Sad Girl Self Care

Hello everyone! I hope all is well.

My move across the country went fairly smooth (we did have a tire blowout in Iowa, but it was fixed pretty quick and we were back on the road)

I still have not been able to find a suitable studio space to make my product, but I'm still on the hunt!

For now, I'd like to start making small batches of products with limited scents.

I would like to gauge interest and see what people would be interested in buying at this time?
I will not be opening custom orders up until I have a studio space, so for now I need to come up with a list of 3-4 products and 2-3 scents.

I know I will be making Sugar Scrubs and Bath Bombs.

What else would you like to see? 🥰🥰

Please comment below and let me know what you'd be interested in ordering!

Note: shipping costs will apply if you're out of the Richmond, Virginia area

(Enjoy some pictures from the trip, having two dogs, three parrots, and a cat in an RV for 3000 miles was definitely an experience 🤣)

This weekend will be the last weekend Sad Girl will be at the public market. Next month, my partner and I will be making the 30+ hour road trip to the east coast, to move back home near friends and family.

THIS WEEKEND- 50% OFF EVERYTHING IN STORE!

This has been an incredible journey here in Washington state, but it's time for me to get closer to family and friends.

HAVE NO FEAR-
Can't live without Sad Girl in your life? My online store will be taking orders ASAP! (There will be a 2 month period where orders cannot be filled and shipped, due to the move.) I ship to ALL 50 states, and Canada and Mexico!

I will miss each and every one of you that has come into my store and told me your story. I have created such an awesome environment in which people feel seen, heard, and accepted. I don't want that to go anywhere.

So I will always be here, just a DM away, if you still want to enjoy our chats.

I'll see y'all around 🖤

Come see us this Thursday at the grand opening of ABC Mini Storage on Welsian Way!

We will be there from 2pm-6pm and will have lots of goodies!

Come see us tomorrow at the Metaphysical Market in Uptown!

From 10-4

We will also be open at the public market in Kennewick from 10-5!

Hope to see you there!

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or in-store at 10 E Bruneau Ave in Kennewick!

Fri/Sat:10-5
Sun:10-4

Saying No Is Self Care

As simple as this sounds, many people who struggle with mental illness also struggle with setting boundaries and saying no. This can be due to several different reasons, but the most common reason is because setting boundaries can be really quite terrifying when you’ve been unable to do so your whole life. We see this frequently with people who have been raised in a controlling, abusive household, or those who have experienced long term domestic abuse. When saying no wasn’t safe, you learn to always say yes. You learn to put your own needs aside, and you learn that your boundaries aren’t as important as other peoples.

From a child’s perspective, a lot of controlling parents do not give their children the space to say no or set boundaries. Children are often punished for saying no, for questioning authority, for “talking back”. Repeated exposure to this type of punishment leads people to be afraid to stay firm in their boundaries, even in adulthood.

So how does this affect us as adults? People who have trouble setting boundaries often find themselves in positions they are uncomfortable with. Do you have trouble turning down an invite for a party? Even when you’re exhausted and you know you’re not mentally prepared? Do you often find yourself in uncomfortable situations because you were paralyzed by the thought of confrontation and couldn’t speak up? You are not alone, and you’re not hopeless.

So why is setting healthy boundaries so important? Why shouldn’t we be completely selfless and put others needs before our own? It sounds great at first glance. Being selfless is a good trait, being kind and thoughtful are good traits. So why is it so bad to just suck it up and fulfill others needs?

Picture yourself as a car. Your selflessness is fuel. You can drive for quite awhile on a full tank, but eventually, you will run out, and if you’re not filling your tank, you will break down. You may even do some permanent damage to your engine. If you are constantly putting effort into other people, without putting effort into yourself as well, you will soon find yourself physically and emotionally drained. You will find yourself broken down on the side of the road, and if you’re constantly helping everyone else, who is there to help you?

This is why balance is SO important. This is why learning to say no is imperative to your well being and why, yes, saying no IS self care.

Next time someone invites you out and you’re not feeling it? Just. Say. No.
I promise it will not make or break the friendship, and if it does? That's your sign that the friendship was one sided and the other person does not care about your needs like you care for theirs. Watch out for people who siphon your fuel. They will take and take and take with no regard to the damage they are doing.

So how do we learn to say no? How do we completely re-write years of conditioning? It won’t happen overnight, no matter how much we want it to. Start small. Say no to food you don't like/want. Say no when a friend wants to hangout when you’re not feeling it. Say no when someone asks if they can vent to you when you don’t have the emotional space. Saying no to the little things will pave a road for you to say no to the bigger, more important things.

Conflict is not something one should frantically try to avoid. Conflict can be healthy. Growth comes from conflict. The best advice I can give someone who is afraid of conflict (and something I am still working on) is to learn how to navigate conflict without taking things personally. Try to learn how to take criticism as a learning experience, not a personal attack. Setting boundaries should not be seen as something that is inconveniencing the other person. Setting boundaries is simply laying out a set of rules you have for someone to be in your life. Reasonable, healthy boundaries should always be respected, and if someone challenges you on your boundaries, RUN.