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Good Day Everyone..

Did you notice today's date is *12/12* See what the Bible says about today's date:

Genesis 12:12. You will not die you will live.

Exodus 12:12. Danger will passover your home.

Deuteronomy 12:12 You and your households will be joyful in God's presence.

Joshua 12:12 You will defeat all your enemies

1 Samuel 12:12 A new and a better king will rule in your life.

2Samuel 12:12 The evil plans of your enemies will be made public.

1Kings 12:12 Your favours shall return to you.

2Kings 12:12 You will build your own house.

Happy New week & Compliment of the seasons...

Let's hustle hard

*STOP RAISING AN OVER-DEPENDENT GENERATION* !!!!
Most parents of today are raising an *OVER DEPENDENT GENERATION* !!!

1. You cook their food for them so that they can read and enjoy.

2. You help them to wash their clothes and tidy their rooms.

3. You drop them off in school every day by yourself!

4. You lie on their behalf to get them out of trouble.

5. You arrange "expo" to help them pass their exams.

6. You protect them from every danger and difficulties.

7. You prevent them from any form of pain and suffering.

8. You don't want them to suffer like you did as a child.

9. You hustle around while they watch films and play games.

10. They can't go out alone because you're always scared.

11. You take every decision for them, because you're wiser.

12. You go to their schools to fight for them and prove rights.

13. You defend them even when they're wrong and at fault.

14. You can not stand seeing them starve or go hungry for once.

15. You fight against those who try to correct them.

*I PITY YOU*
....YOU ARE BUSY RAISING AN OVER- DEPENDENT GENERATION !!!

You think you are showing them LOVE ?

*SORRY, YOU'RE WRONG* !!!!

By the time you're no longer there and they face real life challenges, they will become helpless !!!

At that stage, they will realise the havoc you have done to them and CURSE YOU !!!

*STOP RAISING AN OVER-DEPENDENT GENERATION !!!*

Allow these children to face realities of life !!!

Be careful !!!

*Raising Responsible Children*
1. Give your children age-appropriate domestic tasks, even if you have a thousand and one domestic servants at home. It is sheer ignorance to think that doing everything for your children is a mark of honour or a way of bequeathing royalty on them.

2. Teach them to be useful and make their impact felt positively wherever they are found – in the school, place of worship, in another person’s home, etc.

3. Encourage your children to always leave a good impression wherever they go to; teach them to be courteous, respectful, friendly, cheerful and helpful.

4. Teach them good toilet manners – they must know how to keep the toilet neat for the next user, let them know that it is unacceptable to leave the bathroom floor and/or walls messed with soap, foam or any form dirt after bathing.

5. Teach your children the importance of taking good care of their body and their environment; whether they are at home or elsewhere. Remind them that responsible people don’t leave their rooms unkempt or their bed unmade when they get up in the morning; teach them to bath very well and smell fine always. It is unbearable to have a smelly young person around you; let them take care of their armpits, teeth, hair, nail, etc.

6. Teach your children to manage their used clothes and other personal belongings very well, whether in their home or elsewhere. It can be irritating to have dirty clothes or shoes, especially those of a visitor litter every corner of the house.

7. Let them pack their toiletries before leaving home. Your children should not depend on their hosts for their basic toiletries like soap, cream, tooth paste and other essentials.

8. Teach your children to dress well all the time, especially when they are spending time with another family. You probably allow your daughters to dress in bum shots and your sons to walk about with their chest bare in your home, but they may not be safe if they do so in another place. You may not know where a predator would lie in wait for a child.

9. Teach them good table manners; not the one recited in nursery schools rhymes. Teach them to chew with their mouth covered, not to make noise with the cutlery on their teeth, not to talk with their mouth full, etc.

10. Let your children know that washing only their own plates after eating is not a noble idea.

11. Remind your children that jumping into a conversation when adults are talking is a sign of being ill-mannered. Discourage this both in your home and elsewhere.

