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14-Year-Old JSS3 Girl Says She Sleeps With 12 To 20 Men Daily For N1,000
Yesterday, Southwest Security Network codenamed Amotekun reportedly busted a s€x traff!cking syndicate in Ogun state.

According to Trending Ex, the syndicate lure kids and use them as s€x slaves charging customers as low as ₦1k per session.
14yr old victim said they brought her from Akwa Ibom on the promise’s that she’ll work as a sales girl.

On getting there, they gave her some drvgs, the boss lady cut her hair and told her that, if she runs away, she’ll use the hair to k!ll her.Ever since, she has been working as a pr******te for her madam, Mrs. Edem Joy. Who claimed she also had a boss, Mrs Okutoro Yemisi, 60.
They lure girls from Akwa Ibom, Calabar and Delta State .. but mostly from Akwa Ibom — make them swear with their bl00d, hairs and or Bible.. that they’d never confess or runaway.

After which, tie them down with drvgs and charms and dispatch them different hotels.. with the promise of letting them go after a year and settling them with a phone and a box of clothes.

The girls hinted that, their boss’ uses the tissue used by the men for ritual purposes, because they ensured they submitted it after every session.

They charge as low as 1k and as high as 5k, but submit all the cash to Mrs Edem.

The youngest amongst them was a 12yr old girl. Authorities received an anonymous tip on 8th of February. They were arrested at , Railway Line Hotel, Old Bank Bus Stop, in Ifo town.

Lubricant, drvgs, cash and charms were reportedly recovered from the suspects.

All these celebrities will come online and post their wedding, it looks like heaven on earth and you'll feel like you're not doing it right in life. You question your life and your marriage. Next minute they will come again with a divorce news filled with the unimaginable and people will start doubting the people around them that have genuine love for them.

These people have motives before walking down the aisle with anyone and once that motive is achieved or not feasible anymore, boom💥 they are out and so many negative comments will be flying around.

I don't care what people say or what doesn't work for you, nothing dies in my hands. My marriage MUST work. ONE LOVE ❤️

In The Absent Father Effect on Daughters, Susan Schwartz delves into the profound emotional, psychological, and behavioral effects that an absent father can have on a daughter’s life. Drawing from research, clinical experience, and real-life stories, Schwartz offers a compassionate and insightful exploration of how a daughter's relationship with her father shapes her identity, self-worth, and future relationships. This book addresses the lasting impact of father absence, whether due to physical distance, emotional unavailability, or abandonment, and offers guidance on healing, understanding, and moving forward. If you’re seeking to understand the deep emotional scars left by father absence and how to overcome them.ere are 10 essential lessons from the book that shed light on the importance of father-daughter relationships and their lifelong influence.

1. The Father-Daughter Bond is Fundamental to Self-Worth
Schwartz emphasizes that a daughter’s sense of self-worth is intricately tied to her relationship with her father. When a father is absent, whether emotionally or physically, the daughter may struggle with feelings of inadequacy, unworthiness, and low self-esteem. A positive, present father can affirm a daughter’s value and instill confidence that she carries throughout her life.

2. Father Absence Leads to Attachment Issues
An absent father can create attachment issues for a daughter, leading to difficulty in forming healthy relationships in adulthood. Schwartz explains how the lack of a secure father-daughter bond can affect a daughter’s ability to trust others, particularly men, and may lead to struggles with intimacy, vulnerability, and emotional connection later in life.

3. Emotional Neglect Can Have Long-Term Effects
When fathers are emotionally unavailable or neglectful, the emotional neglect often lingers into adulthood. Daughters of absent fathers may experience emotional numbness, difficulty processing feelings, and issues with emotional regulation. Schwartz discusses how addressing and healing from this emotional neglect is key to building healthy emotional connections as an adult.

4. Daughters Seek Validation in the Wrong Places
Without the affirmation and validation from their fathers, daughters may seek validation from other sources, such as relationships, achievements, or external approval. Schwartz explains that these attempts to fill the emotional void left by an absent father often lead to unhealthy patterns of behavior and choices that may not serve a daughter’s well-being in the long run.

