
What Can I do at the moment?
I'm fearing and I can't go for a married man because I was once married..

Hello, post for me anonymously. Iam starting Vac soon and would like to start a business so that I dont stay home idle. Please mwebanthu help me with ideas of businesses I can do to keep me busy. Capital is K5000 and am in a n urban area though not a big town.
I already keep broiler chicken at mum's farm and been buying maize. But I want to start something I will be doing alone as am home. Thank you in Advance

Good Afternoon big sister?
Kindly post for me and hide my id.
I recently had a miscarriage in February and I went through the procedure called D and C.
After that the doctor gave me an injectable family planning for 3 months so that I can heal before planning for another baby since am married.
When I came back friends discouraged me and told me that I could have refused the DEPO because it takes years for some one to conceive again.
I felt drained and disappointed upon hearing that,
Each time I think of it I feel bètrayed by the doctor.
Note :
that it's my first time being on such DEPO for three months family planning.
Those with experience does depo pr0vera expires within three months or it doesn't. Or is there anything that helps it to expire fast within three months.
Kindly help.
Am worried each time I think of it.

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No one grew up dreaming of being a cleaner,security guard, car washer or maid. We all had big dreams,but life happened. Respect people's jobs.

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