Wellness with Zahra

If you struggle with anxiety, or other intrusive emotions that make life difficult, then you will benefit from this post.

I share my real experience with anxiety, and how I finally figured out the solution in my mid 30s.

It sounds counterintuitive but it works for me. Do you suffer from anxiety? What has helped you?

Full post here: https://wellnesswithzahra.substack.com/p/idle-hands-and-anxiety

🌸 Once a year, this flower blooms for a day.
I remember when I first rescued this plant, it was blooming. I took it home, looked after it, gave it water, fresh soil, and it wasn't blooming any more.
💦 I waited for months, changed its location, gave it fertiliser, and still no flowers.
🙌 I even doubted myself, and thought that maybe i didn't see it bloom for that first time, that maybe I was mistaken. Still, I kept nourishing it.

😳 And then one day, on my birthday, after propagating the plant, they all bloomed at the same time on the same day.

😢 It was bittersweet as it only lasted for 24 hours but it taught me an important lesson:

👉 If you've been working hard at something, and not seeing the fruits of your labour, don't lose hope. It is in the plants nature to bloom once a year. No amount of forcing is going to change that.

💞 Find out what your nature is. Listen closely. Observe. And pour your energy into your passion, regardless! Be open to surprises.

What's something you've been working hard at? And still waiting for the results? Let's share and support each other!

I've blocked myself from receiving emails for the last 3 months.
🤔You might wonder why I would do such a thing if I've been sending emails to potential prospects, arranging meetings and important conversations.
🥲I've been sitting here wondering the same, as I didn't receive a single reply from anyone for months.

😥The initial temptation was to take it as a rejection. "Maybe they aren't interested". Or perhaps "Maybe it isn't the right time". Possibly even "Maybe I'm not ready"

🥀But these were all just coping mechanisms. I didn't have any feedback to improve my approach, or any encouragement to keep going.

🙏Now I understand what it is:
Self Sabotage.

🤯An unworthy part, that in unconsciously operating in my life, showing me reasons to continue to not believe in myself.

😶‍🌫️So how do we get out of this funk? Start believing in ourselves again?

👉It starts with Self forgiveness...and then integration. Speak to that part, tell it: I hear you, I see you, I love you.

It's not about trying to convince this part that you ARE worthy. This is what most people get wrong about self improvement. It's about understanding that it exists, it has reasons to exist and you love it anyway, because IT MAKES YOU WHOLE 🫶

Stop Judging Yourself. Start Loving Yourself. Yes, even the part of you that Self Sabotages.😻

Have you noticed Self Sabotage in Your Life? Share your best tips to deal with it :)

Learning to Self Love isn't about fighting the parts of yourself that you're unhappy with.
It's about leaning into how these parts make you whole.

This is how you can Radical Self Compassion towards yourself and ultimately others as well.

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Check out my latest Substack Post all about my experience with chronic pain and how you can deal with the limitations of your ageing body while still maintaining Self Determination

https://wellnesswithzahra.substack.com/p/your-mind-on-chronic-pain?r=93nww3&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

Most of my foods are from the top 2 rows of high Satiety foods.
It's not about just counting calories, if you're still feeling hungry and tired all the time.
It's not even about counting your macros.
What you need is food specific nutrition to optimise your energy levels.

This is what gets missed by most people. Same calories, different satiety.

What foods do you usually consume? Share below!