5. The Search for a Father Figure
As a response to the absence of their biological fathers, many daughters look for father figures in their lives. These could be mentors, romantic partners, or even friendships. While some of these connections can be positive, Schwartz warns that daughters may subconsciously seek out relationships that mirror the dynamics they experienced with their fathers, potentially leading to cycles of disappointment or unhealthy relationships.

6. Building Resilience Through Healing
One of the empowering lessons Schwartz offers is that healing is possible. Daughters of absent fathers can rebuild their sense of self-worth, heal attachment wounds, and learn to form healthier relationships. Through therapy, self-reflection, and support, daughters can overcome the effects of father absence and transform their experiences into sources of strength and resilience.

7. Father Absence Impacts Future Relationships with Men
Schwartz highlights how a daughter’s perception of men can be deeply influenced by the absence of her father. These early experiences can shape how she interacts with men in adulthood, often causing challenges with trust, expectations, and the ability to form equal, respectful partnerships. Understanding these patterns is crucial for breaking unhealthy cycles and fostering healthy, balanced relationships.

8. The Longing for Connection
Daughters of absent fathers often experience a deep longing for connection and a desire to be seen, heard, and valued by their fathers. This longing can manifest in a variety of ways, from feelings of anger and resentment to an intense desire to prove oneself. Schwartz discusses the importance of acknowledging and grieving this loss in order to heal and move forward.

9. Fathers Provide a Model for Future Relationships
A present and engaged father plays a pivotal role in shaping how a daughter views relationships and her expectations of men. A healthy father-daughter relationship teaches a daughter what it means to be valued, respected, and loved by a man. When this model is absent, it can leave a gap that takes years to fill. Schwartz encourages daughters to seek out positive male role models and work on redefining their expectations.

10. The Power of Forgiveness
Finally, Schwartz touches on the transformative power of forgiveness. Forgiveness is not about excusing the father's behavior but about releasing the grip of past pain to move forward. For many daughters, letting go of anger and resentment toward an absent father is key to healing and finding peace within themselves.

The Absent Father Effect on Daughters is an insightful, compassionate exploration of how father absence can shape a daughter’s emotional and psychological landscape. Schwartz offers not only a deep understanding of the lasting impact of father absence but also a pathway for healing, growth, and transformation. For daughters who have struggled with the void left by an absent father, this book provides both validation and hope for recovery, guiding them toward a healthier relationship with themselves and others.

The police in Adamawa state have arrested a pregnant woman for allegedly scalding her pregnant sister-in-law with hot water while she was in labor following a heated disagreement at their home in Dubeli in Yola North Local government area of Adamawa state on Monday, January 27.

The suspect, 20-year-old Jamila Ishiaku, admitted to the act, stating in an interview that she acted out of anger after an argument.

Confirming the arrest to newsmen, the Police Public Relations Officer, SP Suleiman Nguroje, assured that the suspect would face the full wrath of the law.

He urged residents of Adamawa State to refrain from taking the law into their own hands, emphasizing the importance of reporting crimes to the authorities.

“If you see something, say something, and the police will always do something,” he stated

Meanwhile, the victim has since given birth to a baby girl who is said to be safe and sound.

The victim’s husband, Gambo Dahiru, expressed his distress over the incident, saying his wife remains in severe pain.

“I have been crying for days now. My wife is in pain and has been crying uncontrollably. I am seeking justice for her. The law should take its rightful course,” he pleaded.

Those that got thousands of followers and they are following=0, are they trying to claim celebrity? Even Peter Obi got people he is following, as popular and as rich as he is .

How can you have "0-following"?
Which means, you are not even following your father, mother, uncle, aunties, brothers, sisters, even your boss, your pastor, Imam, or your native doctor, you are not following. You must not be a good person and not ready to learn.

I unfollow those kind of people if I noticed they are following=0.

Remembering Matilda, the last survivor of the transatlantic slave trade
January 13 marks 85 years since the death of Matilda, whose name at birth was Abake – meaning ‘born to be loved by all’ among the Tarkar people of Western Africa.

