Seja Você

One of the most freeing, and defiant things you can do in life, is to truly love yourself. If you're not there yet, then i wish you the strength and perseverance, in finding your wings. 🦋

For those of us, already there; finish this sentence, in the comments below. When i loved myself... Tell me what changed. Was it an act of self-compassion? Learning more about yourself, and what you do and don't like? Or maybe you bravely, started a whole new adventure?! The biggest change for me, and one that honestly took years to develop, was boundaries. First, i had to find out what they were. Secondly, i had to reach the point, where enough, really was enough. Not just keep saying it once a year, and then going back to the same 'friendships.' And lastly, setting boundaries for myself; but the hardest part, also walking away, when they're not respected. Now i'm not saying, turn into Edward Scissorhands, ready to cut people off in seconds. We're all flawed humans. But if someone has shown you, they are not a safe person for you; whether it be physically, emotionally, financially, etc. Then please love yourself enough, to walk away, and make space for those, who truly will, love and respect you. 😊

Last week, i was watching an episode of Tonight's Conversation, on youtube, and it got me all in my feelings. Mostly, hurt and anger. Hurt, for the poor young lady, asking the question. And anger, for all the years, i too, put up with men's foolishness.

On the episode, this beautiful young lady, both in looks and spirit, came to the mic. I can / remember, what her exact question was. But she was basically saying, that her partner kept cheating on her; and what could she do, to improve herself, to stop him cheating. And stop him, from being derogatory about her.

There's a lot, i could say on this. But with a word limit, I'll keep it to two points. Firstly, the only thing that will keep a man from cheating, is himself. We've all seen women they've chosen, to have affairs with. Even stay with afterwards. I used to look in disbelief. Some women friend' partners cheated with, neither had good faces, or good hearts. Why did they choose them? I believe, for three reasons. Number one, they knew their wife/partner, would allow them to stay; just so they didn't lose them. Number two, because men go for women, who are easy. Which i get, we all want a peaceful life. But an emotionally intelligent, grown woman, will call out any foolishness; and cause them, to live to a higher standard. Not every man, is willing to do the work necessary, to be a great husband and Father. So they go where's easiest. And Number three, just like you, they choose women, on their current level. So if a man is unhealed, struggling in life, etc. He, like us, will be attracted to someone similar. Because that dysfunction, feel comfortable to them.

And lastly, my second point. Never let a man, or anyone, dictate your value. We all have self-esteem issues, to work through. But if yours are still at a level, where you'll accept less than your worth.... please do not, entertain a relationship. A partner is an equal. Not to be displayed, on a pedestal. A good man will pursue you, with intention and clarity. He will see your value, and treat you accordingly. Please do not accept less than this. And if you are, then make loving yourself again, your number one priority. 💗

Heading to the park, with the children, whilst the sun's out? Then why not make use of the benches there, and get a good tricep workout in, at the same time!

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Whether you want to feel better about yourself, and your body now. You want to get healthy eating habits built now, before the winter sets in. Or you have a wedding, or special event next year, and want to give yourself a year, to focus on looking and feeling your best. Send me a message, and we can arrange a call, to discuss your goals, and how i can help with that. 😊