Jerica X Fit

Women’s lives changed faster than our dating expectations did.

That creates a really interesting mismatch.

You can want to be courted. You can want generosity. You can want a financially ambitious partner. But if you’re financially independent yourself, I think it’s worth asking which things actually matter when choosing someone to build a life with, and which expectations we’ve inherited without really questioning them.

So I’m curious: does your partner need to make as much as you? More than you? Or does income matter less than things like ambition, stability, generosity, and shared values?

She’s from Texas, I can tell 🤠

A little girls’ night, and a lot of Ella Langley. Very easy to convince me to buy the concert tickets.

I spent years studying relationships. But some of my earliest lessons came from watching my parents 🫶🏼

They have been married for 40+ years, and one of the things I appreciate most as I’ve gotten older is realizing that the relationship I grew up watching didn’t just happen. They built it.

Not perfectly. Not 50/50 every day. Not without hard seasons.

But with a lot of honesty, effort, humor, and the willingness to keep choosing each other.

I think we absorb so much about love before we’re ever old enough to realize we’re learning it.

So I’m curious: what’s something your parents taught you about relationships — either something you want to carry forward or something you had to unlearn? 🤍