12. Help your children not to be social birds online and anti-social bugs offline. They should relate well with people around them, much more than they do with virtual folks they meet online. Please, discourage this idea of young people locking themselves in the room hours on end without communicating with anyone in the house – all because they are on phone.

13. Empower your children to uphold your family values wherever they are. But before then, make sure that your family values are credible, empowering, socially and morally beneficial.

14. Teach your children to control their appetite and learn to turn down certain offers, even when such offers come from people they know. And at home, it is not compulsory that they must taste everything they see someone eating. This will help them to take their eyes away from certain things when they are in other people’s home.

15. Always remind your children that they are the window through which the world sees you. If your children’s behavior outside is bad, the general consensus is that they lack home training. And since children are not meant to give themselves home training, it means that you failed as a parent.

16. Finally, make sure your children know God. Salvation is not hereditary; that you are godly or highly spiritual is not a guarantee that your children are saved. You must consciously and deliberately lead them to God

My fellow parents, let us try our best to make sure these children represent us well. I am sure you will feel good if you come to your children’s school and people are pointing at you as the parent of the best behaved child in the school. Won’t you?

Make sure your hosts and the hosts of your children are always impressed to have you and/or your children around.

*SCHOOL/TEACHERS CAN'T GIVE THEM ALL.*

*May God Almighty make our children responsible and successful .*

Happy new month.

THE S*X YOU MUST NOT HAVE.

1. You must never agree to have s*x with a married man no matter what he promises or professes. Never!

2. Never agree to have s*x with your boss. If the harassment becomes too much, resign and trust God for a better job.

3. If God put people under your care to mentor or pastor, it is better you die than to have s*x with them. Never take advantage of God's people no matter what.

4. Don't have s*x with a married woman. If you are getting too much attached via chatting, official, or academic rapport, break up the closeness or whatever name you have for it.

5. Never have s*x with your lecturers. S*x for grades or marks is for nonentity. You are not. Never must you be.

6. If you are a marketer, never agree to sleep with a prospective client just to meet your official target. Never!

7. Don't have s*x with your in-laws. If he or she stays with you and you are finding it difficult to resist the pull, let him or her leave. I mean latest tomorrow.

8. Don't have s*x with your neighbour or colleague. A neighbour is a neighbour. A colleague is a colleague. Don't get your life more complicated.

9. Don't have s*x with your platonic friend. If the relationship is no longer platonic, break up the thing.

10. I believe God created s*x to be between male and female. Stay away from having s*x with your same gender. God is against homos*xuality and so should you.

11. Don't have s*x with your sibling or relatives. In**st is vile.

12. Don't have s*x with your girlfriend. Don't have s*x with your boyfriend. God did not create s*x for love relationships. He created it for MARRIAGE.

The only s*x you should have is with your legally married partner

*NOT ALL MEDICINES / PILLS ARE AVAILABLE IN THE PHARMACEUTICALS!*

*1 - Exercise is medicine.*
*2 - Fasting is medicine.*
*3 - Natural food is medicine.*
*4 - Laughter is medicine.*
*5 - Vegetables and fruits are medicines.*
*6 - Sleep is medicine.*
*7 - Sunlight is medicine.*
*8 - Loving others is medicine*
*9 - Loving yourself is medicine.*
*10 - Gratitude is medicine.*
*11 - Letting go of offence is medicine.*
*12 - Meditation is medicine.*
*13 - Reading and studying the Word of God is medicine.*
*14 - Eating well, on time and without excess is medicine.*
*15 - Right thinking with a good mindset is medicine.*
*16 - Trusting in God is medicine*
*17 - Good friends are a medicine.*
*18 -. Forgiving yourself and forgiving others is medicine.*
*19 - Drinking plenty of water is medicine.*
*20 - A peaceful heart is medicine*

*Take enough of these medications and you will rarely need the ones from pharmaceuticals.*

