Inner Peace Lifestyle

Being Aware Of Our Feelings
Written by: Stephanie Ann Frazier

Hey y’all,
In the last video I spoke about being aware of our thoughts, in this video I’m going to talk about being aware of our feelings.

When we practice awareness, or self awareness, it’s important to consider (or be aware) of our feelings, which is thinking about how we feel at all times.

Our feelings are not the same as our thoughts, people often don’t understand how they feel or what makes them feel certain emotions. This can make it difficult to understand for ourselves and communicate to other people, but it’s important to try.

Sometimes we have feelings about people and situations before we even have thoughts, but if we have the same feelings every time we enter a specific situation or are around certain people, it might be good to think about why we feel that way.

Our personal feelings are our body’s way of picking up information from the environment or the interaction we’re having. The way we feel lets us know if it’s a good or bad situation (although we can be fooled). For example if you’re on a first date and it’s going well, that feels differently than if you’re on a first date and it’s not going well.

Feelings and emotions are ways that our body supplements the information received by our minds, so that what we think and feel are separate but they work together; we can have feelings without thoughts, and thoughts without feelings, but when we have them both together they typically line up.

Bad thoughts go with bad feelings, but good thoughts go with good feelings. Once we understand this, it becomes easier to find the right people and situations that bring us inner peace.

Why It’s Important To Think About Our Thoughts
Written by: Stephanie Ann Frazier

Hey y’all,
As you may know by now our first Pillar of Inner Peace is awareness. In this video I’m going to share why it’s important to be aware of what we think about.

When we think about what it is that we think about, we can learn to control our thoughts and become more focused on whatever it is that we’re trying to do.
A good way to think about what we’re thinking about is to ask ourselves questions, such as: “why am I thinking about this?” Or “why did I think this was a good idea?”

When we answer our own questions to ourselves we can get more insight about how our own mind works, which will help us understand ourselves better.

When we understand our own thinking it builds our confidence because we know that we know ourselves and we can explain what we think and what our plans are to other people.
We can be confident when we pursue goals and relationships because we will have certainty and clarity in our mind.

After becoming aware of our thought process, we develop more focus, which leads us to the right people, and the right opportunities for us to become who we believe we can be.

Thinking is so important, we can’t get anything done without using our mind to do it, so it’s important for us to have control over our mind.

The first place to start when it comes to controlling our own mind and behavior, is to become aware of what we were thinking, and why we were thinking about it at all.

Here’s an opportunity to practice that concept:
Think about some personal goals you have and ask yourself these questions about each one: Why is this goal important to me? What is my purpose in achieving this goal?

You may come up with other questions to ask yourself, but I’ve found through experience that these two questions are the most important.

It can be intimidating to think about this kind of stuff but it’s very necessary to be able to control the direction of your own life.
And I want to let you know that I’m here to support you. I’m available by direct message, or in the comments if you need me to answer any questions you may have 🙂

Peace and blessings 🙏🏽

Heavenly Father,

Help me to be more aware of the things I say and do, and the way I act with other people. Help me to know myself so that I can understand myself and other people in my life, and so that I can better know my own intentions and the intentions of others.
Help me to know and understand not only what my goals should be, but also how to achieve them.
Lord, please help me to have more awareness in relationships so that I choose healthy relationships that don’t distract me from my goals.
Thank you, Father, for giving me the ability to understand myself and understand other people through reason and empathy.

In the name of the Father, The Son, and the Holy Spirit,

Amen

“How I Came Up With The Five Pillars of Inner Peace”
By: Stephanie Ann Frazier

Hey y’all

I wanted to go a little more in depth about the 5 pillars of inner peace and how they’re designed to help us become our best self and therefore have the best relationships.

Originally when I thought this out, I was recalling my own life experiences and my journey.

These are the steps I took to improve my relationship with my family because every other relationship in our life is based on the relationships we have with our family from childhood.

My first step in getting to a place of inner peace was the awareness that my family relationships affected every area in my life and that I couldn’t change my life without changing those primary relationships. Then I became aware of a lot of other things I wanted to change.

After I became aware I decided to take accountability for whatever I could change that I wanted to change and move forward.

I began making different decisions about where I went, who I went with… basically how I spent time in general and it had significant positive effects on my relationships because I have more time, energy, and focus for relationships I want.

Once I became aware, and then accountable I began to set boundaries, which was one of the hardest parts because I had to let some people go.

I had to tell some people about themselves, and then I had to hold myself accountable to enforce my boundaries. Boundaries don’t just keep people away, they protect us and our relationships as well, which keeps us close in the relationships that we choose to protect.

Part of being aware and setting boundaries is that I realized that I had been dealing with things that I wasn’t ok with for a long time.

Even after I take accountability for my part, either allowing it to happen, or participating and violating other’s boundaries myself, I still have a lot of emotions to deal with including anger, grudges, sadness, etc. and I discovered the only way to get over it is to forgive yourself and forgive other people.

It’s only when I became fully aware, fully accountable, with strong consistent boundaries, and a forgiving heart, that I could reap the full benefits of my faith.

Although experience leads me to believe in a higher power I have never had much faith in other people. But to get the most out of life we have to have faith in other people, it may hurt sometimes, but a bitter, lonely, jealous life hurts all the time.

So I know this is all easier said than done and it has taken me 38 years of life so far to figure this out and I’m still learning every single day.

That’s why I decided to become a life coach; I know this is difficult to figure out, especially for those of us with challenging childhood experiences.

If you have any questions or you want to begin your own journey to healing and inner peace, just reach out to me, or book a session with me. It’s free to send me a message or interact with my group on Facebook. I do offer sessions online and I have a coaching package that is 6 weeks long.

Peace and Blessings ❤️

A Prayer for Partners/Mates/Spouses
Written and read by: Stephanie Ann Frazier

Heavenly Father, I’m coming to you at this moment because I need faith and encouragement for our union, our intimate relationship.
Help us to do what’s right for each other and communicate freely and honestly. Help us trust each other. Walk with us daily and build our faith as we stand together in your will.
Protect us against all jealous opposition. Let us be focused on our personal goals as well as the well-being of each other.
Let no person against our purpose interfere with our relationship. Bind and support our families as they adjust to our new lives together, and keep them from overstepping their boundaries and interfering with our new family.
Thank you Lord for hearing and answering prayer.
In the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, Amen

Dear Lord, Help us to manifest our true calling and destiny as a family and as individuals.
Let every destined union in the Lord’s will receive a fresh anointing of love, faith, and commitment.
Bless all the children in our family, even the unborn.
Keep envious and oppositional influences far away from us when we gather. Let us sow love and peace when we get together.
Destroy every plan of our enemies to keep us from prosperity and abundance. Encourage us to do what’s right and stand firm against malice and destruction.

In the name of the Father, Son, and The Holy Spirit, Amen

Watch me share my personal thoughts about faith.

What motivates you to believe? What keeps you from believing?

“Everything is pure to those whose hearts are pure. But nothing is pure to those who are corrupt and unbelieving, because their minds and consciences are corrupted.”
‭‭Titus‬ ‭1‬:‭15‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Do it for yourself. Some people aren’t able to believe because they aren’t able to.