Great Islamic Ideology

Don't live ur life upset, negative or bitter. i wont let go, i will show dem, i av to proved to dem dat am stubborn...lolz all dis doesn't bring peace, if u seat and think of it, it destabilized mind and sized joy. n remember, peace is wat life need 2 live long, but if u didnt giv peace, how do u want to av peace? therefore, accept what is, let go of wat was and av faith on wat will b. wit dis u will embrace d place where u are and make d best of all bad situation.

50 Things you need to know about Marital Relationship......

Great relationships don’t just happen; they are created. You have to work at it.

If your job takes all of your best energy, your marriage will suffer.

One of the greatest gifts you can give your spouse is your own happiness.

It is possible to love and hate someone at the same time.

When you complain about your spouse to your friends, remember that their feedback can be distorted.

The only rules in your marriage are those you both choose to agree with.

It is not conflict that destroys marriage; it is the cold, smoldering resentment that you hold for a long time.

It’s not what you’ve got, it’s what you do with what you have.

If you think you are too good for your spouse, think again.

Growing up in a happy household doesn’t ensure a happy marriage, or vice versa.

It’s never too late to repair damaged trust.

The real issue is usually not the one you are arguing about.

Love isn’t just a feeling; it is expressed through our actions.

Expectations set us up for disappointment and resentment.

Arguments cannot be avoided, but destructive arguments can be avoided.

One of the greatest gifts you can give your spouse is focused attention.

Even people with happy marriages sometimes worry that they married the wrong person.

Your spouse cannot rescue you from unhappiness, but they can help you rescue yourself.

The cost of a lie is far greater than any advantage you gain from speaking it.

Your opinion is not necessarily the truth.

Trust takes years to establish and moments to destroy.

Guilt-tripping won’t get you what you really want.

Don’t neglect your friends.

If you think, “You are not the person I married,” you are probably right.

Resisting the temptation to prove your point will win you a lot of points.

Generosity of spirit is the foundation of a good marriage.

If your spouse is being defensive, you might be giving them reasons to be like that.

Marriage isn’t 50/50; it’s 100/100.

You can pay now or pay later, but the later you pay, the more interest and penalties you acquire.

Marriage requires sacrifice, but your benefits outweigh your costs.

Forgiveness isn’t a one-time event; it’s a continous process.

Accepting the challenges of marriage will shape you into a better person.

Creating a marriage is like launching a rocket: once it clears the pull of gravity, it takes much less energy to sustain the flight.

A successful marriage has more to do with how you deal with your current reality than with what you’ve experienced in the past.

Don’t keep feelings of gratitude to yourself.

There is no greater eloquence than the silence of real listening.

One of the greatest questions to ask your spouse is “How best can I love you?”

Marriage can stay fresh over time.

Assumptions are fine as long as you check them before acting upon them.

Intention may not be the only thing, but it is the most important thing.

Good s*x won’t make your marriage, but it’ll help.

Privacy won’t hurt your marriage, but secrecy will.

Possessiveness and jealousy are born out of fear, not love.

Authenticity is contagious and habit-forming.

If your spouse thinks something is important, then it is.

Marriage never outgrows the need for romance.

The sparkle of a new relationship is always temporary.

There is violence in silence when it’s used as a weapon.

It’s better to focus on what you can do to make things right, then what your partner did to make things wrong.

If you think marriage counseling is too expensive, try divorce.......

The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.

To Me,attitude is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstance, than failure, than success, than what other people think or do. It is more important than appearance, giftednees or skill. It can make or break a home, a company, a nation.

We cannot change our past; we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable.

The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our Attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it.(everyone of us).

You are in change of your ATTITUDE.....

