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I used to buy every product that worked for someone else’s curls… and wonder why mine never responded the same way. The answer was porosity. Once I understood mine, everything changed. Swipe through and find yours. 💛
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If your curls are dry, frizzy, or just not responding to products , porosity is probably the reason. Swipe to understand your hair on a deeper level and finally shop smarter. 🌀
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Curls with Hajir is finally live — a space for rituals, science, and soul behind curly hair.
It’s more than hair; it’s identity, confidence, and freedom.
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I’ve been dreaming of creating something softer—more private, more intentional.
A space where women (especially my Hijabi beauties) can uncover their curls in peace, without eyes, noise, or rush.

I’m now opening a few private curl sessions ✨
Just you, your curls, and calm energy.
DM me “PRIVATE” if you’d like to experience it.

(Brooklyn-based, limited spots each week)

Gorgeous mermaid long layers

little facts about me…

– born in Baghdad, 14 years in New York
– forever foodie, happiest trying new flavors
– the beach owns my heart (Cancer sun, Sag rising, Pisces moon)
– oldest daughter energy
– 10+ years doing hair, barbering + curls
– wore my hair straight forever, only in the last 2 years fell in love with my curls
– obsessed with beauty, skin, and hair rituals
– health + anti-aging science nerd, glowing forever is the mission
– white roses, jasmine, vanilla, amber girl
– journaling is where I meet my self
– sushi every single day, yes please
– learning baking, slowly & sweetly
– red light therapy changed my skin
– matching pajamas = instant joy
– makeup first, then outfit, then hair (always)
– supplements are part of my personality
– ritualize everything — matcha, showers, even grocery runs
– candles in every room
– obsessed with sunsets + soft lighting
– love romanticizing the smallest things
– learning to slow down when my mind wants to rush
– my playlists are always moody and dreamy
– satin pillowcases + fresh sheets = heaven
– I love deep conversations about the universe, manifestation, and psychology
– long walks clear my mind
– skincare fridge = yes
– obsessed with anything gold jewelry
– handwriting all over notebooks, even messy, makes me happy
– I believe softness is strength

now your turn… tell me one little fact about you ✨

Leave-in conditioner is a non-negotiable step in a healthy curly routine. Think of it like makeup primer or toner in skincare — it preps your curls so every styling product you apply after sits better, lasts longer, and works the way it’s supposed to.

When you skip it, your curls go straight into styling without a base layer of hydration. That’s like painting your nails without a base coat or applying foundation with no moisturizer underneath. The result? Frizz, dryness, and products that don’t absorb the way they should.

A hydrating leave-in infuses water into your hair shaft, smooths the cuticle, and creates the perfect surface for gels, creams, or mousses to define and hold. It keeps your curls soft instead of crunchy and makes your wash day results last longer.

And no — leaving your regular conditioner in your hair isn’t the same. Rinse-out formulas aren’t designed to sit on the hair all day, which means they can cause buildup, scalp irritation, and even weigh your curls down.

So treat your leave-in like your hair’s daily drink of water. It’s the foundation that makes every other step in your routine work better, while keeping your curls hydrated, defined, and glossy.

✨ Your curls deserve the prep. Hydration first, styling second.

Some of my fav leave-ins (my curl besties):

💧 Moisture Lock-In – lightweight hydration, keeps curls bouncy.
🥛 Lush Super Milk – milky mix + smells like hair perfume.
🌿 invanti– strengthens roots + reduces breakage.
✨ -detangles, smooths, and adds shine.

Each one hydrates + preps curls so styling products actually work.

Curls don’t mean perfect spirals.
They mean frizz, texture, and volume.

Frizz is not damage.
It’s water in the air. It’s new growth. It’s life showing itself.

When we smooth every strand flat, curls lose their body. They lose their romance.
The bigger the frizz, the bigger the curl.

Here’s the truth:
Frizz is part of curl identity. It’s what makes them soft, full, and alive.

So the next time you see edges lifting, hair glowing in the light, or that halo after wash day — know this: it’s not a flaw.
It’s the sign your curls are being themselves.