CANDY 2

MY STEP 2: ACCOUNTABILITY. ❤️‍🩹

God wasn’t silent. 🤫

I was NEGOTIATING with what He had already revealed. 🛑

BABYYYYYYYYY… 😮‍💨

In Step 1, I talked about the voices I had to leave behind.

Step 2? Step 2 demands a different kind of honesty. 🪞

Because it’s one thing to heal from what they said to you…

It’s another thing to take accountability for where you stayed. 💔

I was shown my hand at the very beginning of the game.

I looked right at the cards… ♣️♠️♦️♥️

I knew I was holding a bad hand… 🃏

And instead of folding, I kept playing.

That is the hardest pill to swallow. That’s where real accountability begins. 💊

The friendships showed me the BETRAYAL long before it reached me. 🚩

When people felt comfortable bringing me everybody else’s business, laughing and saying, “Girl, you’re not gonna believe this…”—I should’ve known my turn was coming.

The relationships showed me what it was long before I finally walked away. ⏳

The business showed me months before I walked away that I was trying to revive something God had already told me to release.

Different situations. Same lesson:

I KNEW‼️

But I kept betting anyway. 🎰

I bet my time. ⏰

I bet my peace. 🕊️

I bet my money. 💰

I bet my loyalty. 🤝🏽

I bet MYSELF. 💔

And EVERY TIME life showed me the same cards, I lied to myself.

I told myself that if I just loved harder, waited longer, worked more or prayed differently… God would change what He was already telling me to release. 🙏🏽

WHEWWWWWW‼️😮‍💨

Hear me clearly: Accountability is NOT saying their betrayal was my fault. 🚫

Accountability is admitting I saw the warning signs and chose to stay at the table anyway. 🪑

I called it loyalty.‼️

I called it commitment.‼️

I called it seeing the best in people.‼️

I called it refusing to give up.‼️

But staying wasn’t strength—it was my refusal to accept what I already knew. 💔

So ask yourself today:

How much have you lost trying to win with a hand you knew was dead from the start? 🃏

How many more signs are you asking God to send simply because you didn’t like the answer attached to the first one? 🚩

A bad hand will NEVER become a winning hand just because you’ve sat at the table for a long time. 🎯

Today, I forgive the woman who stayed… ❤️‍🩹

But I will no longer lie and say she didn’t know.

She knew. ❗️

She was just terrified to fold. 🥺

STEP 1: I stopped seeing myself through their eyes. 👁️

STEP 2: I stopped pretending I didn’t see what God had already shown me. 🙏🏽

And baby… I didn’t lose when I walked away from that table.

FOLDING WAS MY FIRST WIN. 🙌🏽🏆

❤️‍🩹

I just pulled up & stopped and really LOOKed at this sign today. 🥹💕

Because sometimes when you’re busy surviving, rebuilding, adjusting and just trying to keep going… you forget to look at what you actually BUILT….

13 YEARS OF CANDY GIRL.

And baby, she has a STORY.

She’s seen packed rooms and quiet days.
Big wins and hard seasons.
Changes. Tears. Prayers. Comebacks.

But one thing about her…

SHE KEPT HER DOORS OPEN.

To every woman who has walked through those doors, trusted me with her body, bought a faja, sent a friend, shared a post or supported Candy Girl in ANY season…

YOU are part of these 13 years.

Today I’m not asking God for the next thing.

I’m just saying…

THANK YOU, GOD. 🥹💕

BABYYYYYY… today I found out what happens when you go TOO FAR to turn back. 😭🙌🏽

OMG y’all are probably wondering why I posted a picture of all my “ISH” thrown on the floor as soon as I walked in…

Because BABYYYYYYYYY… IT GOT REAL TODAY. 😭😂

I decided instead of driving to the gym, I was gonna walk and listen to this sermon.

The sermon got GOOD. I mean REAL GOOD. I was in a ZONE…

Walked. 🚶🏽‍♀️ Jogged. 🏃🏽‍♀️ Kept going…

Next thing I know, I made it ALLLL the way to the lifestyle center feeling like ROCKY. 🥊😂🙌🏽

Then it hit me…

Girl‼️ U GOTTA GET BACK HOME. 😭

Checked the map — 6.2 MILES just to get there and I didn’t even take the straight route‼️

I ain’t gonna lie… NO JOKE, I reached for my phone to call an Uber because AIN’T NO WAY I thought I could make it all the way back. 😩😂

YALLLLLLLLLLLL…

Allllllllll BS aside…

PHONE. DEAD.

Nobody around‼️
Sun BEAMING‼️
I’m TIRED‼️

I L👀KED up at the sky like…

“GOD… U FUNNY. WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO NOW⁉️😩”

And THAT’S when it hit me…

NOBODY WAS COMING TO SAVE ME.

It was ME & GOD. 🙌🏽

I had no choice but to put one 🦶🏽 in front of the other and WALK MY TAIL BACK HOME.

And somewhere on that walk back, it stopped being about exercise.

BABY… THAT’S LIFE‼️

Sometimes you get tired. Sometimes you want to quit. Sometimes you want somebody to come RESCUE you and make the hard part easier.

But maybe God will allow you to get to a place where nobody else CAN save you…

because you’ve been looking AROUND when He needs you to LOOK UP. 🙌🏽

WHEWWWWWW‼️

And suddenly I could hear that song Sister Bob (Rachel Bob your mommy) used to sing when I was a little girl at New Bethel Baptist Church in CHEEK…

🎶 “I’ve come too far from where I started from… Nobody told me the road would be easy…” 🎶

BABYYYYYY‼️🙌🏽

I don’t believe He brought me this far to leave me.

So I KEPT WALKING.!🚶‍♀️

Wasn’t as fast coming back. Baby, I was EXHAUSTED. 😩

BUT I KEPT GOING.

And when I FINALLY hit that front 🚪 Door‼️

Shoes. FLOOR.
Headphones. FLOOR.
Clothes. FLOOOOOOR. 😭😂

And looking at all my “ISH” laying there…

‼️I MADE IT‼️

And THAT’S the message.

I may have to slow down❗️
I may have to catch my breath❗️
But I have come TOO FAR to turn around now❗️

God didn’t bring me this far to leave me…

and I didn’t come this far to QUIT. 🙌🏽

She Started Over Anyway. ❤️‍🩹

"Starting over is a risk, but staying comfortable is a bigger one. Rebuilding every single day. 💪✨

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