Ler's talk Relationship/Marriage

IF YOU DON'T AGREE, DON'T MARRY

As beautiful and sweet as Marriage is, the life giver is agreement, and when two people in marriage does not agree in almost everything, then it can be said that there is no Marriage

How can two two Walk together if they don't agree???

Marriage is an institution that involves two people, a man and a woman, who have agreed to walk together, navigating through life, while chasing ten thousand rather than one thousand as a Single

So when God says, it is not good for Man to be alone, i will make him a helpmeet, then He means that Man need someone he can agree together, in pursuit of Vision

Agreeing to walk together with their hands...
Agreeing to walk together with their legs...
Agreeing to work together with their brains...
Agreeing to walk together with their giftings...
And ofcourse with every good thing that God has deposited in them

Every great deposit, not some deposit, which means that as a Man, your wife is not there just to cook, and serve you, she is also there to contribute her thought

So what you do in Marriage is to say to the other person, bring what you've got, let me bring mine, let's combine them to gether, for greater results

But here is the challenge......

Agreement which is the bedrock is not a gift from God, it is a Skill you must master, in order to walk with another person or some group of persons

Agreement begins from understanding each other, embracing the other person's personality, dictating their strenghts and learning how to maximize them, learning how best to communicate with your partner without being toxic or irritable, trusting and embracing their contributions to your growth, and building a value system that works for both of you

The more your Values are wide apart, the more the arguments, and vice versa

It's already a long piece...

What i am saying is, don't marry him/her, if they make agreement between the two of you, difficult to achieve

If they don't believe in you, trust in your ability to help them, and teachable enough to embrace new things that comes from you, then you shouldn't marry them

And if you are Married already, your assignment every day is to find the best strategies to work as a team, by ensuring that your personal values are now narrowed down to both you and your spouse's Values

This will make agreement, communication, conflict resolution easier thereby, giving both of you a smoth ride while walking together

With this you can chase one Million, as much as you want to chase...

Here is the equation...

COMMUNICATION + AGREEMENT = WALKING TOGETHER

WALKING TOGETHER + LOVE+ SUBMISSION+ RESPECT = CHASING TEN THOUSAND AND MORE

~Onyinyechi Stephen
Bringing you Marriage Light!

FIRST PREGNANCY WAHALA

Today, let's talk about first pregnancy, and it's wahala

Okay, there are quite a number of things i observed about honey moon and first pregnancy that can emerge from it

1. Couples becomes expectant of a baby almost immediately: Recently, i started hearing that some couples takes the decision of not having a baby one or two years after the wedding, which is not too bad, but majority of couples come under pressure either for fear of calls that will be coming from their families to ask how far, or for fear of not getting pregnant at all

2. Everybody around you is expectant too, and can even ask how far: This is common in Africa, especially from parents and family members, they will start disturbing, calling and asking, to know if the woman is fine or feeling sick, and even if she is sick but not pregnant, they will tell them that pregnancy have occured, they keep looking out and watching or calling to monitor the pregnancy, this alone is tramautizing

3. Then the pregnancy itself: As soon as the woman confirms that she is pregnant, she suddenly gets more confused, a lot of throught start running through, she is happy but with some sort of fear of the unknown

4. Most First Moms Looses the pregnancy: I have also observed that miscarriage always happen at first pregnancy, and this isvbecause of lack of knowledge, my mom is an expert in Child bearing, so she called to counsel me on things to do and things not to do, yes, there is a lifestyle you must adopt for the first 3-4 Months, indicate the comment section if you want me to share

5. The journey of nine Months: Now the journey begins, for the first pregnancy, the nine months is filled with many fears, bad dreams, many counsels both true and false, with lots of excitements too, expecting their bundle of joy, the men even gets more excited and fear most too, it just comes with a lot of mixed feelings

6. Buying of Baby/Mother Items: This one is always the case, have you noticed that first moms usually buys everything including the unnecessary items, some will buy clothes for both s*x, some have wrong people around them who will not advice them well, they will tell them to buy anything buyable, for example, non of my kids used the baby bed, nay, they can't stay, so if i had bought a baby bed, it would be a waste, they didn't use water bottles too, so the ones i bought stayed and got tired, i had ţo give them out, now you see that it is not everything you buy at the beginning, most things, you will buy as the need arises later, after the baby have arrived

Delivery Month; Another fear of uncertainty is when the woman approaches her due date, she will become a prayer warrior, for some that believes in God, but one of the things i have also observed is that some will not even recognise labour signs when it comes, as some labour signs can be funny, it's another time of having both joyful times and fearful times

Delivery day: The moment the woman realises some unsual signs, go to hospital and confirned in Labour, she will start calling the God she serves to help her, they will call their pastors for prayers, some that are not adviced on how to respond to contractions will begin to escalate emotions, screams, dance and insult any body around including their husband, this one was me because i was given hot injection, my baby was too big, and so i had poor contractions, but not for the rest of the babies

But one beautiful thing about first pregnancy, if successfully done with and the baby is handy and mother alive, the joy is heavenly the couple, the family and friends

Tell us the one(s) that happened to you or add your own experience.