On a cold December morning in 1931, a short, elderly Black woman set out on a 24km (15-mile) walk from her homestead in Alabama, United States, on a quest for justice. The long trek to the court in Selma was no small undertaking for a person in her mid-70s. But Matilda McCrear was determined to go and make her legal claim for compensation for the horrors that she and her family had been through.

Until her death 85 years ago on January 13, 1940, Matilda was the last surviving passenger on the last-ever slave ship bound from the West African coast to North America in late 1859.

Her story began many decades before and thousands of miles away from that sharecropping homestead. Originally named Abake – “born to be loved by all” – the girl later renamed Matilda by her American “owner” came into the world circa 1857, among the Tarkar people of the West African interior.

In 1859, at the age of two, little Abake was captured along with her mother (later renamed Grace), her three older sisters and some other relatives, by troops of the Kingdom of Dahomey, located in what is now Benin. Torn away from the rest of their family, they were victims of an age-old regional warfare which underpinned an equally ancient but persistent trade in slavery reaching across North and East Africa, the Ottoman Empire and eventually the Americas.

The precise details of her capture are unknown but, like millions before them, Abake and the other captives were very likely tied together in groups, with ropes and wooden yokes, and forced to march hundreds of miles to the coastal port of Ouidah, now a city in southern Benin. Their so-called “death march” was the first leg of a long and merciless sojourn.

Once they arrived in Ouidah, slaves would be held in “barracoons” – enclosed pens within which prisoners awaited inspection and sale to European traders, at which point they were often branded with the dehumanising mark of their new owner.

Abake and her family members were sold as part of a consignment of slaves to one Captain William Foster, of Canadian origin. He wrote in his journal: “I went to see the King of Dahomey. Having agreeably transacted [our] affairs … we went to the warehouse where they had in confinement four thousand captives in a state of nudity from which they gave me liberty to select one hundred and twenty-five as mine, offering to brand them for me, from which I preemptorily forbid [sic]; commenced taking on cargo of negroes, successfully securing on board one hundred and ten.”

Foster’s ship, Clotilda – a two-masted schooner, 26 metres (86 feet) in length – is now infamous as the last ship known to have carried slaves across the Atlantic to North America. By this time it was an illegal journey, for while slavery continued across the southeast of the US (and in parts of South America), the importation of slaves had been prohibited since 1808. The Clotilda set sail from Ouidah late in the year, purportedly carrying lumber – the 11-man crew being promised double their normal wage to keep quiet about the true contents, as per an entry in Foster’s journal.

Their route across the Atlantic was known as the “Middle Passage”, making up the second part of a triangular trade route connecting Europe, Africa and the Americas. Ships carried weapons and manufactured goods from Europe to the “slave coast” of West Africa on the first part of the round trip; in the Middle Passage, that cargo was traded for enslaved Africans who were transported to the US and South America, where they were usually sold by auction; and on the final course, the vessels returned to Europe usually laden with cotton, to***co and sugarcane.

The Middle Passage was a horrific journey lasting some 80 days, during which the human cargo endured cramped and filthy conditions. In the autobiography of an 18th-century slave, Olaudah Equiano, one slaving ship is described as being “so crowded that each had scarcely room to turn himself, almost suffocating us. This produced copious perspirations, so that the air soon became unfit for respiration, from a variety of loathsome smells, and brought on a sickness among the slaves, of which many died.”

Separated and sold – a brutal but common fate
Of the approximately 12.5 million enslaved Africans transported to the Americas over some 350 years, it is estimated that at least two million souls perished during the crossing over the Atlantic. Grace would later tell her daughters how she had witnessed hernephew and others from her Tarkar village being simply thrown overboard when they became unwell, apparently to prevent any contagion.

Foster navigated the Clotilda, now carrying 108 slaves, into the port of Mobile, Alabama under cover of darkness in early 1860. He had it towed up the Mobile River to Twelvemile Island, where the captive Africans were transferred to a river steamboat. Foster wrote in his journal that the Clotilda was then burned to destroy any evidence.

At Twelvemile Island, Abake, her mother and her 10-year-old sister were handed over by Foster to one of the financial backers of Clotilda, a wealthy plantation owner by the name of Memorable Creagh.

