Marriage Counseling and Relationship Guides

14 WAYS TO MAKE YOUR SPOUSE ENJOY SPENDING TIME WITH YOU

1. BE PEACEFUL
People find themselves coming back to where they find peace

2. MEET YOUR SPOUSE'S NEEDS
When your spouse knows that from you, their s*xual and emotional needs are met, they will keep coming back

3. BE APPRECIATIVE
Celebrate your spouse, show that you value him/her. People go where they are celebrated, not tolerated

4. ADD VALUE
When your spouse is with you, let him/her leave better, wiser, more refreshed, lighter, happier than they were before. Be that person who adds value to your spouse's purpose and quality of day

5. DO NOT BE JUDGEMENTAL
Refrain from being one who makes conclusive statements such as "You always do this and that" or looking at your spouse differently when he/she does something that doesn't sit right with you or opens up to you about something unpleasant. People avoid environments of judgment

6. BE GOOD AT TOUCHING
Learn how to touch your spouse, how he/she loves being held. Your spouse will keep coming for the touch

7. AVOID FIGHTS
Have control over your temper, know how to deescalate things. Not every disagreement should result into a fight. Avoid drama

8. DON'T COMPLAIN YOUR SPOUSE IS NOT SPENDING TIME WITH YOU
The mistake many make is to attack and complain to their spouse about how he/she no longer makes time. This pushes your spouse away instead of inviting your spouse

9. TALK ABOUT WHAT HE/SHE LIKES
Learn your spouse's favourite topics and engage. It will keep you from being boring

10. BE FUN
Don't take life too seriously, don't suck the air in the room, don't be negative. Respond to your spouse's naughtiness, flirting and playful nature. Fun is inviting

11. BE A GOOD LISTENER
People go where they feel heard. Don't dominate conversations. Show your spouse his/her thoughts, opinions and stories matter

12. COMMUNICATE THAT YOU MISS YOUR SPOUSE
Let your spouse know how great a time you two have together. It will make your spouse feel important

BEST TIME TO MAKE LOVE TO YOUR SPOUSE (for married couples only)

Yes, you should make love anytime you both want to but here are strategic times you don't want to miss and means the whole world to your spouse. Make your spouse feel super special during this period, enjoy love making like never before and help them overcome s*xual temptation out there and stick to you -their honey pot, sweet sugar pie and paradise zone forever *winks*.

1. Before they travel.

2. After they return from travelling.

3. Second to fourth days before and after menstruation for those with regular period and wants love making without the drama of pregnancy, condom, pills or injection.

4. Ovulation period for those seeking babies.

5. All through 9 months pregnancy day in, day out as your power can carry. (Don't vomit on uncle during the first trimester sha).

6. When they are not happy.

7. When they feel so lonely or depressed.

8. On a cold rainy night.

9. Early harmattan morning.

10. During celebration e.g new job, business breakthrough, promotion, award of contract, etc.

11. When you are looking super s*xy and he can't take his eyes off you.

12. When you are super charming and she is prowling all over you.

13. After settling your "quarrel".

Alright, there you go baby, go rock your lover's bed. Here you go uncle, start doing some press up and weight lifts, you need some energy to do your job during this period, laughs.

Seriously, there is no time limit or barrier to anytime you want to make love to your spouse.

Follow your schedule, rhythm passion, time table or whatever.

Don't neglect those special moments either, love making during those periods are more meaningful, deep and affectionate but each family differs. Just do what works for you.

I want you to experience uninterrupted bliss, joy and peace in every way you can in your marriage.

Keep the ball rolling!

IMMATURE WIFE WOULD ALWAYS HAVE THESE THREE CHARACTER

1. Going to sleep in spare bedroom or sitting room when the couple have a misunderstanding: This is a sign of avoidance and unwillingness to resolve conflicts. A mature partner would stay and work through the issue, rather than running away from it. childish behavior.

2. telling her husband that he is not a good man in her own heart. This is a form of emotional abuse and undermines the partner's self-esteem. A mature partner would communicate constructively about issues without personal attacks. Very few men can survive this injury, yes very few men!

3. "she will be saying that There are many men out there who can marry her when she leave this marriage": This is a threat and a form of emotional blackmail. A mature partner would address problems in the relationship directly and work towards a solution, and she has forgotten that many single mum and unmarried women are outside there, and the queue is long.
Men's let look for solution because all woman have the same character or behavior.....

The Most Powerful, Most Emotional Message A HUSBAND Gave His Wife The Night After Wedding

You see my wife, everyone has gone home. The music is quiet, the celebration is over. Our wedding was beautiful but it's now behind us.We have finished the wedding, it’s now time to build our marriage
All that is left now is the two of us...Whatever we will become tomorrow starts from tonight. Our life is no longer the same

There was a day you put on one red dress...You look so beautiful in it. That day I just wanted to touch you. We were in the cinema and I was so tempted. I wanted to just take you inside the toilet and kiss 💋 you but i couldn't. Now guess what? I have you forever, I can do that everyday.

Before I take off your cloth to make love ❤️, let me tell you a few things.

I have nothing to hide from you from today. My phone, you can use it like your own, it's now our phone. You can access my twitter, my Facebook and my intagram accounts.