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LET THE SINGLES BREADTH

Hello Singles

There is no time to breadth oh, the only way you can breadth is to sample your Wedding Picss for all to see

Remember, earlier this year, I told you that there is going to be commotion of Marraiges, suddenly, it starterd raining marraiges on Social media, and now some of the Singles starrted shouting "Let the Singles breadth" Let the Singles breadth!

What???

You don't like all these beautiful marraiges here and there, even a couple did Wed-a-thon, 14days non stop Marraige celebrations, with 14 different good outfits, we also heard that the wedding worth was 200million, not sure of the currency

Yes, i understand how you feel...

You are asking God, when will it be my turn?

And while you are yet to raise your head from that one, another star ran out to engage a lady he met on this Sociall media, today they are legally married

But hear this....

The earlier you don't breadth, the better for you, untill you duplicate these marital testimonies this year, don't breadth yet, yes i am here to annoy you the more

Life is not a fun fare, life is a battle field, and untill you travail in battle, you cannot prevail with testimonies, untill you fight, Victory is not in view, untill you take it by force, the devil is not ready to release it either

This is not the time to ask God naughty questions, oh God! Why me?, Oh God! When will it be my turn?

Hello.......

God is not hearing those questions, He has given you every missile to fight and take your desire, and untill you arise, you will keep shouting, let the Singles breadth, 2024 will pass, 2025 will come, yet you can't stop watching beautiful pictures of marraiges not just marraiges, but Kingdom marraiges

Sweetheart, you have the power to delete Singleness from your your life, because delay is not your surname, therefore make a choice NOW to go for what you want no matter the battle involved

If you need to deal with those altars in your Father's house, do it now, ofcourse deal with those foundational issues

If you need to sow seeds, sow it now

If you need to serve, serve now

If you need to get a mentor, do it now
If you need to buy books and read, what are you still waiting for?

If you need to work on your Character, do that now

If you need to improve on your personality, delay no more

If you need to grow spiritually, grow now

If you need to enter the war room of prayer, enter now

If you need to heal from that heartbreak, heal and move on

If you need to get a job, go for one now

If you need to propose to that girl, oya go now

What ever, is the gate that must lift up it's head on your maritaĺ journey, take ressponsibility now, stop waiting, the more you wait, the more you get old, and the more you get old, the more you loose better chances

I can remember when i met my husband and he proposed to me, all hell got loosed, saying we will not marry, Lo! Thank God pastor Solomon is a prayer machine, we joined hands together to silence those forces and eventually got married a year after

What seemed impossible, became stresslessly possible

Let me stop here

Have i starred you up?

Now, go to work

I wish you a 2024 glorious Wedding!

The Woman is beautiful

The woman is strong

The Woman is fighter

The woman is a spice to the world

The woman is created with special tools

The woman is Intelligent

The Woman is some man's missing rib

The woman is God's special gift to the man

The woman is a life giver

The woman is multi energized

The woman is her Children's covering

The woman is Emotional(Weaker vessel) but powerful

The woman is a builder

The Woman is an intercessor

The Woman is a peace giver

The Woman is in the garden to prune and nurture

The woman birthed the Saviour of the world

The woman is her people's deliverer, ask Sis Esther

The woman is a lover; she loves with her whole being

The woman, the only creature that sheds blood monthly, as a symbol of fertility

The woman is creative and skillful

The woman is a helper

Understand her

Give her love in return

Care for her emotionally, mentally and physically

Buy her Gifs, because gift is her love language

Pampar her, don't hurt her

Protect her, don"t expose her weakness

Appreciate her, don't tear her down

Pray for her, because the devil is after her, being the life giver

The World is nothing without the Woman

It is the Woman that don't understand her power that allows the serpent to speak to her and destroy her garden

Know her and know peace!!!

Happy International Women's day "The Woman"

LET THE SINGLES BREADTH

Hello Singles

There is no time to breadth oh, the only way you can breadth is to sample your Wedding Picss for all to see

Remember, earlier this year, I told you that there is going to be commotion of Marraiges, suddenly, it starterd raining marraiges on Social media, and now some of the Singles starrted shouting "Let the Singles breadth" Let the Singles breadth!

