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AITAH for hitting a Karen after she grabbed my baby?
Yesterday, I was at the park with my six-month-old daughter, Emily. It was a nice day, and I was just enjoying some time outside with her. I had her in a stroller, and we were sitting on a bench when this normal crazy looking karen came up to us.

She started making small talk, which was fine at first. But then she started asking all these personal questions about Emily...how old she was, if she was breastfed or bottle fed, stuff like that. It was getting uncomfortable, so I tried to politely end the convo.

Suddenly, she reached into the stroller and picked up Emily without asking. I freaked out and told her to put my baby down. She ignored me and started cooing and making faces at Emily. I was panicking and yelling at her to give my daughter back, but she just wouldn't listen.

In that moment, my protective instincts kicked in. I grabbed Emily out of her arms and pushed her away. She stumbled back, and I slapped her and I think I might have hit her with something because she started bleeding from her nose. She started screaming that I assaulted her and was going to call the police. A crowd started gathering, and some people were telling her she was out of line, while others were looking at me like I was the crazy one.

I got out of there as fast as I could and went straight home. I was shaking and just couldn't believe what had happened. Now I'm worried about what might come next. Did I overreact? Should I have handled it differently?

AITAH for hitting a Karen after she grabbed my baby?

AITHA for telling my family if they’re going to have a 15 minute prayer before my son’s birthday party dinner and lecture everyone about God, to just not show up
I am a single father of 3. My family (mother, sisters and grandparents) became extremely involved with the Christian church over 2 years ago. So much so that it has become a chore just to visit any of them since all they want to talk about is their religion. When we get together it’s never “how have you been? How’s work? How are you?” It is always “when are you going to join us at church? The Holy Spirit really helped me this week. Have you read the Bible I gave you?”. I try to now distance myself from them as much as I can and just spend time with my kids. Last year my mother asked if she could take my kids to get ice cream and go to the park. Little did I know it was a church related event and my daughter quickly called me to pick them up because “a man was speaking into a microphone and people were fainting all around them and crying to god”. That was the last time I let them go with my family alone.

My birthday was in April and I had friends, family and coworkers over just to relax and take time off, swim a little and play backyard games. When it came time to eat my mother took it upon herself to make a huge speech about how it was/is difficult raising a son that does not believe in religion and her testimony that god is the way. I felt the ambience change and everyone got uncomfortable. After that I tried to blow it off and continued entertaining people that were there. That’s when my family brought out their pamphlets and began going to everyone and preaching to them. Talking to them for 10s of minutes at a time. I pulled my mom to the side and told her that this is not the place nor time for all of that. She apologized and they left soon after.

My son’s birthday is coming up and while at my moms for Memorial Day she quickly asked me if it was ok to speak to some people about the lord. I took it upon myself to inform everyone if they are going to act like a congregation to a child’s birthday party to just not show up period. Everyone looked upset at me. Now I have them calling and texting me saying I should be ashamed of myself for “denying the lord to people”. I honestly want to just cut them all off because these past couple of years have been insufferable.

WIBTA if I decide to leave because my partner doesn’t want to help with our baby?
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I am 22F and I am currently 32 weeks pregnant. I am in a relationship and have been dating my partner for 4 years.

Today my partner and I were talking about the baby and he was saying that if I am going to nit pick at everything he does with the baby like I have with our dog (he now says that the dog is mine because I didn’t let him discipline the dog how he saw fit) then he will give me one warning then after that he will become a couch potato and said he will have nothing to do with the baby if I don’t let him do things the way he wants to.

I don’t want to come across as nit picking or anything but I’m afraid if he’s feeding the baby, for example, and I can see it would be better if he lifted the baby’s head or was to do something differently that he would perceive that as nit picking and then just give up on us. I almost feel like I have to walk on eggshells because I don’t want to accidentally say the wrong thing and set him off.

I feel like if he did become a couch potato and did nothing to help out then I would want to take the baby and leave this relationship. But, the thought of doing that makes me feel incredibly guilty. We also own a house together too.

TLDR - my boyfriend said that if I nit pick at everything he does with the baby, and I don’t allow him to parent the way he wants, he will become a couch potato and have nothing to do with the baby.

