Cassandra Ramos

This weeks publication dives into life's crossroads and how to create empowered movements forward rooted in expansion.

Moving Towards Expansion Crossroads and their impact of expansion or constriction

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Motherhood has felt incredibly layered for me this past year.

This year pushed me beyond what I thought I could endure. I’ve walked through fear for both my life and my children’s, lost countless nights of sleep making sure they were safe, carried motherhood while surviving emotionally, financially, mentally, and spiritually, and still somehow found a way to create softness for my children in the middle of survival.

Motherhood kept my fire alive, motherhood transformed me even more rooted in purpose. It created a hellfire mother — the kind of mother who will stand up against and rebuild from the very things and people that meant to break a mother.

After eight long months, I finally read my victim impact statement in court. Before I read it, the District Attorney told me, “For what it’s worth, you should become a novelist,” and said that what I wrote was important for others experiencing domestic violence to hear. Ironically, the last seven years of my life have centered around healing, speaking, and writing.

Within my statement, there was a huge emphasis on motherhood and on refusing to lose my voice because of somebody else’s actions.

Even while grieving, rebuilding, and carrying unimaginable weight, I was still capable of creating warmth, love, stability, and protection for my children. There is absolutely nothing in this world that could ever pull me away from being a mother.

This Mother’s Day feels less like celebration and more like reflection. A reflection on survival within every meaning of the word, resilience, and the kind of love that keeps going even when everything feels broken.

While this year has been the greatest earth shattering experience a soul could endure, being their mother has deepened my purpose more than anything else ever could.

And to the loved ones who helped carry me through the darkest moments — thank you. Thank you for loving and protecting my children so fiercely.

connection at its finest 🫶🏼

Desire is a good thing. It shows we’re alive. That we’re willing to connect. Desire is the first stage of any relationship that many people confuse for love.

Love is something we develop.

When we meet someone we don’t know if they have relational skillsets. We can deeply desire them, but in time learn they’re emotionally mature. That they’re unable to navigate conflict. Or that they’re highly self focused.

This is why it’s important to not subscribe to urgency culture. To take our time. To understand that love doesn’t come from seeing someone—it comes from building with them. From taking slow steps together to create trust, mutual respect, admiration, and freedom.

Love is not what we feel, it’s what we do, consistently.

Do you agree?

when you are called for something greater

god puts you through the the tests that his greatest warriors go through

from the trenches of sadness

to the mountains of pain

you notice it’s always you vs you

in my journey, my health has been the higher calling

so, god put me to work

I felt I was losing a bit of my soul when facing the challenges of PMDD

I have failed time and time again, trying to find balance and solace in my diagnosis

for some time, I felt as if my PMDD was like a ticking time bomb and each small change I would make, I would hope that it would change and reverse what is said to be incurable.

surrendering to this, I found a profound teaching-

let go… let go of all of the chains that are bounding you from expansion

but how?

for me, it was a total body and mind reset.

letting go of alcohol, ni****ne & coffee

since letting go of all the shackles that kept me surviving for that time…

BOOM the root of all things unhealed surfaced.

facing it all

only to realize despite of it all, I stand here… WHOLE

in knowing this… my soul wasn’t dying-

my survival was dying

the identity I attached with surviving was dying

I say this to all the women experiencing severe hormone imbalance, that using your diagnosis to help you expand and feel in acceptance of all of you is empowering

I meet you in this darkness, through the storm I stand with you, providing tools for you to stay grounded, to stay in body, to give PMDD a voice is empowering to me, because it’s the times I have spent countless..

hours

months

years

giving my all to figure out spiritual, physical and energetic treatments in easing PMDD and the life challenges women go through.

I love you all🫶🏼

god led me to feel today

god led me straight to the gates of higher consciousness by quite abruptly giving me some unwanted days off work-

I prayed, I surrendered

to quit it all

quit the distractions, quit the addictions, quit the habits

in doing this, there was nothing I could have used as a band-aid for my symptoms of my ADHD & PMDD.

with that being said, my PMDD is something I talk often about on here, and the past couple months, my PMDD and ADHD have been pretty severe.

Yet here is what I’ve noticed:

my habits inflamed my chronic hormonal condition

my addictions inflamed my entire body

my body was trying to survive the weeks my PMDD would cloud over my life.

yet that means of surviving didn’t serve me

change was inevitable

one of the recent changes I’ve made was quit all caffeine and dairy (& yes my beloved coffee)

no more caffeine led me to little to no anxiety, feeling more present and grounded in my body, reducing high cortisol levels and experiencing sustained energy

although I’m still in the midst of this change, there is a higher calling for me to share my experiences NOW

there’s no better time

women are very much overlooked when it comes to every aspect of their health

to use my platform to normalize and talk about PMDD and all things health to the full realness that it comes with is how I intend to serve the world 🫶🏼