*WHAT'S YOUR NATURE?*

_A man saw a snake that had accidentally fell into a fire burning and struggling to come out and decided to take it out of the fire._

_As soon as he pulled it out by its tail, straight away the snake swiftly turned its head and bit him causing excruciating pain._
_The man immediately dropped the snake, and the reptile fell right back into the fire._

_The man, running out of time and in deep pain from the snakebite, looked around and found a metal rod and used it to hook the snake out of the fire, saving its life._

_A friend who was watching all the drama of the snake and the man said: *“That snake bit you. Why are you still trying to save it?”*_

_The man replied: *“The nature of the snake is to bite, but that's not going to change my nature, which is to help.”*_

*Do not change your good nature because someone has a bad side and attitude towards you. Do not lose your good heart even if someone is ungrateful and unappreciative.*

*Just be cautious with them but refuse to be diverted from your good nature even in the middle of insults and tormenting.*

*You are different in nature. You represent God who loves even the bad. It’s His nature and it’s your nature as He created you in His image to function like Him!*

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Thanks God is Another Blessing Day for Everyone of Us, Allah Mercy and Favour shall locate us in unexpected ways of our lives.....Ameen Yah Allah.

Ways to correct your husband/wife
Many men/woman hurt themselves in the name of correction. They speak harshly; they approach rashly and they can be very brutal.
Lots of women are living their lives in bitterness and anger due to the careless ways their husbands have been talking to them over time.
Here, you will be able to know the right ways to talk to your husband/wife without hurting her/him:

1. LOWER THE TONE OF YOUR VOICE: Don’t shout at her, she is not your housemaid or your child. Correct her with a calm tone in love.
2. DO IT IN LOVE: Correction should be done in love. If done in any other way, it turns to criticism and condemnation.
3. DON’T CRITICIZE: Stop criticizing him/her. Rather, correct in love. Many will say it's constructive criticism. It means disapproval by pointing out errors and mistakes.
Correction is the act of offering better options to mistakes.
Correction and criticism are never the same.
Husband A says, "What manner of food is this?" "Is this popcorn or fried rice?" "How I wish I married a more sensible wife with better home training and who can cook better."
Husband B says, "Sweetheart this rice is too salty and dry, unlike the one you did yesterday. I think the salt level should be reduced any other time because of our health."
Husband A criticized, Husband B corrected his wife in love.
Stop criticizing your wife.
4. PRAISE HIM/HER FOR WHAT IS RIGHT: It will be wrong to correct when it’s not well done. Form the habit of praising and appreciating your wife for good deeds.
5. DON’T DO IT BEFORE YOUR CHILDREN: Avoid correcting your wife in the presence of your children. Incessant correction of your wife before your children will make them disrespect her.
6. DON’T CORRECT HIM/HER IN THE PUBLIC: Avoid correcting your wife in the public, it does not show you as a gentleman. It will also affect her self-esteem.
7. AVOID CORRECTION IN ANGER: Stop correcting your wife in anger, shouting, ranting, beating and making trouble. Real men don’t do that.
8. DON’T COMPARE HIM/HER WITH ANY OTHER MAN or WOMAN: In your thought of correcting her, you might have been comparing her with other women. “Don’t you see what your friend is doing?”
“Can’t you learn from our neighbour's wife?”
“I think you should borrow a leaf from Deaconess Mary”
This is very wrong, no woman loves to be compared with others, stop it.
9. AVOID REFERRING TO OLD ISSUES: Avoid referring to issues discussed and settled. Stick to the present issue, discuss like adults and move on.
10. DON’T ATTACK HIM/HER: Don't say, "And you call yourself a woman?" "Virtuous women don’t behave like this, you better change before I change you." This is very wrong, don’t do it.
11. DON’T ATTACK HER DIGNITY: Don't say, "You don’t behave like someone with sense, do you think at all?" "And you said you went to school, I doubt it." Don't talk like this to your wife, it is wrong!
12. DON’T ATTACK HER WOMANHOOD: Men are fond of attacking their wives’ womanhood anytime they make mistakes. Don't say things like, "I don’t blame you, you are just a woman" "Women are not known to be wise"
This is very wrong. Science has proved that men's brain works just like the brain of women.
Men are not necessarily wiser than women, wisdom is not about gender.
13. DO IT IN TIME OF PEACE: Most husbands want to correct in the heat of anger, at the height of misunderstanding, when temper has already hit the roof. That is not the best time to correct; it will yield little or no result.
14. GIVE A HELPING HAND: The best way to correct is to lead by example. Step into the kitchen to give a helping hand, don’t just sit in front of the television correcting what goes on in the kitchen.
Wives are doing a great job. Appreciate yours and support her to be a better wife and good mother to your children.

