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In a world dominated by social media, with such an emphasis placed on the number of followers that you have on Facebook and Instagram, it’s easy to feel as though you need to prove your worth, and how likeable you are, based on the number of people you interact with, both online and off.

Sure, you might think you’re required to have a certain number of friends in your life to feel fulfilled or avoid loneliness, but that’s just not true. According to the experts, you could realistically have just five close friends and be completely socially satisfied. That definitely helps take some of the pressure off, but isn’t there some sort of secret sauce to a healthy social life?
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NOTICE AND SAY OUT LOUD WHAT YOU APPRECIATE ABOUT YOUR PARTNER.
Everyone wants to feel appreciated and valued. It can be easy to fall into a thinking pattern of: “I feel like I do so much, but no one notices.” When we take the time to openly appreciate someone else’s positive qualities and good deeds, we foster an atmosphere of emotional generosity. Notice something about your partner that you feel grateful for? Share it! Be on the lookout for what you can appreciate and say it. Often, we tend to focus on what we don’t have or what’s not working in relationships. This critical shift in perspective to a focus on the positive can make all the difference. You might find your partner begins to share their appreciation for how awesome you are as well.
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BE MINDFUL OF YOUR LANGUAGE AND TONE.
It can be so easy to miss an important message when we don’t like the tone in which something is being said. Take inventory. When you feel the urge to become accusatory or to begin a statement with “You always …” stop yourself. Ask yourself what you’re feeling in this moment. Taking a minute to slow down before responding can help you say what you truly feel instead of becoming defensive or blaming. Perhaps you might try: “Talking about this always seems to lead us down a destructive path. I’d like to get to a better place with it, but I’m just not sure how.” This kind of statement might help to open up a more constructive dialogue.

If you find a particular topic is especially difficult, it may help to share your feelings surrounding the issue. For example, you might say, “I’d really like to talk about (the issue) with you, but I’m feeling anxious about it because I know this is an area we tend to struggle with.” Sometimes this sort of statement can relieve the pressure to get it right the first time. Be patient with yourself; with time and practice, communication with your partner can become more productive.

Give a hoot – care
When communicating with your spouse or partner, it is so important to not lose sight that the communication is to make the relationship bond tighter not break up. Put yourself in the other person’s shoes. Try to understand why they may feel the way they do. Do they have all the facts? Are they just wanting attention from you? Regardless, treat their feelings as if they are important.

For example, if your partner expresses concern about not getting invited to a social event that was important to them. You on the other hand think the whole thing is silly. Restrain from expressing your thoughts and empathize with your partner. “I know this was important to you but let’s try to find out why we were not invited so that we can get invited to the next event or one similar.” It may never happen but your partner will love you for that. It’s the little things that count.
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Do not talk at the same time – listen!
This may seem obvious but when emotions are running high, each person wants to get their point across and a subliminal power struggle comes into play signifying that no one is really interested in the conversation or resolution. Please do not interrupt each other. Constant interruption is stating you do not think the other person has anything important to say and that you just want your way. The reason for the conversation is to hear each other’s point of view. Resist the urge to interrupt.