The Will's

WHO SET THE DEADLINE?

In life, many people live as though there is a fixed deadline for success. Society often creates pressure by asking questions like, “When will you marry?”, “When will you build your house?”, “When will you become successful?” These expectations make many people feel left behind, forgotten, or unsuccessful. But the important question remains: **Who set the deadline?**

Life is not a race against others; it is a journey of purpose, growth, achievements, and fulfillment. Every individual has a different path, different struggles, and different timing. What takes one person five years may take another ten years, yet both can still end in greatness. The danger comes when people compare their progress with others and begin to feel they have failed because they have not met society’s expectations.

Achievements in life are not measured only by speed but by impact, purpose, and fulfillment. A person who achieves success at 25 is not better than one who succeeds at 50. The value of achievement lies in consistency, determination, and the ability to fulfill one’s purpose. Many great men and women reached their breakthroughs at different stages of life. Some became successful early, while others found their purpose much later, yet their stories still inspire generations.

Fulfillment in life comes from becoming who you were created to be, not from competing with others. When people chase deadlines set by society, they often gain success but lose peace, joy, and purpose. True fulfillment comes from growth, meaningful relationships, personal development, helping others, and living according to one’s values and calling.

Sometimes delays are not denials but periods of preparation. A seed planted in the ground does not grow overnight. It passes through seasons before becoming fruitful. In the same way, every person goes through a process that prepares them for lasting achievements. What matters is not how fast one moves but whether one continues moving with faith, discipline, and determination.

Instead of asking, “Why am I late?” ask, “Am I growing?” Instead of comparing yourself with others, focus on becoming a better version of yourself every day. Celebrate small wins, learn from setbacks, and trust your journey.

At the end of life, fulfillment will not come from how quickly things were achieved, but from knowing that you lived purposefully, touched lives, and fulfilled your destiny. Therefore, never allow pressure, comparison, or fear to define your timeline. Your journey is unique, and your season of achievement will come.

Remember: Nobody truly sets the deadline for your destiny except purpose, preparation, and persistence. Move at your pace, but never stop moving.

Men Are Human, Not God

In a world where expectations are rising and responsibilities continue to grow, many men are silently carrying burdens too heavy for one person to bear. Society often teaches men to be strong, provide endlessly, solve every problem, and never break. Yet one truth remains: **men are human, not God.

A man may be a father, husband, brother, son, leader, or provider, but he is still flesh and blood. He gets tired, confused, hurt, disappointed, and overwhelmed. He may not always say it, but behind every strong face is a heart that also seeks understanding, peace, and support. When families place unrealistic expectations on men, demanding perfection in every area of life, they forget that no human being was created to carry the weight of the world alone.

In family affairs, there must be understanding and partnership. A home thrives not because one person carries all the burden, but because every member contributes with love, patience, and responsibility. A father is not a machine for money, nor a husband a solution to every challenge overnight. Respect, communication, prayers, encouragement, and unity are pillars that strengthen the family. A man who is appreciated and supported becomes stronger for his family, while a man constantly condemned may slowly break in silence.

The same truth applies to the community. Communities often expect men to settle disputes, provide leadership, sponsor activities, help everyone, and remain available at all times. While responsibility is honorable, we must remember that men are not gods. They too have struggles, financial limitations, emotional battles, and personal responsibilities. Sometimes the very men carrying the community are silently crying for help.

A healthy society is one where burdens are shared. Families should stand together. Communities should support one another. Compassion should replace pressure, and understanding should replace unreasonable expectations. Men must also learn that asking for help is not weakness, and communities should create spaces where men can speak, heal, and be supported.

Even in the Bible, strong men had moments of weakness. Ecclesiastes 4:9–10 reminds us that *“Two are better than one… if either of them falls down, one can help the other up.”* No man was created to walk alone or carry every burden by himself.