What???

You don't like all these beautiful marraiges here and there, even a couple did Wed-a-thon, 14days non stop Marraige celebrations, with 14 different good outfits, we also heard that the wedding worth was 200million, not sure of the currency

Yes, i understand how you feel...

You are asking God, when will it be my turn?

And while you are yet to raise your head from that one, another star ran out to engage a lady he met on this Sociall media, today they are legally married

But hear this....

The earlier you don't breadth, the better for you, untill you duplicate these marital testimonies this year, don't breadth yet, yes i am here to annoy you the more

Life is not a fun fare, life is a battle field, and untill you travail in battle, you cannot prevail with testimonies, untill you fight, Victory is not in view, untill you take it by force, the devil is not ready to release it either

This is not the time to ask God naughty questions, oh God! Why me?, Oh God! When will it be my turn?

Hello.......

God is not hearing those questions, He has given you every missile to fight and take your desire, and untill you arise, you will keep shouting, let the Singles breadth, 2024 will pass, 2025 will come, yet you can't stop watching beautiful pictures of marraiges not just marraiges, but Kingdom marraiges

Sweetheart, you have the power to delete Singleness from your your life, because delay is not your surname, therefore make a choice NOW to go for what you want no matter the battle involved

If you need to deal with those altars in your Father's house, do it now, ofcourse deal with those foundational issues

If you need to sow seeds, sow it now

If you need to serve, serve now

If you need to get a mentor, do it now
If you need to buy books and read, what are you still waiting for?

If you need to work on your Character, do that now

If you need to improve on your personality, delay no more

If you need to grow spiritually, grow now

If you need to enter the war room of prayer, enter now

If you need to heal from that heartbreak, heal and move on

If you need to get a job, go for one now

If you need to propose to that girl, oya go now

What ever, is the gate that must lift up it's head on your maritaĺ journey, take ressponsibility now, stop waiting, the more you wait, the more you get old, and the more you get old, the more you loose better chances

I can remember when i met my husband and he proposed to me, all hell got loosed, saying we will not marry, Lo! Thank God pastor Solomon is a prayer machine, we joined hands together to silence those forces and eventually got married a year after

What seemed impossible, became stresslessly possible

Let me stop here

Have i starred you up?

Now, go to work

I wish you a 2024 glorious Wedding!

ONLY GOD CAN HELP HER

Yesterday, i encountered a lady who is Single but not ready to get married

I became inquisitive immediatly to know why such a young, skillful lady, is making such statement without any remorse

Then i asked severally, why do you have to say this and i can see you mean this, she replied me, that she mean it

In her voice, she said....

I don"t want to get married, but i will date men just to eat their money, i have many of them but it is their money i am after

She further said that she will make sure that she will deal with men in this life

At this time, i was beginning to sense what the issue could be

She continued to say that, the man she gave her heart and her time for several years, who promised to marry her, where is he now? Where is he now?
No i will not get marriied; yet i will have children

Now what pained me most is that, this lady is a committed member of a church, singing in qoir, with such a messed mentality steming from an unhealed soul

Every effort to innitiate a healing therapy for her, proved abortive as her mind was already made up, so i left her, but i will strategise and go at it again, as long she have encountered me, she won't remain in that bo***ge

Oh my God, she was messed in a mirage relationship at a very tender age, the man kept coming to her, telling her that she will marry her, then she gave in and ended up in a mess

Today, she thinks

All men are the same
Marraige is a scam
She is not enough
She can't be loved
She must revenge
Money can replace love
Money can replace a happy marraige
Children can be gotten outside marraige

But hey! She needs therapy to heal or remain in that mess for ever

So many Singles, are in this kind of mess, not seeking help, because it has become a comfort zone

All i want to say is, let's give our children knowledge and let us do this at the right time, she had no knowledge so she encountered the wrong person, and lack of knowledge has kept her in a place where she keeps destroying herself

Talk to someone Now, if you have been abused, mentally, emotionally, physically and otherwise
Seek for help before it is too late

Shallom.

Photo: 2017 in a Secondary School answering the burging questions of the girl child.

They have broken record

Wedding done every day in two weeks, with 14 good outfits

After watching some of their wedding videos, i turned and looked at my husband and asked that we re-do our wedding

He smiled back and said we wiill

If there is money, put up a classy wedding, but more importantly is the packaging you give the marraige itself

A beautiful wedding without a prepared and well packaged Marriage, is a wasted money and effort

Congratulations to this popular Fashion designer and her husbands, their's shall not crumble, it shall be love and light all the way.

Join us tomorrow, if you are in Awka

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God's Servant is set

Come, let us worship together!