Soul & Softness

I named it:
‘Your body called - it wants you to come home-phase’

I love the pre-menstrual phase
No bu****it
No pretending
No sugarcoating
Just pure cut to the core kind of energy

If something is off — you’ll feel it
Loud

Not to overwhelm you
But to wake you up

The luteal phase is so powerful
It brings you back on track
Back into alignment
Back into your body

Your inner autumn isn’t the problem
It’s when you ignore yourself

Can you listen - instead of pushing it away? 💜

You can wake up feeling low
and still have an amazing day

This morning I woke up feeling heavy
Something hurt — and I couldn’t explain it
My first instinct was to suppress it

But I didn’t
I stayed
Sat with it
No running

And underneath the pain… there was power
Another layer peeled

Coming back into your body isn’t always soft or peaceful
Sometimes it hurts
But it’s where you find yourself again

Can you stay with it — just a little longer?

Woman you have been tamed
Your body has been tamed
Your voice has been tamed
Your soul has been tamed
Your creativity has been tamed
Your power has been tamed
Your fire has been tamed
Every single cell in you has been tamed

And do you know who has the power to make you untamed? YOU! Nobody else than YOU! Does it scare you to be the untamed version of your being? To be the too much version? Well I get it. It feels vulnerable not being the calm and collected one, right?
To stand there in your rawness letting people see you, not hiding behind the picture perfect version of you who has everything figured out. Let me tell you something I almost never feel like I have everything figured out and when I do it rarely lasts long 😅 Because life is messy and it’s only gonna be more messy from here on, because the old way is dying and it will feel chaotic, but from chaos comes innovation and a new world ✨ so we better lean in to the chaos and not resisting it.

I often feel like my life is a mess. Does it make me less worthy or does it make me authentic and real to admit that I often feel like a mess. My emotions are often all over the place, but I ride those waves like a queen. I loved the idea of being calm and collected. I thought it would make me lovable, but really it made me loose myself.
So now I follow my gut and let it lead me to my next step. I have surrendered to the fact that I don’t know where life will take me, but as long as I have myself I know everything is just the way it’s suppose to be.
Magical and ever changing ✨💜🌱
So if you need permission to be untamed, messy and all over the place it’s hereby given 🔥

People pleasing is a survival strategy and big time fakeness. Many of us grow up surviving on pleasing and it makes me sick to my stomach to think about the levels of pleasing happening in our society.
The good girl condition 🤢
What makes me feel sick is the fact that we live in a world that wants a fake version of us rather than the true and honest one and further more gets offended when we show up authentically. And most of all I feel a deep sadness around this. That we want a fake version rather than the true one.
How can we trust each other if we are not honest? How can I believe your words are true, if you are not speaking from your truth?

I know how it feels to be a people pleaser, maybe that why it hits so hard. I’m so grateful that I have come to understand this pattern and proud that I have the courage to change it. Because, people pleasing is a survival strategy it can feel terrifying to let it go. It can feel like you are dying and in one way you are, because that people pleasing version of you is dying. Further more the strategy provided you with love and connection, so where are you gonna get that, when you let it go. First of all you are gonna give it you yourself and second, the love and connection you got from pleasing was fake. The people who leaves when you start showing up authentically were never your people.
There are people who want the real you. Trust me 💜

The trick is not to run from unpleasant emotions or discomfort. The trick is to hold yourself with love and care while you move through it. Expecting a life without pain and discomfort will not get you to your dreams.
If you grew up with parents who couldn’t hold that space for you, then it’s your job to teach yourself to hold that space for you 💜
I know it might seem impossible, but it’s not. Trust me - have done it. It does take some practice like everything else in life.
Sidenote: Find yourself a person who has emotionel authority in human design 😅 They know how to hold space for emotions ✌🏼 Or find yourself a good therapist 💜 Alright joke aside 🤓 And back to how to hold space for yourself when feeling uncomfortable. We have a tendency to shut down when we feel something uncomfortable, but here you need to stay open. Breathe, move and stay conscious in the moment. The pain won’t stay forever, but you have to stay long enough for the transformation to happen. For the energy to move through the space you ones shut down and here you need to bring in YOUR love, Your care, YOUR safety. You need to give yourself what you need right there.
A sentence I use myself when I’m move through something painful is:
“Allow me to heal this pain.”
It soothes and opens something in me and allows me to stay with it.
We think if we really feel the pain it will stay forever or completely destroy us, but it won’t. It will transform into love, ease and beauty ✨💜🌱 It’s all about transforming the energy within you 🌀

Comment 💜 to this post to receive The Love & Connection Clearing ✨

The codes and believes that will be cleared on are:
🌀 The more I step into who I am the more love and connection I have to give up
🌀The more I shine my light the more I have to give up love and connection
🌀The more I live and unfold my purpose the more I have to give up love and connection
🌀The more I pursue my dream the more I have to give up love and connection
🌀No matter what I do I’ll loose love and connection
🌀The more I speak my truth the more I loose love and connection
🌀When it feels like I’m loose love and connection I need to close my heart, so I don’t feel the pain and grief
🌀 Love and connection makes me weak and vulnerable
🌀I can either have love and connection or money
🌀 If I want to live my dream I have to give up love and connection
🌀 I need to stay in my littleness to receive love and connection

If emotions are rising after the clearing let them pass, move and go with the new ✨💜✨
Be gentle with yourself and stay hydrated 💦

I think we need to redefine anger. Many see anger as a bad thing, but without anger there’s no determination no desire no action no bundaries.
The anger we see as “bad” is determination, willpower and desires that hasn’t been expressed. A build up anger lock up in the body and that’s unhealthy as f**k!

Anger is passion. Anger is ‘I’m on a mission and I’m not giving up’ kinda of energy 🔥 Anger is that fire inside you that’s makes you feel alive. So this one goes out to all you fire ladies that are holding your fire back.
Show it to me! Let it burn wild again.
Don’t let 80 year old you down 👵🏼

And yes it’s spring equinox, Aries season, fire horse energy and I’m feeling it 🔥

And if there are any astrologers on the line I can inform you that I have 5 planets in Aries and 6 in 1st house 🔥🔥🔥😂

We can always rewrite the story. It is in our own hands. Everyday we can choose who we show up as. Sometimes we can forget that and think our hands are tied, but you know what? They are not! Every time you tell yourself that you have no choice you are lying to yourself. You always have a choice. You might not want to see or make that choice, because it scares you or you are not willing to do it.

I know how it feels not wanting to take action on what you know you need to choose or do. I used to be so stuck, not making choices, because I was afraid - didn’t think a had the power to transform the situation I was in, but you know what? I had and did! It required me to go deep within to reconnect with the forgotten strength I had buried all the way in the back to become the person I am today.

We all have that strength and power within us. And damn am I proud of the choice I made. Was it easy? F**k no! Will I make the difficult choice again? ABSOLUTELY! Because that choice made me free and stronger. So here to the difficult choices that will make it easier in the long run 🔥🏃🏼‍♀️‍➡️🌱

Your existence is important
Your energy is important
Your being is important
Stop believing that it’s not!

And if that voice in your head tells you otherwise. Just know that it is the biggest lie and some fcking bu****it, because by being you, you can change the world, but we have been taught that we are too small to make a difference, but I’m not buying it anymore.
I know that I make a difference in someone’s life every time I show. And it’s not that my ego is not yelling in my head telling me: You can’t say that! Of cause I can, because it’s the truth. And you too are making a difference in someone’s life 🔥
So how about we start believing in that?!

You have every right to take up space. To stop playing yourself small and be the brilliant human being that you are 🔥