Norah Finn Therapy

I will be out of the office from June 13th - June 29th. See you on my return.

Much thanks. I hope you’re all keeping well. Norah 💜

THERAPY IS …… so much more than words!
We go to therapy to seek support through life changes, and if we’re growing, then we’re changing. Therapy supports us to grow deeper in awareness of the unconscious patterns we’re acting out of that hinder us in relating effectively with others in our world. We all have a part to play in breaking the stigma attached to seeking emotional support. Talking with a trained professional is an emotionally healthy choice.

“It’s good to talk”, really, it’s necessary to talk, to seek support. We cannot bypass the process. It allows us to grow in awareness of self. Going to therapy is a life long process. If you’re going to anyone for support in your life, make sure you check out that they too engage in the process of therapy. Never seek support from anyone who doesn’t avail of their own ongoing exploration and growth of self. Therapy is not something you complete, it’s a process that is a part of your ongoing support plan.

I do not meet broken people in my therapy room. I meet really well people who are seeking support in discovering who they are and why and how they operate as they do in this world. It really is time that the world dropped the outdated view that therapy is for people who are broken. I never worry about anyone who attends for therapy, I worry about those who avoid therapy, or see themselves as not in need of it, or as a process they’ve completed. We all deserve to live our life with peace of mind. Accept nothing less for yourself. 💜

online awareness innergrowth

JUDGING OTHERS is often a reflection of the wounds within ourselves that have not yet healed.

As we heal, we learn to see and accept all parts of who we are - our strengths, our flaws, our victories, and our mistakes. We begin to meet ourselves with compassion rather than criticism. And when we stop judging ourselves so harshly, we naturally become less judgmental of others.

Arrogance can be a shield. It can protect us from facing the shame, insecurity, or pain we carry within. If we convince ourselves that we are superior to others, we don’t have to acknowledge our own struggles. We don’t have to look at the parts of ourselves that need healing.

The truth is that arrogance is often rooted in hurt. People who lack compassion for themselves may project that same lack of compassion onto others.

The journey is not about becoming perfect. It is about becoming aware. It is about learning to love and accept ourselves, warts and all.

When we cultivate self-compassion, we create space for compassion toward others. When we stop condemning ourselves, we become less inclined to condemn those around us.

Therapy can help us examine the inner judge and understand how we relate to ourselves. Because ultimately, the way we treat ourselves shapes the way we treat others.

Self-love is not selfish - it is the foundation of empathy, understanding, and connection. 💜

DO WE THANK THAT LITTLE CHILD WITHIN US FOR WHAT THEY NEEDED TO DO TO SURVIVE? Don’t over burden them now. Let them be free. Let them play.

If we find ourselves being irritated, over reacting, stressing, defending ourself, feeling abandoned, panicked, over apologizing, over thanking, taking things personally, etc, chances are that it’s not the adult in us responding. It’s the small wounded little child who’s in charge. .

Therapy helps us to welcome our inner child back to us. To become the person we needed when we were little. It allows us to separate the child within from the adult we are today. Otherwise, that small person is running the show. We wouldn’t leave a child to do adult things. They wouldn’t be safe. Why would we do that to the small human within us?

If you find yourself blindly acting in a way that you later regret and think “I can’t believe I just did/said that”, chances are you were acting out of the younger unhealed parts of self. Until we acknowledge, embrace and love the small version of us, how can we ever love the adult self.

Be kind to the little you. Slowly introduce yourself and encourage them to play and feel safe in this world. It’s your job to save them now 💜

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Coercive control is psychological abuse. You don’t grow accustomed to it. You don’t learn to live with it. It is a form of psychological warfare inflicted upon you.

You don’t develop a thick skin. It breaks you down, piece by piece.

If you find yourself searching online, trying to understand someone else’s toxic behaviour, that’s information in itself. If their behaviour were healthy, rational, and respectful, why would you feel the need to constantly research and make sense of it?

Living with psychological abuse will wear you down. It can erode your confidence, your sense of self, and your connection to who you are. Over time, it can leave you feeling like a shell of the person you once were.

Education is power. Keep learning about toxic relationship dynamics and coercive control. The more you understand, the more clearly you can see what’s happening, and the more able you become to break free from the grip of a trauma bond.

Toxic relationships are progressive, but recovery is too. Keep educating yourself. Reach out for support. Start talking about what you’re experiencing.

You are not going crazy. What you’re feeling deserves to be taken seriously. 💜

Allow nothing or no one to disturb your inner peace. You, and only you, can make the best of your life.

You do not need anyone’s permission to be happy. Make the choice yourself to be happy. Do life your way 🌻

Telling people they need to learn not to argue back is unrealistic. Especially if you’re a woman. I’m tired of that draconian message designed to keep us demure and polite. Absolutely fight back when a fight is brought to you. Stand your ground. Don’t allow anyone intimidate or belittle you.

I’m tired of the message that the answer to conflict is always to stay silent, walk away, or be the bigger person. The message shouldn’t be “don’t fight back.” The message should be: “don’t attack people. Don’t bully people. Don’t intimidate people”. Give that message to bullies. Let them know that we will fight back against bullying.

If someone comes at you with hostility, disrespect, or psychological aggression, you have every right to stand up for yourself.

Refusing to be a doormat, having boundaries, standing your ground, is not aggression. It’s what a mentally healthy person does.

Too often, men who stand up for themselves are considered assertive, while women who do the same are considered aggressive. I reject that double standard. I refuse to be stereotyped by that outdated patriarchal message.

Most of the time, I’m an amicable woman. I enjoy peace, cooperation, and respectful conversations. I’m not looking for conflict.
But if someone brings a fight to me, they shouldn’t be surprised when I refuse to roll over.

I don’t shy away, intimidate easily, or crumble under disapproval. My self-esteem is not dependent on anyone else’s approval.

Raise your voice, and I’ll match your tone. Attempt to shout me down, and you’ll find I won’t be silenced.

I don’t believe people should suppress their fighting spirit. There is a difference between being peaceful and being passive. There is a difference between being kind and being a doormat.

I am a lover. I value kindness, compassion, and connection. But I am also a fighter.

For me, being whole means being comfortable with both.

Love when love is called for. Strength when strength is required.

Love or war, I’ll take each as it comes and respond accordingly.

You have a right to empower yourself. Stand into your power. I’m certainly right behind you💜

I wish you all a wonderful weekend filled with everything that is good for your body, mind, and soul 💜

How you choose to treat those around you says everything about you. .ycc is such a lovely place to be, to work out of, and to visit. They value and respect all. They give so much to their local community.

Give their page a follow. I’m very happy to be delivering my services out of this busy hive of activity for the local community. And the staff - second to none. Such lovely people 💜