*OH MUSLIMS! VALENTINES DAY IS FORBIDDEN FOR YOU*

*Question*
*What is the ruling on Valentine’s Day?.*

*Answer:*
*Praise be to Allaah.*
Firstly:
Valentine’s Day is a jaahili Roman festival, which continued to be celebrated until after the Romans became Christian. This festival became connected with the saint known as Valentine who was sentenced to death on 14 February 270 CE. The kuffaar still celebrate this festival, during which immorality and evil are practised widely. For more details on this celebration, please see: Celebrating Valentine’s Day .
Secondly:
It is not permissible for a Muslim to celebrate any of the festivals of the kuffaar, because festivals come under the heading of shar’i issues which are to be based on the sound texts.
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: Festivals are part of sharee’ah, clear way and rituals of which Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“To each among you, We have prescribed a law and a clear way”
[al-Maa’idah 5:48]
“For every nation We have ordained religious ceremonies which they must follow”
[al-Hajj 22:67]
-- such as the qiblah (direction faced in prayer), prayer and fasting. There is no difference between their participating in the festival and their participating in all other rituals. Joining in fully with the festival is joining in with kufr, and joining in with some of its minor issues is joining in with some of the branches of kufr. Indeed, festivals are one of the most unique features that distinguish various religions and among their most prominent symbols, so joining in with them is joining in with the most characteristic and prominent symbols of kufr. No doubt joining in with this may lead to complete kufr.
Partially joining in, at the very least, is disobedience and sin. This was indicated by the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) when he said: “Every people has its festival and this is our festival.” This is worse than joining them in wearing the zinaar (a garment that was worn only by ahl al-dhimmah) and other characteristics of theirs, for those characteristics are man-made and are not part of their religion, rather the purpose behind them is simply to distinguish between a Muslim and a kaafir. As for the festival and its rituals, this is part of the religion which is cursed along with its followers, so joining in with it is joining in with something that is a cause of incurring the wrath and punishment of Allaah. End quote from Iqtida’ al-Siraat al-Mustaqeem (1/207).
He also said (may Allaah have mercy on him): It is not permissible for the Muslims to imitate them in anything that is uniquely a part of their festivals, whether it be food, clothing, bathing, lighting fires, refraining from a regular habit, doing acts of worship or anything else. It is not permissible to give a feast or to give gifts, or to sell anything that will help them to do that for that purpose, or to allow children and others to play games that are part of the festivals, or to wear one’s adornments.
To conclude: the Mulsims should not do any of their rituals at the time of their festivals; rather the day of their festival should be like any other day for the Muslims. The Muslims should not do anything specific in imitation of them. End quote from Majmoo al-Fataawa (25/329).
Al-Haafiz al-Dhahabi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: If the Christians have a festival, and the Jews have a festival, it is only for them, so no Muslim should join them in that, just as no Muslim should join them in their religion or their direction of prayer. End quote from Tashabbuh al-Khasees bi Ahl al-Khamees, published in Majallat al-Hikmah (4/193)
The hadeeth to which Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah referred was narrated by al-Bukhaari (952) and Muslim (892) from ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) who said: Abu Bakr came in and there were two young girls of the Ansaar with me who were singing about what had happened to the Ansaar on the day of Bu’aath. She said: And they were not (professional) singing girls. Abu Bakr said: “Musical instruments of the shaytaan in the house of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)?!” and that was on the day of Eid. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “O Abu Bakr, every people has a festival and this is our festival.”
Abu Dawood (1134) narrated that Anas (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: When the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) came to Madeenah, they had two days when they would play. He said: “What are these two days?” They said: “We used to play on these days during the Jaahiliyyah.” The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah has given you instead of them two days that are better than them: the day of al-Adha and the day of al-Fitr.” This hadeeth was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood.
This indicates that festivals are among the characteristics by which nations are distinguished, and it is not permissible to celebrate the festivals of the ignorant and the mushrikeen (polytheists).
The scholars have issued fatwas stating that it is haraam to celebrate Valentine’s Day.
1 –Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked:
In recent times the celebration of Valentine’s Day has become widespread, especially among female students. It is a Christian festival where people dress completely in red, including clothes and shoes, and they exchange red flowers. We hope that you can explain the ruling on celebrating this festival, and what your advice is to Muslims with regard to such matters; may Allaah bless you and take care of you.
He replied:
Celebrating Valentine’s Day is not permissible for a number of reasons.
