The Tamore Experience

Tamika! Why you dressed up today??”
Because I’m a Princess and lately, I haven’t felt like one. So today, I got up and chose to remind myself who I am.

Truth is… I haven’t been feeling all that pretty lately. Confidence was M.I.A. Self-care On pause.

Life was hitting so hard, I was just trying to survive. Work. Breathe and Repeat.

But today!!!! I decided to GET UP and I mean Literally. Normally, I throw on my lil uniform and go professional, quiet, in the background.
But today I left the uniform in the drawer bc I needed to see HER again.

I’m a BOSS!!! I’m a QUEEN!!! I’m a WHOLE EXPERIENCE and I’m not about to let October think it won.

Sometimes us as stylist have a passion to make others beautiful but we forget about ourselves. They say if your stylist don’t look a little tore up, she must not be doing something right…
But today I’m doing it right for you and for myself.
Because what’s the Tamore Experience without me being the experience myself.

I had to remind myself that I still got it and Don’t forget that. 🦋

Bruhhh… life really tried to take me out.

I thought I was coming back in October strong, from taking a break in September.
But between recovery from divorce, family trauma, losing my car, and getting sick… life said, “NAH.”😂😂

I even had an important exam on Oct 20.
I prepped and prayed.
Got there early… and didn’t have my ID 😩. LOL!! can’t make this stuff up.

I cried.
I got angry.
I laughed just to keep from crying again.
And I even tried to escape.
But I stood firm. Still.

Because sometimes breakthrough doesn’t come soft. Breakthrough can look like warfare.
Loud. Messy. Unexpected but still holy.

Standing firm doesn’t mean perfect stillness.
It means not collapsing when everything around you says you should.

Life happens for stylists too at unexpected times. And even in all of this, I still showed up for my clients. Still smiled. Still prayed and
Still made space for others to feel safe, seen, and restored while quietly needing those things myself.

I’m not trying to prove anything.
I’m just learning to still show up in the midst of chaos… Learning when I need to pause.
Learning to show grace when I don’t get it right.
And most importantly, learning how to discern when to fight… and when to let God fight for me.

Most importantly to remind somebody:
You can be in the thick of it and still be held by grace.

If you’re still here, still trying, still breathing
you’re already doing more than enough.

🦋Stay with the story.
There’s glory in it somewhere.

“Don’t be afraid! Don’t run away!
Stand where you are and watch the Lord save you today.
You will never see these Egyptians again.
You will not have to do anything but stay calm.
The Lord will do the fighting for you.”
— Exodus 14:13–14 (ERV)

There was a moment in scripture where Elijah told the Lord, “I’ve had enough.” He laid down to sleep, and the angel woke him up not once, but twice, to EAT and REST, reminding him the journey would be too much without it.

I’m learning that I haven’t always known how to rest. My mind can be busy even when my body is still. Sometimes I skip eating just to stay on schedule, keep up with clients, or get things done.

But the truth is, that’s honoring others while neglecting myself.

Here’s what I’m realizing: rest is not laziness, it’s preparation.
When I slow down, I show up better for myself and for the women who sit in my chair.

And just like our bodies, our locs need rest too. Constant manipulation, over-styling, never letting them breathe,it only creates stress and strain. Locs thrive with patience. With softness. With rest.

🦋 I’m learning that in order to keep becoming, I must make room to pause. To eat. To breathe. To honor myself.

And I want that same space for my clients.

This is the atmosphere I’m creating: not just for healthy locs, but for healthy women inside and out. Welcome to The Tamore Experience🦋

Over these last 30 days, I pressed pause.
Not because I didn’t care… but because I needed to slow down.

I’ve been navigating forgiveness, letting go, and just learning to be. In the middle of it all, I still showed up as a stylist. I set new boundaries. I gained peace… but I also lost some clients, had conflict, and walked through misunderstandings.

Towards the end of this pause, I rededicated my life and my business back to God. I’m not completely “filled” yet, but I do feel weights lifting.

Slowing down has been difficult. But it’s teaching me that I’ve spent years showing up for others, while neglecting myself.

And so, today, I’m not showing up because I have to post. I’m showing up because I want to authentically, honestly, and differently.

I love doing locs. But what I love even more is creating an atmosphere where women can pause, breathe, and know they are enough.