AITAH for kicking my MIL out of my house for being passive aggressive about my husband cleaning up?
My husband, Tom, and I recently moved into our house, today we hosted our first dinner party with my mother in law (mil), FIL, BILs and their wives and SIL. I took a day off from the my business to make sure everything was perfect. I spent hours on my feet to make sure everything was perfect, I went grocery shopping, cleaned the house and cooked. By the time everyone got here I was exhausted but I still entertained everyone because I was so excited to have them over.

Everyone was having a good time, even MIL, I think its because Tom and I sat at opposite end of the table and she got to sit next to him. We moved to the living room to have dessert and that's when everything went to crap. I was in the kitchen with SIL plating up the desserts she brought and making more ice cream. A few minutes later Tom came back and started clearing up the dishes that were on the table, I didn't ask him to do this, he's just like this. MIL heard us talking and came to the kitchen and saw Tom loading the dishwasher, she asked if he knew what he was doing and he told he did.

MIL came in after Tom went back to the living room and said (I forgot some of the other stuff she said). "PugLoverNo1565, if you needed help with cleaning up you could have asked us to do it instead of stressing Tom with it. He's not good at this sort of thing and he has had a long day at work. The key to happy marriage is working together and making life easier for each other. Tom works so hard, he bought this house and everything in it to make life easier for you. The least you can do is clean up". I told her I didn't ask for help, Tom just helped because this is house too and he wants to make life easier for me. I also asked her if she realised it wasn't 1993 because Tom isn't a baby anymore he's capable of cleaning up, its not rocket science. I told her we don't need marriage advice, especially from her because she said something about making our marriage last while she's was on marriage number 3/7 at my age. She called me angry and said I had no need to be vicious, I told her I'd show her vicious and I left the room. MIL followed me to the door and I told her get out, she did and then started crying.

Everyone came to see what was going on and I told them I'm tired of MIL and her nastiness she tries to hide by being passive aggressive. FIL apologised for her and I told him I don't accept, she can apologise for herself or leave. Tom and his brother Andrew told her to apologise and she refused so I shut the door in her face and went to the kitchen. FIL and one of DH's brothers and his girlfriend left soon after. The rest that stayed had a good time and they left two hours ago.

All hell has broken loose and I'm getting messages basically calling me an as***le. I don't think I was but Tom and everyone who stayed is biased because they can't stand MIL, so I don't know. AITAH?

AITAH for telling the boyfriend of my husband’s AP that she’s cheating on him?
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I 38F found out my husband 40M of 14 years was having an affair with a coworker.

I was utterly crushed. We had a really good relationship and I never would have suspected that he was cheating on me.

I looked the AP up and she had a boyfriend of 2 years so she was cheating on him the entire time.

Obviously I felt it was right to tell her boyfriend that she was cheating on him with proof. I would've wanted to be told in the same situation.

He asked if we could meet once so I could tell him what was going on. I met him and he was absolutely lovely, ridiculously handsome, and funny. It really solidified that cheating had nothing to do with a betrayed partner because I was feeling insecure about it before. He also offered a revenge lay and I obviously declined. We agreed to confront our partners on the same day roughly same time.

Afterwards, I told my husband that I knew he was having an affair. He immediately begged for my forgiveness and said that he was sickened about what he had done. If I gave him another chance, he would spend the rest of my life making it up to me.

He said that he was feeling insecure about aging and no longer being the man he once was. To get some of that back and to show off his wealth and power.

We talked about it for a long time. I told him that I told AP's boyfriend because unlike some people I don't believe in hiding things from your partner and the blood drained out of his face. He said that the bf was abusive and I should have never told him.

The AP contacted him to say that bf had screamed at her for hours and she was afraid and needed my husband to come over.

I told him there was no way he was coming over to help AP. We could call the police. After all he knows her address. He left anyways, saying that he loved me but AP's blood was on my hands if I said anything.

I called the police and told them that I think there is a disturbance at AP's place.

My husband came back later and he had a black eye. He claimed AP's bf got violent with him. He maintained that he did the right thing. The the police just told the two of them to leave before they both got arrested for fighting.

He said that he couldn't believe I was so heartless because I had read the texts and "knew bf was abusive." When I read the texts all I saw were lies on lies focused on me because my husband would lie to his coworker about how the marriage was dead and that I cared more about appearance than him that I was using him for his money. None of which is true. I have a better job than him and a better financial position. I don't believe the AP's sob story.

I refused to apologize for telling the bf. My husband called me vindictive. He's been telling his side of the family that and I'm getting iced out until I tell my side of the story which makes it more 50/50 on whether I did the right thing. AITAH?

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