1- It is an innovated festival for which there is no basis in Islam.
2- It promotes love and infatuation.
3- It calls for hearts to be preoccupied with foolish matters that are contrary to the way of the righteous salaf (may Allaah be pleased with them).
It is not permissible on this day to do any of the things that are characteristic of this festival, whether that has to do with food, drinks, clothing, exchanging gifts or anything else.
The Muslim should be proud of his religion and should not be a weak character who follows every Tom, Dick and Harry. I ask Allaah to protect the Muslims from all temptations, visible and invisible, and to protect us and guide us.
End quote from Majmoo’ Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (16/199)
2 – The Standing Committee was asked: Some people celebrate Valentine’s Day on the fourteenth of February every year. They exchange gifts of red roses and wear red clothes and congratulate one another. Some bakeries make red coloured sweets and draw hearts on them, and some stores advertise products that are especially for this day. What is your opinion on the following:
1- Celebrating this day
2- Buying things from the stores on this day
3- Storekeepers who are not celebrating it selling things that may be given as gifts to people who are celebrating it?
They replied:
The clear evidence of the Qur’aan and Sunnah – and the consensus of the early generations of this ummah – indicates that there are only two festivals in Islam: Eid al-Fitr and Eid al-Adha. Any other festivals that have to do with a person, a group, an event or anything else are innovated festivals, which it is not permissible for Muslims to observe, approve of or express joy on those occasions, or to help others to celebrate them in any way, because that is transgressing the sacred limits of Allaah, and whoever transgresses the sacred limits of Allaah has wronged himself. If the fabricated festival is also a festival of the kuffaar, then the sin is even greater, because this is imitating them and it is a kind of taking them as close friends, and Allaah has forbidden the believers to imitate them and take them as close friends in His Holy Book. And it is proven that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever imitates a people is one of them.” Valentine’s Day comes under this heading because it is an idolatrous Christian festival, so it is not permissible for a Muslim who believes in Allaah and the Last Day to observe it or approve of it or congratulate people on it. Rather he has to ignore it and avoid it, in obedience to Allaah and His Messenger, and so as to keep away from the causes that incur the wrath and punishment of Allaah. It is also haraam for the Muslim to help people to celebrate this or any other haraam festival by supplying any kind of food or drink, or buying or selling or manufacturing or giving or advertising etc., because all of that is cooperating in sin and transgression and is disobedience towards Allaah and His Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Help you one another in Al‑Birr and At‑Taqwa (virtue, righteousness and piety); but do not help one another in sin and transgression. And fear Allaah. Verily, Allaah is Severe in punishment”
[al-Maa’idah 5:2]
The Muslim must adhere to the Book of Allaah and the Sunnah in all his affairs, especially at times of fitnah when evil is widespread. He should be smart and avoid falling into the misguidance of those who have earned Allaah’s anger and who have gone astray, and the evildoers who have no fear of Allaah and who do not have any pride in being Muslims. The Muslim must turn to Allaah and seek His guidance and remain steadfast in following it, for there is no Guide except Allaah and no one can make a person steadfast but Him. And Allaah is the source of strength. May Allaah send blessings and peace upon our Prophet Muhammad and his family and companions. End quote.
3 – Shaykh Ibn Jibreen (may Allaah preserve him) was asked:
Among our young men and women it has become common to celebrate Valentine’s Day, which is named after a saint who is venerated by the Christians, who celebrate it every year on February 14, when they exchange gifts and red roses, and they wear red clothes. What is the ruling on celebrating this day and exchanging gifts?
He replied:
Firstly: it is not permissible to celebrate these innovated festivals, because it is an innovation for which there is no basis in Islam. It comes under the heading of the hadeeth of ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her), according to which the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever introduces anything into this matter of ours that is not part of it will have it rejected.”
Secondly: it involves imitating the kuffaar and copying them by venerating that which they venerate and respecting their festivals and rituals, and imitating them in something that is part of their religion. In the hadeeth it says: “Whoever imitates a people is one of them.”
Thirdly: it results in evils and haraam things such as wasting time, singing, music, extravagance, unveiling, wanton display, men mixing with women, women appearing before men other than their mahrams, and other haraam things, or things that are a means that leads to immorality. That cannot be excused by the claim that this is a kind of entertainment and fun. The one who is sincere towards himself should keep away from sin and the means that lead to it.
And he said:
Based on this, it is not permissible to sell these gifts and roses, if it is known that the purchaser celebrates these festivals or will give these things as gifts on those days, so that the seller will not be a partner of the one who does those innovations. And Allaah knows best. End quote.

