Tantric Opening For You

Hello, dear couples!

Do you still see and feel each other as partner or are there an emotional distance and the daily life struggles between the two of you?

Being in a partnership and sharing this bond can feel like the most powerful and precious gift in life. To have each other's back, to fool around like kids and simply hold each other.

But let's be real - to keep the relationship spirit up, making time and space for each other regularly and staying fascinated with this one person on a daily basis can be a challenge.

We start to perceive each other through the filters of unmet expectations and daily life struggles.

Would you like to explore a more loving way of encountering each other again?

How Rumi said once:
“Somewhere beyond right and wrong, there is a garden. I will meet you there.”

This is the kind of space I`m creating for couples:

A place where we can meet each other again without jumping to our minds’ quick evaluations of ‘right&wrong’.

A place where we see beyond the assumptions we made about ourselves, the other and the ‘we’.

Where we can soften and see the beauty in ourselves and our partner again. The beauty we all hold within us.

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How my severe anger issues disappeared! 🌬

When I started my Ta**ra journey at 18, I was just about to finish my high school diploma.

I had always enjoyed going to school, except for the last three years, the upper grades. Those years changed me.

I couldn’t really find my place in my class, kept getting into conflicts with my classmates, and especially one girl made it her mission to make my life miserable and turn others against me. She was very popular, and suddenly, I became the outsider. What started as just a lack of sympathy grew into deep hatred inside me. I hated her, and I hated every day I had to go to school. I hated my class and my life.

It went so far that I told my friends from my hometown that I wanted to live on a lonely island, and that humanity should just die out.

I was a constantly annoyed, very impatient, and angry person when my then-boyfriend signed me up for a Ta**ra workshop in Berlin. I had no idea what it would be about, but thanks to my naivety, I just went along with it.

The workshop hoster became my teacher, and the Ta**ra training became my first education after high school.

What a leap from being a student in the small, very conservative village where I grew up to becoming a Ta**ra Lady!
But it was mostly a leap from my hate-filled, deeply depressed self to a loving and compassionate woman who began to reconnect with other people, with life, and of course, with herself.

My teacher explained to me back then that Ta**ra is much less about techniques and more about the inner attitude. That you don’t meet your counterpart from your own ego – which judges and divides things into good and bad – but from the Higher Self, which accepts the other person as they are today and recognizes and appreciates their beauty and purity.

You look at them with love, as if you had created this wonderful being yourself.

At that time, I understood what he was saying on a rational level, but a deeper understanding only developed through practice. I’ll never forget how light and happy I felt when I gave my first massages and cultivated this new attitude in my interactions with people. It was such a liberating and uplifting feeling!

Wow, I felt like I belonged again for the first time in a very long time.
I realized that back then, I was constantly judging my classmates, separating myself from them, and contributing to the fact that we were always against each other instead of being with and for each other.

I cried and laughed a lot when all the hate was able to be released and flew out of me.
I became a more patient and compassionate version of myself and the relationships with my family and friends improved tremendously.

Most of all, one person benefits every single moment from it: Me!

Today, it’s so much more fun to be myself and to embrace life!

Loving encounters can change you and give you a new point of view, a fresh one, a light one 🙏

Feeling stuck can feel like failing.

The last time I felt great and light and open, I couldn't understand why there actually are these moments in which I and everything in my life feel so heavy.
And I thought ,,Wow, life's so amazing, I don't go back to this grey, sad hole, never ever again!"

But then it just hit me again. There came the same thoughts of ,,This is not going to work out!", I started to feel lonely and depressed again.

And you know what - it doesn't matter that from time to time this dark hole sucks you in again. In a world where feeling heavy and negative is the daily life reality for the majority, it quickly pulls us in there because as an aware being, you can feel this general heaviness.

What matters then, is becoming aware of what happens and don't go into one of the two common directions:
1) just accepting it or
2) fighting/resisting it.

Do you often make yourself wrong for how you feel? Thinking of yourself as a loser? That's the resisting path.
Or do you isolate yourself and scroll through social media and turn on Netflix to numb it away? That's the accepting path.

Has this ever actually helped you to feel better? Or did you feel even worse afterwards? Even more like failing?

I had been there many times. Today it got me again when I didn't manage to get into a work flow with my tasks.
I got so annoyed by it. But instead of losing myself on the social media spiral to distract myself, I began to ask questions.

For example I asked my body ,,What would open you up again?"
I gave him different options and I got a clear Yes when I offered going out to a beautiful café that I love.

I went there and it didn't take me 10min until I felt inspired to write the text for my current job offer in the studio.

It just came naturally to me without effort and the feeling of being stuck, dissolved so quickly. I didn't had to fight or to numb it.

In the café are soo many flowers and the whole design is playful and nicely integrated in nature. This is what our souls love.
Pictures of the paradise are usually colourful and aesthetically pleasing right? People there are serene and in a good mood. It`s conatgious and actually difficult to stay depressed.

My former mentor always used to say ,,If you feel stuck, give yourself a real experience!", but it's not always super clear what would actually be fun for us in that moment right? Especially when you anyway feel down and it's hard to think out of the "Everything annoys me!"-loop.

But your body knows. Always.

The more often you ask him questions and listen, the clearer you can hear your soul speakig through him and life becomes much more joy and easeful 🌞