drjenbourgeois

Practice being her now.

Practice putting the phone down when part of you wants to check the launch.

Practice saying what you need without trying to control how someone responds.

Practice staying present with your kids when your brain wants to be ten steps ahead.

Practice letting a quiet sales day be a quiet sales day, not evidence that something has gone wrong.

The woman who can hold a bigger business, deeper relationships, motherhood, money, disappointment, success, and uncertainty without losing herself? You have to choose to become her before you get there.

& the truth is, she’s being built by how you choose to show up at this one.

So instead of asking, “Who do I want to become?”

Ask yourself: Where can I practice being her today?

Take action towards that, and if you want to learn more about being the version of yourself you’re picturing right now, FOLLOW Dr. Jen | Nervous System Coach for Female Leaders | Speaker.

I want both. Unapologetically.

I want to make my daughters cookies and be completely HERE for the after school conversation.

And then I want to lock the heck in and build a 7-figure business.

I want the impact, the revenue, and to be an incredible mom.

I’m no longer interested in conversations that make women believe one of those desires has to become smaller so there’s room for the other.

Because I don’t think the answer to an ambitious woman feeling stretched by her success is to make her less ambitious.

I think she needs the capacity to HOLD the life she’s asking for.

To have a massive launch without mentally taking it to the dinner table with her. Both. AND.

That’s the whole freaking point for me.

I don’t want a smaller business so I can have a bigger life.

I want the nervous system capacity for a really big version of BOTH.

Because what’s the point of creating the revenue, freedom, and impact you dreamed about, if you don’t have the capacity to actually be inside the life it created?

I want the successful business. And I want to hear the school day recap straight off the bus. I’m not choosing.

That is what we do inside my mastermind Millionaire Nervous System. It’s a room full of women who are committed to building a legacy while living in it, without compromise. Comment “$NS” to learn more.

I don’t think I’ll ever get over this part.

In my old life, taking my daughter to school on her first day would’ve required a request.

Personal time. Planning ahead. Making sure someone could cover me.

And listen, there’s nothing inherently wrong with that. But this year? I just took my daughter to school. Because I wanted to be there.

There was no request to submit. No one I needed permission from. No tiny voice in the back of my head calculating whether this was “worth” using the time for.

I decided this mattered. So my schedule moved around it.

And THAT is the part of building this life that still absolutely undoes me.

CHOICE. Getting to decide what matters to me and then actually build my life in a way that reflects it.

My business fits into my life.

My life does not get the leftovers after my business has taken everything it needs from me.

I think sometimes we get so focused on making more money that we forget what we wanted the money FOR.

I wanted this. A random school morning. Walking her in. Being there. No permission required.
And honestly? Kinda chic. 😭

I could tell you what this work changes…. But I’d rather let my clients tell you.

This voice note came from a woman who knew something needed to change, but after the books, programs, coaches, and trying to figure it out herself, she still couldn’t get to the root of what kept pulling her back into the same patterns.

Now she can feel herself responding differently.

Spoiler: her life didn’t suddenly get easier. However, she changed.

The situations that would have triggered the old version of her no longer have the same hold on her.

When women do this work, the evidence starts showing up in how they lead, make decisions, handle pressure, show up in their relationships, and experience their own lives. This doesn’t just improve their mindset and well-being… but it also affects how well their business performs and the numbers they hit on a daily basis.

You don’t have to wonder if you’re changing when you start becoming the woman who handles the same life completely differently.