*And Allaah knows best.*

*HOW TO KNOW YOU'VE FOUND HIM*

*1) HE LOVES GOD*

A GOOD MAN is first of all a GOD MAN.

Everything he does, how he treats you are motivated by his love for God. He treats you right because he loves and fears God.

He seeks to draw you close to the THRONE ROOM of God daily, and not to his BEDROOM.

He is concerned about spiritual growth, and engages you on a spiritual journey of growth and intimacy with the Father, your relationship with him bears semblance to the three fold cord that can not be broken because he always brings God into it.

*2) HE IS HONEST.*

He is honest about his feelings for you, he is honest about his intentions, what he wants from you, he is honest about when he sees/wants the relationship to end in marriage. He tells you everything

He is honest to you about his finances, his career, his life, his family etc.

He is trust worthy, transparent in all his dealings, he never lies just to impress because it is not his nature.
He has Integrity you can see, he doesn't make promises he cannot keep, he keeps 90% of his promises.

*3) HE RESPECTS YOU*

He doesn't treat you with contempt or disregard, the way he talks to you, with so much care and love, like a friend, not a boss.

He treats you like a princess, respects your wishes, your privacy and personal space, he doesn't cross certain boundaries because he respects you and your body.

He doesn't flirt with ladies or cheat on you because he respects you, your feelings and the relationship.

He extends the respect he has for you to your friends, guardians and family, the way he talks about them and talks to them is respectful.

*4) HE MAKES EFFORT*

He makes effort to keep any Promises he makes to you, if he tells you he will at a place by 6pm, he makes effort to be there

He makes efforts to please you, he's always doing things just to make you happy, even if he is inconvenienced in the process, like staying up all night to talk to you when you want his attention.

He makes effort to stay in touch with you, no matter how busy his schedule, no matter how busy he is, he'll make out time to stay in touch, call you, visit you, hang out with you regularly.

He makes effort, changes his routines, his lifestyle, his habits, his dressing, just to make you happy.

*5) HE LISTENS*

He asks for your opinions, because he treasures them, because he has great regard for not just your body, but you mind.

He consults you before he takes decisions, and considers what you say and seeks to implement them.

He takes corrections from you happily and with humility and adjusts accordingly.

*6) HE TREATS YOU WITH LOVE*

He loves you, and you see it in his eyes, you hear it in his words, and you feel it from his actions.

He texts, calls, visits, holds you lovingly, buys you gifts for no reason, and plans for the future with you. He doesn't use you to joke because you mean the world to him.

*7) HE SUPPORTS YOU*

He supports you in anything you wish to do, he is your number one fan and cheerleader, he supports your everyday hustle, your dreams and passions, financially and otherwise.

He supports you in your business with ideas, encouragement, prayers, he is always there for you when you need him, he's a shoulder to cry on, a listening ear when you Wan to rant, and a friend to you.

*8) He's after your soul, not your body.*

*9) He's smart and hard working*

He wants to marry you, has said so and is willing to wait till MARRIAGE for s*x.

