Bitter Truths-Shey Hila

LETTER TO EVERY WOMAN:

Dear Woman,

Not every man is husband material. Some are friendzone material. Some are boyfriend material. Some are sëx mate material. Some are baby-papa material. Some are husband material. Some are father material.

Marry a man who is like a brother, husband, father and a best friend to you. Some of you get into marriage with men who have no business being married. Marriage is not for everybody. Some men are not wired to function in matrimony.

Don't allow marriage desperation or societal pressure to push you into the arms of a man who is not ready or suited for matrimony. Look around you; most men get married just for the status. Those are the men who marry wives to be taken care of by their mothers and fathers.

I have seen men who married wives and traveled out of the country for 5, 6, and even 7 years without coming home to see their wives. What is that?

You shouldn't be theoretically married. Marriage must be practical. Some men are very selfish. Take this from me, a selfish man can never be a good husband.

Matrimony thrives on mutualism. It is a give-and-take situation. Don't marry a man because you are pregnant for him. Don't marry him because he deflowered you. Don't marry him because you are unemployed. Don't marry him because you've dated him for a long time. Don't marry him because you invested in him financially.

Marry him because you believe he is worthy of being called your husband and the father of your unborn kids. There are men everywhere, but husbands are scarce.

I pray for you who are yet to be married: you will not experience marriage bo***ge. And for those who feel they've made a mistake, retrace your steps, and rededicate your marriage to God.

God is faithful and ready to help you, and He will assist you in Jesus' name!

Note: If you are a man reading this post, don't make it a gender war. For women who are not wife material, the article is coming up...

Someone Who betrays you again and again, will always be doing that 👌. There is no need to drink the whole sea to realize that it's salty.

Forgive them and wish them well but never get too close to them again. Some people deserve forgiveness and not second chance to continue the relationship.