Let us remember: **a man may lead, protect, and provide, but he is not God.** He deserves understanding, respect, care, and support in both family and community life. When families and communities stop expecting perfection and start embracing humanity, peace, unity, and progress become possible for all.

Boy Peacemaker Marriage Is Sunnah

HAPPY BOY CHILD DAY

The boy child is often raised in silence, taught early that strength means hiding emotion and endurance means never breaking. Yet, beneath that expectation is a human being who feels deeply, dreams boldly, and struggles quietly. The boy child is not just a future man; he is a present life that needs guidance, care, correction, and love.

From childhood, he is shaped by what he sees and hears. When he is taught respect, responsibility, and empathy, he grows into a man who values people and purpose. But when he is neglected or told to “man up” without understanding, he may learn to bury his pain instead of dealing with it. That buried pain often shows up later in anger, silence, or emotional distance.

The boy child also needs permission to be vulnerable. Tears do not weaken him; they heal him. Expression does not reduce his masculinity; it refines his humanity. A society that allows its boys to feel is a society that raises healthier men.

He must be guided, not just disciplined; listened to, not just corrected. He needs mentors who show him direction, fathers or father-figures who model integrity, and communities that encourage growth rather than pressure perfection.

To invest in the boy child is to invest in the future. When he is nurtured with wisdom, love, and truth, he becomes a man who leads with strength and compassion. The boy child today is tomorrow’s father, husband, leader, and builder of society.

In every boy child lies potential—waiting not just to be disciplined, but to be understood. Boy George & Culture Club Boy Peacemaker

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Trust Can Be Dangerous

We often hear that trust is the foundation of every strong relationship. We’re taught from a young age to trust our parents, our friends, our leaders—and even ourselves. And yes, trust can be beautiful. It builds bridges between people, creates community, and gives us the courage to be vulnerable.

But today, I want to talk about the other side of trust—the side we don’t always like to acknowledge. The truth is: **trust can be dangerous.**

When we place our trust in someone, we hand them a kind of power. We open the door to our emotions, our time, our resources—even our safety. And if that trust is misplaced, the consequences can be devastating.

Think about it. Betrayal doesn’t come from strangers. It comes from those we trust. Manipulation, abuse, corruption—they all begin with someone saying, *“Trust me.”*

History is filled with examples of blind trust gone wrong. Corrupt leaders. Fraudulent businesses. Toxic relationships. All fueled by the very thing we hold so sacred—trust.

Even trusting ourselves too much can lead us astray. Overconfidence can cloud judgment. It can stop us from listening, from learning, from growing. Sometimes, the most dangerous person to trust is the one in the mirror—when ego takes the wheel.

So what’s the lesson here? Should we stop trusting altogether?

Of course not. But we must learn to trust **wisely.** Trust should never be automatic. It should be earned. Tested. Challenged. And yes—sometimes withdrawn. Trust without boundaries is not strength—it’s surrender.

So the next time you feel yourself giving trust freely, pause. Ask yourself: *Have they earned it? Have I thought it through? Am I protecting myself?*

Because while trust can build worlds—it can also break them.

Your Wedding Certificate Is just a Learner’s Permit

A wedding certificate isn’t a guarantee of a perfect marriage—it’s a learner’s permit. It doesn’t mean you’ve mastered love, communication, or compromise. It just means you’ve decided to get behind the wheel together.

Like a learner’s permit, it’s the beginning of a journey, not the destination. It gives you the right to learn on the road: to take wrong turns, stall in traffic, or argue over the best route. You’ll bump into challenges, sometimes each other, but that’s part of the ride.

With each mile, you gain experience. You learn how to navigate storms, when to stop and refuel, and how to steer with patience and grace. Eventually, if you're committed, those shaky starts turn into smooth cruising.

So don’t treat the certificate like a trophy. It’s a license to grow, to practice, to mess up—and most importantly, to keep going. Because love isn’t about having all the answers. It’s about choosing to learn together, every single day.

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