From today, I have become a child. For the past five years, I have been a man. I wake up myself in the way I want, I come home whenever I want to but all that end today. From today, you become my mother, who will scold me when I come home late, my mother who will wake up by six to go to work, the mother who will ensure I don't sleep hungry. I am glad I have a mother in you.

I hope you will be a good mother to me. Don't be too harsh and I promise I won't be too stubborn. Sometimes I will give you headache, but I promise, I will also be the cure of every headache.

When my sister died, I looked after my younger brothers and sisters. I was more like a father to them. So I will not have problem being a unique father to you.

MEN, READ THIS BEFORE YOU DESTROY YOUR OWN HOME

Too many husbands lose their wives’ respect not because they cheat, but because they don’t know how to correct her without breaking her spirit.
You think you’re “leading,” but you’re actually crushing the very heart that’s supposed to support you.
You think shouting makes you a man — it makes you insecure.
You think comparing her to other women will motivate her — it will make her resent you.

Listen, brother…
If you want a wife who respects you, admires you, and stands by you for life, you must correct her like a king — not condemn her like an enemy.
A real man can lead his home without wounding his woman.

Here’s how:

1. LOWER YOUR VOICE
She’s your wife, not your child. Speak with authority, not aggression. Calm words carry more weight than loud ones.

2. DO IT IN LOVE
Correction without love becomes condemnation. When you speak from love, she’ll hear your heart, not your anger.

3. STOP CRITICIZING
Criticism kills connection. Correction builds growth. Offer solutions, not insults.

4. PRAISE HER FOR WHAT IS RIGHT
If you only correct and never appreciate, you’ll drain her spirit. Praise her effort, not just results.

5. NEVER DO IT BEFORE YOUR CHILDREN
A king doesn’t embarrass his queen in front of the kingdom. Correct her privately, honor her publicly.

6. NEVER DO IT IN PUBLIC
You destroy her confidence when you shame her in front of others. Real men protect their wives’ image, even in conflict.

7. DON’T CORRECT IN ANGER
When you’re angry, stay silent. Words from fury wound deeper than fists. Speak only when peace has returned.

8. DON’T COMPARE HER
Comparison kills contentment. She’s your wife, not a copy of someone else’s. Appreciate her individuality.

9. LEAVE THE PAST WHERE IT BELONGS
Don’t weaponize old mistakes. Handle today’s issue today. Mature men move forward.

10. NEVER ATTACK HER WOMANHOOD
Insults like “and you call yourself a woman?” are poison. You can’t build a queen by breaking her crown.

YOU ARE BLESSED OF YOUR SPOUSE.

HUSBAND, your wife is your Queen. Treat her with care and respect. Protect her. lead her. Do not maltreat her. You will be greatly blessed for these.

WIFE, your husband is your King. Treat him with deep respect, honour and obedience. Do not decide or order him to do anything. You can suggest and or advise him on what to do when the need arises. You will be greatly blessed for these.

JOIN hands together to make money, build and sustain your family.

WHEN LOVE GETS TOUGH, STOP LOOKING FOR A REPLACEMENT...✍🏽

Many people today confuse emotional escape for healing.
You date one guy, things are going well… until you have an argument.
Instead of fixing it, you text that other guy who’s been disturbing you on WhatsApp — just to “ease your pain.” 🥺😭
He makes you smile again 😊 and suddenly, you’re planning on dating him. 😫💍

Before long, he plays his cards right and you end up sleeping with him 🍑🍆.
Then, he also pi**es you off. Instead of sorting things out, you call another guy to “make you feel better.” 🥺😭
He also puts a smile on your face, and the cycle continues… again and again. 😞

You think you’re too beautiful 🥰 to humble yourself or apologize.
But truth is, that’s why many are single today — not because there are no good men, but because they keep running from growth and choosing comfort over commitment. 💔

Relationships aren’t soap operas where everything is lovey-dovey every day. 🥺
When things get real, swallow your pride.
Learn to talk, to listen, to fix.

Because every time you run away from a problem, you leave with a lesson unlearned — and end up becoming every guy’s temporary healing, not someone’s forever. 💔

Every time you avoid fixing one relationship, you carry the same unresolved pain into the next.
It’s not about beauty, it’s about maturity. ❤️

No relationship is perfect.
Arguments, disappointments, and misunderstandings are part of growth. What matters is how you handle them.

Don’t keep replacing people when challenges arise. Learn to communicate, forgive, and rebuild.
That’s where real love is tested — not in comfort, but in conflict. 💫. ❤️🙌
Fix, don’t replace. ❤️🙌
Stop escaping. Start growing!!!

The V***A vs. The VA**NA – Stop Mixing Them Up!

> Dear Woman,
Let’s end this confusion once and for all.
What you see outside is not the va**na – it’s called the V***A.
Let me break it down for you 👇🏽

THE V***A
This is the outside part of your private area – the one you can see when you check yourself in the mirror.

It includes:
~Outer lips – the soft outer skin with some hair.

~ Inner lips – the smaller skin folds inside the outer ones.

~ Cl****is – the tiny “sweet spot” at the top.