لَبَّيْكَ اللَّهُمَّ لَبَّيْكَ، لَبَّيْكَ لاَ شَرِيكَ لَكَ لَبَّيْكَ، إِنَّ الْحَمْدَ والنِّعْمَةَ، لَكَ والْمُلْكُ، لَا شَرِيكَ لَكَ

Labbayk Allaahumma labbayk, labbayk laa shareeka laka labbayk, 'innal-hamda, wanni'mata, laka walmulk, laa shareeka laka.

I am here at Your service, O Allah, I am here at Your service. I am here at Your service, You have no partner, I am here at Your service. Surely the praise, and blessings are Yours, and the dominion. You have no partner.

(spiritual light) The Holy Prophet (SAW) Said:

1) Four things that make your body sick:
a) Excessive talking
b) Excessive sleeping
c) Excessive eating and
d) Excessive in*******se.

2) Four things that destroy the body:
a) Worrying
b) Sorrow (Sadness/Grief)
c) Hunger
d) Sleeping late in the night

3) Four things that take away the nur (spiritual light) & happiness from your face:
a) Lying
b) Being disrespectful / impudent (insisting on something wrong knowingly)
c) Arguing without adequate knowledge & Information.
d) Excessive immorality (doing something wrong without fear).

4) Four things that increase the nur (spiritual light) of face & its happiness:
a) Piety
b) Loyalty
c) Generosity (being kind)
d) To be helpful to others without he/she asking for that.

5) Four things that stop the Rizq (Sustenance) :
a) Sleeping in the morning (from Fajr to sunrise) b) Not Performing Namaz or Ir-regular in Prayers
c) Laziness / Idleness
d) Treachery / Dishonesty

6) Four things that bring / increase the Rizq (wealth):
a) Staying up in the night for prayers.
b) Excessive Repentance
c) Regular Charity
d) Zikr (Remembrance of Allah / God).

The Holy Prophet (SAW), Also said to communicate to others even if it's just one Verse (Ayaah) & this one verse will stand on the Day of Judgment for intercession

The Holy Prophet (SAW) said, Stop doing everything during the Azaan, even reading the Quran, the person who talks during the Azaan will not be able to say the Kalima E Shahada on his/her death bed....

Allahumma- inni- ala- Zikr-ika -wa Shuk-rika wa husni-Ibaadatik
A very powerful Dua'a has been sent to you. Imagine if 1000 people read it just because of you. Jazakallah. BECAUSE ONLY you will seek goodnesss.
Our Holy Prophet (SAW) has said..

- Black Seed is the cure to every illness
- Vinegar; if present in any household, that house will never become poor
- Olive is a cure to 76 illnesses
- Zam Zam is also the cure

**WHAT IS INSIDE YOU?**

One Day a King gave a Basket Full of Rotten Food to a Poor man.

The Poor man Smiled and Left the Palace with the Basket.

He Emptied the Basket of Its Content and Cleaned It, Put Beautiful Flowers in It and Returned It to the Palace and gave It to the King.

The King was surprised and Asked the Poor man WHY?

"I GAVE YOU A BASKET FULL OF ROTTEN THINGS AND YOU BRING IT BACK FILLED WITH BEAUTIFUL FLOWERS."

The Poor man Replied the King:
"EVERY HUMAN BEING GIVES WHAT IS IN HIS HEART."

WHAT IS INSIDE YOU IS WHAT YOU GIVE OUT.
BE KIND ALWAYS.

You don't Need to First become RICH to be KIND,
KINDNESS IS FREE!

Whether Rich or Poor All can Be Kind,
What You only Need is A RICH HEART.

Because A RICH HEART
"Loves without Condition,
Talks without Bad intention,
Gives without a Reason,
And Best of All CARES FOR PEOPLE WITHOUT ANY EXPECTATION".

You can Be Kind on All Levels of Your Life so long as You have A RICH HEART.

KINDNESS IS A VERY EXPENSIVE GIFT, SO DON'T EXPECT IT FROM EVERYONE ...

BECAUSE VERY FEW PEOPLE ARE "RICH IN HEART...."

# BeKindAlways #
# BeNiceToOthers #
# Share Love to others Always #
It pays in the end.

"BE RICH IN HEART ALWAYS".