From that place, I’ll keep showing up for my clients not just to do hair, but to hold space. To make room for rest. To remind you that peace belongs to you, even here in the chair.

Because it’s never just about locs. It’s about loosening what you’ve been carrying. It’s about ministering peace, with every appointment being a chance to reset and remember who you are.

Thank you for being here. 🦋
This season, I’m choosing surrender over striving. Peace over pressure. Identity over image. Welcome to The Tamore Experience 🦋

Clarity comes in the PAUSE!!!

I’ve been quiet on here for a reason, not because I lost momentum, but because I needed a moment.

God has been shifting a lot in my heart, in my healing, and in how I show up. I recognized in some areas I was still performing, feeling pressured to stay visible. Trying to prove I was still “in it.” Still showing up for everyone but myself.

But lately, Im choosing to pause. And in that pause, I’m finding what I really need:

Peace.
Clarity.
Rhythm.
Presence.

So I’m not rushing back.
I’m rebuilding gently.
Listening closely.
Letting God speak to the areas I used to drown out with doing.

I may not post again for a minute, but I needed to leave this here:
You don’t have to keep up. You just have to stay aligned.

Thank you for still being here.
I’ll be back when I’m full, not when I feel forced.

I’m not building to be seen, I’m building to be sent.

The Tamore Experience🦋

It’s been a long time since a kids loc journey, and I don’t actively promote it either. But this one… was different.

I had the joy of starting my granddaughter’s loc journey. And while most people shy away from locking kids’ hair (understandably so), I’ve learned it’s all about rhythm and relationship.

I’ve done locs on children as young as 3, up to about 12. Of course, the older ones can sit longer, but the younger ones, I go with their flow.

We pause. We laugh. We take bathroom breaks. We snack. We stretch. We watch cartoons and play little games. It takes patience and presence.

This weekend, she looked at me and said,
“My little body can’t contain sitting still so long.” (You really just have to know her to know she don’t hold back) But she was absolutely right. So what do I do?

I adjust. I pause. I meet her where she is and we still get it done.
Because it’s not just about the locs.
It’s about the experience.
And the little ones deserve that too.

And my baby is always ready for the camera or a mirror. I didn’t even have to say “let’s take a picture”, she was just ready….

🦋 If you’re interested in starting your little one’s loc journey, book a consultation and let’s discuss what’s best for them. Link in the bio

It’s been a long time since a kids loc journey, and I don’t actively promote it either. But this one… was different.

I had the joy of starting my granddaughter’s loc journey. And while most people shy away from locking kids’ hair (understandably so), I’ve learned it’s all about rhythm and relationship.

I’ve done locs on children as young as 3, up to about 12. Of course, the older ones can sit longer, but the younger ones, I go with their flow.

We pause. We laugh. We take bathroom breaks. We snack. We stretch. We watch cartoons and play little games. It takes patience and presence.

This weekend, she looked at me and said,
“My little body can’t contain sitting still so long.” (You really just have to know her to know she don’t hold back) But she was absolutely right. So what do I do?

I adjust. I pause. I meet her where she is and we still get it done.
Because it’s not just about the locs.
It’s about the experience.
And the little ones deserve that too.

🦋 If you’re interested in starting your little one’s loc journey, book a consultation and let’s discuss what’s best for them. Link in the bio

It’s Self-Care Monday!!!

So, last week I treated myself to a facial, but the deeper reminder of what true self-care is came later with my daughter.

We were riding in the car, music turned all the way up, singing loud and carefree. Out of nowhere, tears started streaming down my face. The tears were unexpected, I didn’t even know why I was crying. But they came anyway. Not from sadness, but from release. From joy. From being fully present in the moment.

That’s when I realized, pouring into yourself isn’t always about doing activities. It isn’t always the facials, the massages, or the outings (though those are beautiful too). Sometimes it’s about allowing your soul to rest. To breathe. To simply be.

Self-care is more than treating the body, it’s making space for the heart and soul to exhale.

🌸 A huge thank you to for her intentionality, her education, and her professionalism during my facial. She created a safe, comfortable space for me to just be, and it was ass/.a.// priceless.

Do yourself a favor: go follow her page and book your facial. Your skin will thank you and She does back facials yall, in which I’m adding to my next service.

What’s one thing you do that helps you feel at peace?