Heather Dempsey - Therapeutic Coach

Over a decade ago, with twenty-seven employees... I could build things. Run things. Fix a problem before anyone else even saw it coming. "Best-of" awards every year.

But if I felt someone misunderstood me, I would spiral. It felt like it would be the end of everything if someone didn't understand my true intentions.

Turns out being high-functioning and being settled inside yourself are two completely different things, they might not always exist in the same person and that wasn’t something people talked about.

That's why once I learned how to have both, I made it my mission to help people understand their own patterns - because I know exactly what it's like to be powerful everywhere except the one place that matters most - inside yourself.

That's what my clients come to me for and if that's you, start with the quiz. Take it and send me your result.

If you've already taken it, today, an improved version is live, check it out. Link in the comments.

When dealing with people, what throws you off the fastest:
Silence?
Distance?
Mixed signals?
Feeling smothered?

Drop your answer in one word.
Or DM if you are feeling a bit vulnerable.

There's no wrong answer here - whatever you pick points straight at your pattern and I know what to do with those patterns.

Silence can make one person spiral and barely bothers another.

Being doted on makes one person want to run and makes another feel safe and loved.

Take my quiz to understand what causes the way you respond.

My clients come to me to become more secure - so if you’d like to show up healthier and happier reach out for next steps.

Quiz link in the comments.

You can be surrounded by people who love you and still feel weirdly unsafe in it.

Not alone. Not abandoned.
Not sitting by the phone waiting for someone to call.

Loved. And still insecure or unfulfilled.

Still a little on edge. Still scanning.
Still waiting for the other shoe to drop even when there's no shoe coming.

That gap - between BEING loved and actually FEELING it - confuses so many individuals.

Because on paper it should feel good, and it just… doesn't.

That's usually not a love problem.

It's a "my body never learned how to trust it" thing.

You can't logic your way out of that.

You have to understand what's underneath it first.

My Connection Quiz is where that starts.

Take it if you want to understand why love can be right there and still not feel safe.

Link to the quiz in the comments.

You can run a company, a household and you do it with ease. Handle a hard week.

Keep the whole thing moving when everyone else is falling apart.
And then someone you love sends a three-word text and you're done for the day.

Makes no sense on paper, does it.
You're the capable one.
You solve things.

You carry what other people wouldn't.
You walk into a room and can fix a problem before anyone else notices there is one.

But he goes a little quiet.
Or the reply comes back short.
Or the tone shifts half a degree.

And suddenly your whole body is in it.
Replaying. Guessing. Panicking.

Reading the text again like it's going to say something different this time.

That's not you being weak.

That's your nervous system getting hijacked by the one thing that always mattered most - connection.

I made a Connection Quiz for exactly this woman.

The one who can handle EVERYTHING… except how much relationships still get to her.

Take it and send me your result. Link in the comments

You know what happens when you can finally say what you need... without it getting all dramatic?
You get more of what you want.

That's what a three women just signed up for.
Awaken, Align & Ascend.

And I'm proud of the group that raised their hand for it!

Here's what most of them have been experiencing for years.
Something bugs them - the little comment, the plan that got changed on them again, the help they needed that no one noticed...

But they said nothing.

And the next time, they say nothing again.

Until one random day it all comes out over something small
And now you feel like you look crazy for blowing that one little thing out of proportion.

You aren't crazy - it's that you were never clear on what you actually needed.

So you couldn't say it. And when you can't say it, the people who love you are left guessing - and they guess wrong.

Then you're hurt they got it wrong when you never told them what right looked like.

Not really fair to them when you think about it.
You've done this. I've done this.

That's what we change.

Get clear on the needs, learn how to ask for them to be met and how to deal with it when they aren't.

No more resentment stacking up.
No more hoping they'll finally read your mind.

Just the relationships you actually wanted, with the people you already love.

To the women who said yes - I'm so glad you're here.
This is going to be SO good.

And if you're reading this thinking "yep, that's me" - message me.

If you had to pick a person to marry but only 3 people to choose from and could only ask 5 questions, what would you ask?

Over a decade ago I was still trying to have a baby.

I was in therapy for the emotionally abusive relationship and my therapist kept pleading with me. Almost begging.

"Please. Do not have a baby with this man. You will be tied to him, connected to him, for the rest of your life. Do not do this."

I had no intention of leaving him.