In another heartbreaking separation, Abake’s two other sisters (whose names are unknown) were sent elsewhere, never to be seen again – a typically brutal fate for so many of those regarded as a mere commodity.

Abake, her mother, and her sister soon found themselves on Creagh’s plantation near Montgomery, Alabama. There, Abake was given the new forename Matilda, her mother was renamed Grace, and her sister as Sally. Grace was forcibly married to a fellow survivor of the Clotilda, who had been renamed Guy.

Because the couple were classed as “property”, their marriage was not recognised by law; it was simply a means of producing more slave offspring. Even the intimacy of a man and a woman was subject to the absolute control of slave-owners. Grace and Guy were given the surname of their new owner and put to work in his cotton fields.

Matilda’s family were likely provided with the most basic kind of shelter, crammed with other families into crude wooden cabins that were leaky in wet weather and cold in the winter, and forced by their overseers to work seven days a week.

The adult Matilda had only a hazy recollection of those early years, but later recalled one episode when, aged three, she and her sister Sally escaped from the plantation to a nearby swamp where they were scented out by the overseer’s dogs and returned to their quarters.

Matilda was still a small child when the Civil War broke out in the US in April 1861. Alabama, along with Virginia, North and South Carolina, Mississippi, Florida, Georgia, Louisiana, Texas, Arkansas and Tennessee, seceded from the US and formed the Confederate States of America – on the grounds that the institution of slavery, the lifeblood of southern economies, was threatened by the federal government in Washington.

President Abraham Lincoln made his Emancipation Proclamation on January 1, 1863, declaring that all enslaved people in the Confederate states were free. This had no immediate effect on Matilda and her family, as the Civil War continued to rage. But when the Confederates were defeated on June 19, 1865, Matilda and her family were liberated.

Matilda would have been about seven years old at this time. Her family headed north and settled in Athens, Alabama. It is not known how they supported themselves. Matilda later related how she learned English quickly as a small child and would help interpret for her mother and stepfather, who faced challenges with this new language.

They were free, but what would that so-called freedom mean?

Slavery in all but name
However harsh and unjust the circumstances, enslaved people had some small element of security. A slave owner was at least motivated to ensure the good health of his human chattels to ensure their productivity, which necessitated the provision of food and basic shelter.

But after 1865, freed slaves did not find themselves in a friendly world. Many white Americans reacted with indignant fury to the idea of Black people being their equals. In a harsh and unwelcoming world, there were few options for uneducated ex-slaves other than to remain on the plantations as “sharecroppers” – a system whereby a tenant farmed a portion of land in exchange for a share of the crop. Sharecropping often involved contracts that trapped tenants in debt and poverty and which in practice was not far removed from actual slavery.

Upon her emancipation, Matilda and her family thus became supposedly free people. But, as Martin Luther King Jr pointed out in a 1968 sermon, “Emancipation for the Negro was only a proclamation. It was not a fact. The Negro still lives in chains: the chains of economic slavery, the chains of social segregation, the chains of political disenfranchisement.”

During the post-Civil War period of “Reconstruction”, many new federal laws promoting racial equality were quickly met by local state measures designed to keep Black people “in their place” and ensure that white people remained ascendant. This is seen in the reaction, at the state level, to the 13th, 14th and 15th amendments to the US Constitution.

The 13th Amendment of 1865 officially ended slavery in all US states and territories. Formerly enslaved people were legally freed, while the Freedmen’s Bureau was established to aid freed slaves through the provision of food, housing, medical aid, schooling and legal support.

To counter this, southern states, including Matilda’s home of Alabama, enacted the so-called “Black Codes”, curtailing the right of African Americans to own property, conduct business, buy and lease land or move freely in public spaces. The Black Codes forced many Black people into newly exploitative labour arrangements such as sharecropping.

peoples, in practice, African Americans received far inferior treatment; and concurrent with these laws were other forms of societal racism, for example barring the “wrong type” of people from clubs and institutions, city planning measures ensuring that Black people remained on the “other side of the tracks”, and “redlining” by banks whereby credit was denied to the inhabitants of Black-majority neighbourhoods.