If you have such a Man, appreciate him, pray for him, treasure him, and don't let him go.

As a daughter of God, believing God for a husband, continually ask God for such a Man in prayers using scriptures, and position yourself accordingly...

If he could give his only begotten son to die for you, is it a good husband he can't give you?

Believe and Keep on asking till you get it. Don't get tired, your testimony is close.

🔭 *The present day women 'often' report their husbands in regards to worldly affairs, but have you ever reported your husband because👇👇👇:*
- He has abandoned the night prayers?
- He no longer observes fasting out of laziness?
- His trousers are now trailing the floor?
- He is shaving his beards?
- He doesn't go to the Masjid to pray?
- He hardly wakes up on time for Subhi?
- He doesn't seek for knowledge?
- He has done Hijrah for the Quran?
- He listens to music and watches dirty movies?
- He earns from a Haram source of livelihood?
- His Eeman is depreciating? Etc
Rather, the things women usually report their husbands for are:
- He used to give me 30k monthly pocket allowance, but he now gives me only 10k..
- He wants to marry Nosimo o, a secondary school girl for that matter..
- Ever since we got married, he is no longer as romantic as he used to be.
- He doesn't give me much attention, he is married to his phone.
- He avoids my bed, he is cheating on me.
- I told him to buy a pink bag for me, but he bought a black one. Tell him to return it o, am not wearing it.
- He doesn't sing for me like Abu Fulaan does for his wife, and he doesn't commend my hairstyles.
- He doesn't chat with me on social media, even if we are both online at the same time.
- He is insultive, and he beats me.
- He is secretive, he locked his phone and refuses to tell me his ATM password.
- He said i should quit social media.
- He wants to marry our house girl. That dirty girl fa. Etc
You will hardly see a wife reporting her husband because of his decline in religious commitment, whereas the female companions would often report their husbands for such things:
- The wife of Safwaan ibn Mua'ttal reported him because he doesn't wake up for Subhi until the sun is shinning, he feeds her forcefully when she is fasting and she smaks her when she is prolonging her prayers at home.
- Umm Rafee reported Abu Rafee because he beat her for correcting him about a Mas'alah.
- Hind bint Utbah reported her husband Abu Sufyan because he wasn't doing enough Nafaqah on her and the children.
- Khawlah bint Thalabah reported her husband because he declared Zihar on her, not for any other reason.
- Jameelah reported her husband Thaabit only when she wanted to opt out, because she doesn't want to show ingratitude to him.
- Umm Darda reported her husband Abu Darda to Salmaan Al Farsiy because her husband was extremely engrossed with Iba'dah. Etc
That is why their marriages had Barkah (blessings) and it stood the test of time, because they were the true examples of marriages done to seek the face of Allah. Today, our marriages are a mess, and divorce is the order of the day, because the intentions for which people marry are not even pure in the first place.
The Prophet said:
وَزَوْجَةً مُؤْمِنَةً تُعِينُ أَحَدَكُمْ عَلَى أَمْرِ الْآخِرَ
(.. and a believing wife who SUPPORTS you in the matters of your hereafter)
So the big question is, are our marriages really for the sake of Allah, or for the sake of our personal comfort and desires?
May Allah rectify our marriages, ameen...
Last day of the year...
Welcome to a new year...

*SOME IMPORTANT THINGS YOU MUST KNOW BEFORE GETTING MARRIED*

I will be sharing with us ten crucial things most ladies must know before they get married. Stay with elderly people and hear them talk about marriage, they give the best marriage advice. Life is all about principles, if you want to be like someone, follow his principles. If you want to have a happy relationship or marriage, follow principles of couples in happy relationship.

👉 *You should know that sometimes relationship will take away your joy.* I know this sounds somehow but it is the truth. However, times like that don't last, you will still smile.

👉 *Relationships or I should say marriage ain't easy.* It is not every times things will be going smoothly. There will be trying times.