I would have had that baby.

Thank GOD, the universe said absolutely not, woman.

I share this so it is understood, when someone comes to me and struggles to change/see/stop/holdboundaries/heal/leave - I'm not judging her from some "what's wrong with you?" perspective.

I remember what it feels like to want the wrong thing with your whole body and think somehow it would end up right.

And I know how confusing it is when you are the woman who runs circles around everyone in life in regard to your business, career and aspirations... Its confusing AF.

I understand how hard this work is.

But I also KNOW - when you want something other than what you have, it takes work. And you have to do it.

It can't happen overnight or from someone else's magic wand, but it will NEVER happen if you don't do the work.

I refined a process though because everyone wants to see progress quickly. Most of my clients say they see how they are behaving differently within weeks.

And the seeds have only just been planted 🌿

Start with me by Monday and it is 50% OFF.
DM for more info.

Something for the women who hit roadblocks in their healing...

Someone may be guiding you.

But YOU control whether you heal or not.

There isn't always a magic moment - some breakthrough so powerful it works like Tetris, where all the pieces finally drop into place and the whole mess just... disappears.

You can only START to truly heal when you're ready to stop trying to make the person who hurt you see how much they damaged you.

Because usually underneath the pain is the desire for them to get it. To feel guilty. To be remorseful.

You want the apology. But do you really think it'll make the pain go away? The memories, the triggers. Doubtful.

And look, I know - when you're stuck in the pain, replaying it - "Look what happened to me. Look what they did. They ruined my life" - you're not staying there because you want to.

Unconsciously, it's because it still gets you the thing.

The acknowledgment. The tenderness. Even if only from yourself.

Here's the part underneath all of it.

If you're struggling to heal, it's usually because you can't validate yourself or meet your own needs.

So the subconscious mind is trying to do it for you.

Only it chooses the fastest way, NOT the healthiest way.

Once your needs being met isn't reliant on others, the healing begins.

And that's what my clients come to me to help them with.

I'll share a link in the comments for a new program I'm offering. It's over $1,000 OFF until Monday the 31st.

If you are anything like me, when you were young, you just understood things a little more than the other kids did.

You saw it, knew it, felt it.

You weren't necessarily smarter than them in school.
But you could be, anytime you wanted.

You'd slide from A's and B's down to C's and D's, D's and F's, and then the second it looked like you might actually not pass, you'd shoot right back up to all A+ every class - Maybe that part was just me 🤣

You were NEVER not capable.

But maybe you were bored and needed things to have more meaning.

Anything you cared about, you could do.

And you didn't just do it, you were the best at it!
And that just kept going your whole life.

But here's the thing.
You never felt like the best - maybe for a moment - occassionally, but just a quick fleeting moment.

What you didn't see was the real reason why you kept going so hard and kept raising the bar on yourself.

I'll tell you why.

Deep, deep down, you were hoping it would finally get you the love.

The devotion.

Somebody who'd pour into you with the same intensity you poured into everything you touched.

Not just romantically either.. friends, family, at work.

You just wanted someone to give it back the same way you give.

And now, you've achieved just about everything.
But do you still feel like you've achieved nothing?

I ask because I know that void.
I lived in it for years, chasing it through every way I could. Business, hobbies, friendships, in every relationship I had ever been in.

And what I found on the other side of my own pain is the thing I want for you.

I spent almost two decades perfecting how to help change this void, the loneliness and create real connection, soul level fulfillment.

No more silence at the dinner table or putting ANYthing on the TV just to avoid the awkward emptiness when you are with the people you should be closest too.

No more taking charge to make everyone else's life easier - because you'll finally understand you were only doing it so they'd think they need you.

Once you work with me, you won't keep running the same void filling routine.

You'll do less. Demand more.

And people will actually start seeing and treating you the way you always wished they would.

If youve ever thought things like I wish:
I felt more Peace.
Had better Boundaries.
Have more Self- Respect.
Had people in my life who Reciprocate the same effort.
There was more Joy in accomplishments.

Or I'm tired of taking charge or being the one in control of everything.

I get it and there is another way.

And it doesnt push anyone out of your life or turn you into some harsh b***h either.

If fact, you become more attractive, fun, sexy and emotionally consistent so people gravitate toward you even more.

And all you need is three months - meeting with me once a week - in person or virtual. DM for potential next steps.