Even places of worship were strictly segregated according to the colour of their congregations. Indeed, novelist James Baldwin noted in 1968, almost a century after the 15th Amendment was passed, “…we have a Christian church which is white and a Christian church which is black … [and] the most segregated hour in American life is high noon on Sunday.”

All these laws, policies and social attitudes were enforced, frequently with extreme violence, by white supremacist groups such as the Ku Klux Klan, often with the direct or tacit support of the police.

vented from marrying her partner by the ban on in*******al marriage, or chose that arrangement, is also not known. In any case, Matilda appears not to have benefitted financially from the relationship, as she remained a sharecropper, living in the vicinity of Selma, Alabama, for most of her working life. At some point, she changed her surname from Creagh to McCrear, perhaps to distance herself from her enslaver and as an assertion of her own identity. Over the generations, the family surname has seen a number of further variations, including Crear, Creah, Creagher and McCreer.

Waiting all her life for justice that never came
In 1931, Matilda heard a rumour that people like her were receiving compensation for being illegally smuggled as slaves into the US. That was when she decided to embark upon the 15-mile journey on foot to the Selma court in Alabama to make her claim.

The judge declared the rumour to be “false” and dismissed her case. But fortunately for modern historians, an account of her lawsuit was published by the Selma Times-Journal. This was the article discovered by Hannah Durkin, a Newcastle University historian specialising in the transatlantic slave trade and author of the 2024 book, Survivors: The Lost Stories of the Last Captives of the Atlantic Slave Trade.

The Selma Times-Journal news story provides a vivid description of Matilda: “She walks with a vigorous stride. Her kinky hair is almost white and is plaited in small tufts and with bright-coloured string … Her voice is low and husky, but clear. Age shows most in her eyes … yet her … skin is firm and smooth.”

The article went on to relate that “Tildy has vigor and spirit in spite of her years … endurance and a natural aptitude for agriculture inherited from the Tarkar tribe, made [her] a thrifty farmer.”

Durkin writes that Matilda’s story is particularly remarkable “because she resisted what was expected of a Black woman in the US South in the years after emancipation. She did not get married. Instead, she had a decades-long common-law marriage … Even though she left West Africa when she was a toddler, she appears throughout her life to have worn her hair in a traditional Yoruba style, a style presumably taught to her by her mother.”

etal level remains a feature of US life. “As long as people can be judged by the colour of their skin, the problem is not solved,” talk show host Oprah Winfrey said in 2021.

Ninety years before that, Matilda seemed to recognise this when she seemed unsurprised by the Selma court’s denial of her claim for compensation.

“I don’t expect I need anything more than I got,” she said after thanking the judge for his time.

Source: Al Jazeera

Unmarried Women At 35 Are Not Having Fun – Kanayo .O. Kanayo

Nollywood legend, Kanayo .O. Kanayo has said most women who remain unmarried at the age of 35 years are not happy with their state.
Barrister Kanayo said most women between the ages of 20 to 24 years miss their chances of marriage because they most times prefer dating rich older men to accepting advances from prospective suitors.

In an interview on Monday on News Central, Kanayo stressed that at ages 28 to 35 years most unmarried women feel bad being unmarried.

“A young girl will be in the university at 18, 19, 20. She starts dating a very rich guy, sometimes very old. Then what you see along the line is that because the guy is very rich, maybe married. She refuses advances of other younger people to her because this guy has either gotten her a car and a house. So to her, she’s operating at a very high level.

“From 22, she goes on to 24 and maybe even if she quarrels with this guy, she gets the next guy. Before you know it, she turns 25, 26, unmarried because she’s refusing the advances of younger prospective husbands. I’m telling you a story I treated. It’s called After 33,” he said.

The Nollywood veteran continued, “Now she gets into 29, 30. By that time, she has left the university and men are no longer maybe finding her that attractive. So she gets into 31, husband is not coming.

“And what do you have? At 23 is a flex. At 28, she becomes a prayer point. At 33, she is now declared a state of emergency. Because husbands would not come at that level of 33 years. Some of them get to 35 and you see them and you still think that they are having fun. They are not having fun. They are now a state of emergency praying that God brings anyone

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