Angela Horan-Sibley

Try not to cry too much over the past it’s gone… try not to stress and overthink about the future, it hasn’t arrived yet. Live in the present and make each day beautiful….

Overthinking is the biggest cause of unhappiness.

Be conscious of your thoughts each and everyday. Leave go of what you can’t control.

Good morning Monday…

I am full of optimism this Monday that we can turn the corner. After a very tough week for Liam and spending his 21st birthday in hospital, we are hoping this fresh week also brings a nice week for him.
Mikey brought him to Cardiff on Saturday so he managed to have his birthday meal with friends. Which he so needed. And they drove home afterwards. But seen him smile was the most important thing for us. My friends have planned a weekend for him in London next weekend. Another thing to look forward too.

So this week I am stepping into it with such hope. 🙏🙏🙏🙏

21 years ago, Our darling Liam was born

From the second they put you in my arms I have never felt love so intense. You arrived 4 weeks early and after 57 hours of hard labour(I just thought I would mention it )you arrived and changed our lives with such joy.

You were that lovely baby, child, teen and adult that always has a smile on their face. You treat every person you come across with such respect and make them feel so special. But fill the room with laughter and entertainment. But also those that know you, know what an incredible human being you are, you will change the world for the best.
We are the Three amigos and our family bond is beyond special, your loved unconditionally.

21 years we have had so much fun, adventures and laughter and that I am sure will continue always. Keep being you Liam, live your life authentically as you do. Be fearless in your ambitions and dreams. The last number of weeks, you have shown so much strength and courage and you will get over this malaria and come back stronger and more determined and we are so proud of you. Your love of travelling, and charity work will continue in Uganda because you know you will make a difference. And you will always have our support.

Happy 21st Son… we love you so much. X # # #💙🌎☘️🙏💙💖

21 years ago, Our darling Liam was born

From the second they put you in my arms I have never felt love so intense. You arrived 4 weeks early and after 57 hours of hard labour(I just thought I would mention it )you arrived and changed our lives with such joy.

You were that lovely baby, child, teen and adult that always has a smile on their face. You treat every person you come across with such respect and make them feel so special. But fill the room with laughter and entertainment. But also those that know you, know what an incredible human being you are, you will change the world for the best.
We are the Three amigos and our family bond is beyond special, your loved unconditionally.

21 years we have had so much fun, adventures and laughter and that I am sure will continue always. Keep being you Liam, live your life authentically as you do. Be fearless in your ambitions and dreams. The last number of weeks, you have shown so much strength and courage and you will get over this malaria and come back stronger and more determined and we are so proud of you. Your love of travelling, and charity work will continue in Uganda because you know you will make a difference. And you will always have our support.

Happy 21st Son… we love you so much. X # # #💙🌎☘️🙏💙💖

Close the window that hurts you, no matter how beautiful the view is.

Be like a tree, stay grounded, keep growing and learn when to let go….

How do you cope with unpredictability?

Most of us that have had childhood trauma, that grew up in unpredictable environments really struggle with this..

The lack of consistent and safe environments in our very early life. We become very sensitive for us to have a natural survival instinct, the fight or flight response becomes our normal response.

When you grow up in this environment where you had no control of what could happen next. You then will feel the need to control and possibly micro managed every area of your life, just to feel you have some control. But this has a negative impact in relationships and situationships especially if they are unpredictable. So you will find you withdraw or fiercely protect. This is the flight or fight mode. Or you surrender in relationships so you avoid any form of conflict as it makes it so uncomfortable for you.

Is this something you relate too?

What is your self talk telling you?

Your inner voice will be dominating your daily life. You might not be even aware that your doing it. The inner voice combines conscious thoughts with beliefs and creates how you behave daily.

This is what we should be saying each day, it does NOT happen overnight, we need to practice every single day.

- I am fully capable of handling this situation
- I am strong
- I have control over how I react to this
- I am always improving
- I am so much to offer
- I am so proud of what I have achieved so far
- I can overcome this
- I can do this
- I deserve to succeed

Today be conscious of your inner voice. Do you think the above could help you?

How do you respond to things?

What’s the difference between reacting or responding. If you think of a relationship it’s the easiest way to know what you do personally.

Reacting to a situation is a quick responsive emotion, that you have not considered. It’s immediate and emotionally charged. It will be a reaction to your past experiences, values, but it’s an unproductive to solving issues.

Responding takes some time and more of a thought process. You have to notice how your feeling, how the situation is affecting you, and time to reflect how you want to respond. It has a much better result than reacting.

I imagine myself as an island, that the water in between is my time to think before responding.

What I have learnt as I have got older, lots of things that happen you don’t need to react or respond too.