~ Urethral opening (p*e hole) – the small hole where urine comes out.

~Vaginal opening – the hole that leads inside your body.

👉🏽 All these together make up the V***A.
That’s the part you should wash gently with clean water and mild soap.

THE VA**NA
Now listen carefully –
The va**na is inside your body. It’s the passage that connects the va**nal opening to the cervix (the entrance of the womb).

You can’t see it.
You should never wash inside it.
It already cleans itself through a natural fluid called discharge.

So when you see some clear or white discharge, don’t panic – it’s your body’s way of staying clean.

THE GOLDEN RULE:
✅ Wash only the outside (the v***a).
🚫 Don’t wash inside (the va**na).

That’s how to stay fresh, infection-free, and confident

Handling The Breasts During S*x

• Understand that all breasts aren't the same; Some women want breast stimulation in the form of tender, soft teasing, and some want it rougher. So, know your woman.

• Handle with caution and gently run your fingers on the breast over their outer edges. Run your thumb lightly over her ni***es, using only your fingertips to caress her as you breathe warm air over them.
(some of u will use mouth odour to breathe over it, have sense please )

• Avoid grabbing or twisting, as if you're searching for a radio station.

• Kiss her entire breasts, but ignore her ni***es for a few minutes. Breathe over them s*xily, but don't ’t make any physical contact until her body is struggling in pleasure.

• While you’re touching and caressing her, say things like ‘Do you like that? Does that turn you on?’ It doesn't have to be clinical, just whisper things.

• Reach around from behind during doggie style or place her own hands on her breasts as she rides you so she can show you just how she likes to be touched.

• Pay attention to her reactions and breathing and the way she moans.

• men you must compliment those breasts! (Compliments are the most powerful aphrodisiacs, and feeling comfortable in her skin will help to elevate her mood, libido, and s*xual response,”

SÈX SECRETS WOMEN DON’T TELL ANYONE — BUT EVERY MAN SHOULD KNOW...✍🏽

Men, listen… there are things your woman will never say out loud — not because she’s secretive, but because she wants you to figure them out. These are the unspoken truths that separate ordinary lovers from unforgettable ones 👇

1. She gets turned on long before you touch her.
It starts with how you talk to her, how you look at her, how you make her feel seen.
Foreplay doesn’t start in the bedroom — it starts with how you treat her during the day.

🔥 2. She notices your smell, not your size.
A clean, fresh-smelling man can awaken a woman faster than a gym-built body. Hygiene is one of the biggest turn-ons for women.

💦 3. She doesn’t always want pe*******on — sometimes she wants connection.
Some nights, she just wants to feel your hands, your breath, your warmth. When you rush straight to “the act,” you skip the part that matters most — emotional intimacy.

👀 4. She loves to be watched — but not judged.
Most women secretly enjoy being admired during intimacy, but if you make her feel shy, insecure, or compared, she’ll shut down instantly.

💋 5. Whispering turns her on more than shouting.
The soft tone of your voice, calling her name, or moaning softly in her ear can drive her wild. Passion isn’t always loud — sometimes it’s the quiet that burns.

🔥 6. The way you touch her thighs tells her what kind of lover you are.
Slow, intentional touches show control and desire. Rushed touches show selfishness. Women crave pace, not pressure.

💔 7. Faking it is easier than explaining what she really wants.
When she moans too early or too perfectly every time — she might be trying to please your ego, not expressing her pleasure. Learn to read her body, not her sound.

💘 8. She wants you to explore her mind before her body.
A woman’s strongest erogenous zone is her mind. Stimulate her emotionally, and she’ll surrender physically.

💫 9. She craves aftercare.
After the act, she wants your warmth body

SIX GOLDEN RULES FOR MEN
1. When you meet a girl, don't think of s*x first; don't ask for s*x. Even if you are hot in pants, pretend that you are a monk for some time.
2.Don't go searching for a virgin, if you are not a virgin yourself. All the girls you have massacred, who will marry them. Besides, there is no record that virgins make better wives or are more faithful in marriage.
3. If you are a "modern man," don't look for a "village girl that knows nothing." Soon you will start complaining that she is too local to fit into your circle of enlightened friends. Besides, a village girl may "wise up" and trouble will start in your home.
4. Don't look for a girl that is afraid of you: a girl you can always intimidate. Fear is not respect.
5. Don't be carried away by a girl's physical features: beauty, height, complexion, shape, breast shape, size and firmness, etc. They matter but they are not critical. In the long run, child-bearing and age affect these features. Besides, when you have married a woman for some years, her physical features stop "turning your head."
At that time, what will attract you to her will be what is inside of her: intelligence, wisdom, self-control, patience, peace, gentleness, etc.
6. Don't be interested in a girl because of her wealth or her parents' wealth. Even if she is richer than you or her parents are richer, make it clear from the beginning that you will take care of your marriage yourself or that both of you will take care of your marriage together.
Don't accept your in-laws to take care of your family responsibilities. Let them allow you to build your own home. After all, many of them were poorer than you are now when they got married. If they want you to upgrade to their level, let them support your business, e.g by supplying their goods to you to sell and make your OWN money.