👉 *Never forget that there are times that there will be nothing*. During times like this, your husband needs your support. This isn't the time for you to start nagging and complaining.

👉 *Marriage requires a whole lot of patience.* Time will sort some things out. Don't be too quick to judge and never be tired of being patient

👉 *Maturity is needed in every marriage.* Some decisions are tough to make but they are the best! Be natured enough to know when to keep quiet and when to talk.

👉 *People change a lot!* The heart that loves you today could start to behave somehow. Men do this a lot, change the moment they married you. You can still change him to your taste.

👉 *Never be scared of marriage.* Some of you already gave up before starting probably because of the house you were raised in or what you have seen others experience.

*SHUT THE DOOR OF RELATIONSHIP GENTLY, YOU MAY NEED TO USE IT LATER!*

Many years ago I was working as a clerk at a faculty in one popular university in Nigeria, then I saw an advert for NDA (Nigeria Defence Academy), I have always loved to go to NDA so I applied, submitted my form and was called for admission examination.
I had to travel to Kaduna all the way from Osun State, I have a distant uncle that was resident there then. I wrote a letter (no telephone at the time) to my uncle that I was coming to sit for an exam in Kaduna and would love to stay in their house.
I didn't get a reply to my letter even as my departure date was approaching. I became so worried because I needed to go anyway, as I was talking to a colleague in the office concerning my fear of where to stay, our office cleaner who was a Hausa man overheard us and in his broken English interjected that he knew someone right inside NDA.
Who could he know there? *Is it not a cleaner like himself*, I unintentionally said it out to his hearing. "Oga no o, the commandant op za NDA na ma classmate and ma priend". In his bad handwriting, he scribbled the commandant's name on a piece of paper. "Just mention my name's por am, him go helf you."
I reluctantly collected the paper from him, not because I intended to make use of it but because I didn't want him to feel bad.
The next day, I set out on this long journey by train from Osogbo. I got to Kaduna a day later towards evening. Upon getting there, I went straight to my uncle's house only to find out that they had relocated from that place and no one knew their new address. I became stranded and it was getting late.
Around after 7pm, I made up my mind to give my cleaner's contact a shot. I got to the gate of NDA and mentioned the name I was given. To my utmost surprise, everyone in that bit, recognized the name and one person was promptly detailed to take me to his office.
I gave the paper where Kabiru wrote his name and that of his friend to the secretary who took it inside. On sighting the paper, the commandant shouted from the office and followed the secretary outside to usher me in. "Where do you know Kabiru?" "He's my colleague in the office, Sir," I answered.
"Where is he? How is he? Hope he's doing well?" This man was asking me many questions in an obvious excitement.
The look on his face confirmed to me that Kabiru was his beloved friend. He asked me what I came to do in Kaduna and I said it was for the NDA exams. "Wow, do you have where to sleep?" "No, sir." He immediately called someone to take me to his house. On getting to the house, I was lavishly entertained.
This man came late in the night and he woke me up and took me up on tutorials for the next day's exams. After the exams, he personally drove me to the park the next day.
When I got back to the campus, I began to look at Kabiru with a different eyes. How on earth does this man know such a powerful person? Needless to say, my name was number four on the list when the results came out.
Friends, I put it to you today that relationship is a currency. Every man needs another man to move up and that man may be the neighbour you look down on, maybe the taxi driver you so despise or even the house help you think is a nobody today.
Relationship is a stream of income. Everything in life actually reproduces on the basis of relationship. Those we know in life matter. *Most of us are talented but we need a cupbearer that will tell Pharaoh that there's a Joseph that can interpret dreams.* we need our old school mates irrespective of their status today.
Hook up with your class mates in the primary, secondary and tertiary schools alumni.
There are some heights you may never get to in life until someone tells someone about you even in church or mosque. Therefore, shut the door of relationships gently. You may need to use it tomorrow.
Let us take our relationships seriously. Even if you meet online, don't look down on anyone. You never can tell which of the relationships is your own key to success.
CHEERS.